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Should I ask him up here?

494 replies

sourdrawers · 17/05/2015 12:06

Look I know it's Sunday and the sun is shining.. But pleease I need some encouragement . I posted my story on 'what's the most embarrassing thing that's happened to you?' thread yesterday and feel it's time to look wider for help.

Cutting long story short - bloke I fancy lives in garden flat below me. Pretty sure he's single, another neighbour reckons so too. Me, hung washing out on my balcony (mostly undies), windy day, they all flew off and landed in his garden downstairs. I plucked up the nerve to go down there ask him if I could get them, he agreed very nicely offered to help. I refused it and sprinted through his place, to garden, picked, (I thought), all my washing up and was leaving hurriedly, managed to catch bra strap in door handle, they all fell on his floor and I banged head on his living room door. I gathered up all items again and ran home burning with embarrassment.

Day later, knock on door, I answered in old jogging bottoms, filthy old vest, and cat shit, litter tray shovel in my hand. It was him, with a pair of my huge, grey baggies in his hand. He gave them (lovely smile) to me, and made a witty remark. Told me his name and that he's a plumber etc.. I, through half-opened front door , snatched nix off him, in tears of embarrassment. He left saying if he found anymore he'd bring them back..

Anyhow couple of days on and I'm calm and looking incredibly gorgeous, his car is downstairs and I have leaking tap. Should I ask him up here???? If so, how?? WTF do I say??

OP posts:
Wristy · 21/05/2015 17:30

I've just read your thread and you sound fucking awesome, go you!! It's an absolute no brainier that he wants to spend more time with you. Have loads of fun! Xx

sourdrawers · 21/05/2015 17:33

Awww thats so kind Wristy. I have a prob' with compliments normally but not that one and not today!!!

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ItsRainingInBaltimore · 21/05/2015 17:33
crje · 21/05/2015 17:35

Go for it
I'm so pleased and well jealous

letscookbreakfast · 21/05/2015 17:41

I'm chuffed for you OP, this thread has made me smile.

yougotafriend · 21/05/2015 17:51

I'd say too soon for a night away.... Or rather too soon for the added extras of no make up, getting ready & toilet habits...!!!

JugglingLife · 21/05/2015 17:57

Bloody, frigging hell on a hand basket, why did I keep ignoring this thread?! Sour you lucky dirty cow, well done you! shameless placemarking for updates

JugglingLife · 21/05/2015 18:00

Is it too soon? I don't think so, you only live once and it's been a while, no? I say go for it, I'm sure plumbers aren't remotely bothered about toilet habits.

Waltermittythesequel · 21/05/2015 18:11

It's too soon because I watch Criminal Minds so I know things.

Plus, would it not be weird for your dd sitting in his flat?? Or did I read that wrong?

heylilbunny · 21/05/2015 18:13

Seems a bit bizarre to be worried about makeup and loo habits when she's already shagged him 3 times! That ship has sailed (ooo pun!)

LineRunner · 21/05/2015 18:18

I reckon your DD should meet him at the weekend and be allowed to make judgements. Smile Also it is essential to see how a man reacts to being faced with the spectacle of Eurovision for three hours. It reveals a lot, I'm telling you.

sourdrawers · 21/05/2015 18:25

Bollocks to toilet habits. If he wants me, he'll have to have me looking rank in the morning / fart noises and all. I've changed my tune eh?

I like your angle Juggling .. If he still wants to Saturday that is! Look I'm sorry to get back to undies again but I'm thinking of buying something - nice! His bank holiday treat. Any suggestions? Nothing too slutty, racy just, y'know tasteful yet safely daring.

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EveryFrickingNameIsTaken · 21/05/2015 18:29

I wouldn't have thought it's too soon. Not if you are both comfortable enough with each other which you seem to be.

What I want to know is, how did he lose a finger?

DP was wondering why I was chuckling away at my phone. He stole it after sitting on my head and read the thread. He also applauds your bravery and taking the initiative Grin.

Maryz · 21/05/2015 18:33

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EveryFrickingNameIsTaken · 21/05/2015 18:33

Undies are what started it, it's only fair that they play a continuing role! I reckon something black (apparently you can never go wrong with black), doesn't necessarily mean it has to be racy, whatever you'd be comfortable in

spad · 21/05/2015 18:44

I don't think it is too soon to go away for the weekend but personally I wouldn't let my dc use his flat because I'm neurotic and would worry that something random would happen and my dc would be responsible.

Am so pleased for you. You both sound lovely!

Wristy · 21/05/2015 18:49

Ooh undies, I have few Prima Donna sets and I love them.

A bit pricey for me, but most of their styles are lovely and classy. They're popular with my DH too Wink xx

Trills · 21/05/2015 20:59

If I were reading this (having pad 99p for it on Kindle), I would be telling the herione that things are moving too fast.

I'd say that it IS too soon for a weekend break together.

Especially since he lives downstairs.

If things go wrong, he's RIGHT THERE. So be careful and get to know him a bit better first.

Or else you could end up running past his door on tiptoes, hoping he doesn't hear you.

Or having him open the front door to any other callers, telling them that you're not in and don't want to see them.

spad · 21/05/2015 21:35

Okay, maybe Trills has a fair point. Or, maybe not?

Maybe a night away?

Goodbetterbest · 21/05/2015 21:49

I proper love you sour. I went to a hotel with my lover on our second date (pre-arranged, not spontaneous). For a couple of oldies we probably put the youngsters to shame. Grin

You go and when you do, go WILD! Grin

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 21/05/2015 21:58

probably be pulled apart for this now and it brings me no pleasure nor do I wish to piss on your parade but with the greatest respect you're a tad big long in the tooth to be bragging about having sex aren't you op.
Are you 18 or 48. Glad things are going well though. But shagging ain't no big accomplishment or achievement.
I do it. You do it. Birds do it bees do it.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 21/05/2015 21:59

Posted too soon. We all do it.

toffeeboffin · 21/05/2015 22:18

Oh for god's sake lighthouse, get a life.

Sour is having fun, just roll with it!

Goodbetterbest · 21/05/2015 22:19

Totally disagree. It's a massive accomplishment when you don't take it for granted.

JugglingLife · 21/05/2015 22:20

There's something in the air tonight on mn toffee, I think lighthouse might have caught it. Did you make a decision sour?