The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Shaping Up For A Super, Sober Summer!

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Hey, I'm Mouse

This is 'Gerald', our trustworthy, non judgemental Bus, full of a variety of posters who have travelled long and far, or even just joined us a few stops ago.

This is a place where you can be who YOU want to be. 24/7, 365. This lovely place is just like your best friend, there's no slagging off, no judging, just us.

Drinking or not, embarrassed, fed up of the way things are, or just lonely of living the way drinking makes you do, come and take a peek and see what you think.....

THIS THE LAST THREAD WE HAD

AND THIS IS WHERE THE BUS WAS BUILT, WHERE IT ALL BEGAN

We can't wait to meet you, we won't bite! Well, unless you ask very nicely.

Take good care until we see you. :) xx

Good morning, every one!

How could I miss last night! Ma, you and your soldiers!

Hope Good to hear you're doing ok, babes. Keep smiling!

spanna Thank you, darling babe. I do need some cuddles. Feeling a little blue.

Marfisa Thank you. I feel a little helpless because I want to support her but not drink with her every time. I have to find a way to do that.

Waves to all the missing babes and lurkers! Hope you're ok, if not fab!

xxx

And of course hello to everyone on the bus!

spanna Thanks for that.

I've got home from work and started cooking tea for the ds's. I can feel the wine 0 clock feeling creeping up on me, fuck!

Once we've eaten I'm fine and the feelings gone.

Hello babes, and welcome to classy - good to have you with us on the journey.

I've been reading those awful threads about the woman who found out her husband was cheating. Terrible, but I also find that some of the posts make me a bit or I know that they are intended to be supportive however some of them are heaping shock and horror on an already shocked and horrified poster. One of the things I love, love, love about these threads is that even when one of us posts something horrific the rest of us take it in our stride and add non-judgemental and unconditional support - we don't seem to load our own emotions and prejudices on top of whatever the other poster is feeling (or at least that is how it seems to me). In the words of mn..... "I luffs you all."

venus did you see that the OP with the cheating H who shagged the woman at her brother's house is a troll?, HQ have banned that person.

Yes, I just saw that classy it beggars belief that someone would do that....

Anyway, that is why I prefer to stick with the familiar and safe ground of a bunch of mad and drinking / former drinking / stopping drinking women on here

That was a troll? The sordid affair poster? I thought that was a real thread!

Workshop went very well. A most pleasant afternoon

ma are you too tired to post a smile?

Yes. mnhq posted a message, oh and now of course everyone is posting to say that they KNEW it was a troll, they just knew it It is sad 'cos it diverted a lot of response from other genuine threads, and it drew in people who have recently gone through some kind of similar trauma. Sick, sick, sick.

Anyway - stick with @Gerald the fantasy bus, Barry the imaginary squid, the terrible fearsome tale of baby-doll. Ay least we're all real....

at Venus.

A quick wave to brave babes old and new from a old poster. Very old LOL.
I have been sober about 6 weeks now. Bit of a record for me.
Luffs you all xx

RURAL!!!!! how are you my man? 6 weeks? 6 fecking weeks??? Have you killed wankbadger? Must introduce you to hope she is another of the "one day" mantra. Good to see you again my friend.

Right, managed to make tea and not be lulled into pouring a glass of wine as I cooked.

I've eaten earlier than usual and the craving has gone,I think it'll be the weekend that will prove the harder test but getting to Friday without a drink will be an achievement in itself, I can't remember the last Thursday /Friday evening I haven't held a glass of wine .

Evening, tis me, Mouse

Hello to all of the NEW BABES or those who have come back, it's great to see you LWB as I remember you and everyone else who remembers me :)

venus - I agree absolutely with what you say about the threads in relationships and then there is this wonderful bus. It's like when you've been out shopping for essentials, in the freezing, driving rain, you're soaked to the bones, aching, everything hurts, even walking makes you want to cry and then you get home.

Home to a warm, huge fluffy bath sheet, giant comfy chair, a bowl of never ending soup and crusty bread, a fleecy blanket to wrap up in, dim reading lamps all around the room and a log fire glowing next to your chair.

That's my Bus :) xxx

Welcome still

hands, huge well done to you!

Apologies for not NCing properly, I'm beyond shattered. DD has an ear infection and has 4 teeth coming through.

I'm on Day 2. Again. However, as with previous restarts, I've learned something from my trip in the sidecar. This time it was that it's stupid to drink because I feel socially obliged to. I'll end up drinking too much even when I'm not enjoying it.

G'night all. Love, hugs and cups of tea.

classic two things that stick strong with me - the first is that I always imagined that the longing for drink was like hunger (or thirst) and that it would get worse and worse and worse, the longer that it went on. IN fact I have found that it is a temporary madness, and if I could somehow get beyond the moment, it would subside and leave me wondering what the fuck all that desperate longing had been about..... Part of that (for me) was understanding that I'd used a drink as the answer to every need: hunger, anger, loneliness, tiredness (HALT) - whatever I felt physically or emotionally, my default tactic was to pour some wine. So try this....

When you next feel desperate for a drink try to satisfy other possible cravings - peanut butter on toast for hunger, punching some pillows or going for an angry run, call a friend or send an email or write to an elderly aunt (for loneliness), and for tiredness - well put our feet up with w good book, or snuggle in bed. If you do all of those consecutively, I can almost guarantee that by the end of it you will have a full tummy, you'll feel less angry, you'll feel god for having contacted a friend or acquaintance and you'll probably be tucked up in bed and almost asleep. If not, at least you'll have taken up a bit of time, and I do guarantee that you'll feel substantially less in need of a drink than before.

And the other thing is DO NOT PROJECT... no need to look into the future and worry about whether you'll want a drink next Christmas, or on your 80th birthday, or on Friday afternoon when the sun is shining.... or even in 15 minutes time once the kids have gone to bed. Deal only with NOW. At this moment, at this very moment in time, can you drink juice or water or tea or take up knitting or masturbate or make a loaf of bread or learn Spanish. It doesn't matter what it is - occupy your hands, your brain, your emotions. You'll be fine x

mousey mouse lovely to see you xx

Okay....

Remember I said I needed some help or wanted to post about something that I wasn't sure should go on this thread?

Well, is anyone on here having issues with DLA/PIP renewal?

I know that there is a special section in SN for this and I'm going to post to ask some more detailed questions but I'm in tears even posting this.

Is anyone in the know about this sort of thing? How best to appeal a reviewed decision, after it's overturned?

We're taking it to tribunal/second stage appeal.

Anyone legal?

PLEASE PM ME IF YOU CAN HELP!

Please xxx

mouse sorry, can't help with that one. Hope someone else can

Hugs to Mouse. So sorry, not something I know anything about, but I so hope someone else knows how to help.

Sorry, Mouse, hope a knowledgable babe will help soon, Darling.

venus OMfG about that thread! I just spent the whole time catching up and its a bloody troll! But I must say I did continue reading because some of the rosts after the revelation are hilarious!
Why on earth would someone do something like that?!
Am proud to have reached bedtime without a drink.
Having an AF beer and its lovely.

Welcome Classy and welcome back Rural!

Sleep tight, Babes!
xxx

Had a cup of tea , am watching Uncle Buck and feel lovely and clear headed.

Night all, thank you for the support.

Sorry mouse I hope someone comes along soon with advice

Hi babes,

Just wanted to give a huge big hug to everyone, I've lost 3 mega posts NC'ing everyone so I'm in a huff with my phone.

I will try again tomorrow but I'm still sober, a bit fed up with the monotony of my life but holding my own ODAAT. I'm reading avidly about all your successes and struggles and I wish good things for all of you every, single day xxxxx

Evening ladies. Day 9 today. I'll be on double figures tomorrow! Classy I'm exactly the same - the cravings are at their worst leading up to tea time and particularly when I'm preparing the meal but once we've eaten they start to go. Only pepsi max seems to help keep the cravings at bay (I only have one can a day - ok 2 at weekends! As unhealthy as pepsi is, I figure it's better than a bottle and a half of wine every night!!)

Mouse really sorry I can't help. Have you had any luck on the SN thread? Hope you get it sorted soon .

Night night babes. Hope you're all ok xx

Great to hear you're still sober "Baby* xx