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my rights regarding the house and kids

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captainBeaky · 11/05/2015 16:51

Please advise me if you can! My partner and I have recently split up (my decision after many unhappy years). He can afford to buy me out of the house, but I can't afford to buy him out, both names are on the mortgage. If he bought me out I would probably get somewhere between £50/£60,000. I'm worried that if I accept this, I won't be able to claim any benefits, and I certainly cannot afford a new mortgage on my own. I want to stay in the family home as I am the main carer of our children (he works away between 1 and 3 nights per week). I am also around for all school holidays. Can he force a sell of the property? Can he make me leave? I cannot afford the mortgage and bills on my own. What can I do? Please help if you have any experience of this. Thanks in advance.

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shirleybasseyslovechild · 12/05/2015 01:33

please don't think you are screwed.
deciding to leave a relationship,is very very hard. you've done that bit.
The practicalities may take a while.
why not sell up and rent ? live close to your ex, 50:50 childcare ?

eeyoreandpoohbear · 12/05/2015 07:29

I don't know if it will help but I had to leave our home in the end, I left with three dcs and he continues to live in house. I got my small share(long story but less than the figure you mentioned) I get child tax credit and child benefit, maintenance from him and some pennies from my small part time job. The lump sum I got pays my rent each month and bought our essentials such as washing machine,dryer etc. it's not easy but I am happy - look at is a new start:) hope that helps

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