Facebook feed of new guy. Thoughts?

[GrumpleMe]

Just wondering what others would make of this:

Been with new guy for 5 months. Went to his place to watch something with his family. During a break, he was scrolling through his FB. Pic after pic after pic was semi naked models, bikini models, 'fitness' models etc. Semi-clad boobs and asses galore. They would have made up 9 out of 10 of the posts on his feed.

Would this bother you?

But you do sound cross though johnFarleysRuskin

You sound slightly hysterical Joni

I think that describing people's opinions as 'slightly hysterical' is bound to piss people off, joni. It sounds really belittling. It pisses me off, actually.

Nothing could be further from the truth JohnFarleysRuskin but nevertheless,

I agree July. It's the classic (sexist) put-down.

I'm not sexist. I just slightly disagree with you. I'd use the same language towards a man.
Hope that clears things up

And I bet many of your best friends are women, too, eh, joni? cause you understaaand 'em, yeah?

Er, this is getting a bit odd now.
I am happy to confirm that I am (a) a woman and (b) blessed with many female friends

Glad to hear it, joni.

It's just that it's also really odd, and quite unsettling - although, sadly, not that uncommon - hearing women denigrating other women by describing them or their opinions as 'hysterical'. And FWIW, I don't believe that you do in fact use 'hysterical' to describe men's opinions.

Believe what you want July but I live in a family of males and I often have to tell them off for being hysterical, especially ds2.

You don't have to tell anyone off for being 'hysterical', joni. Ever. There are always, always more appropriate words to use.

I know what you mean op. A male friend added me on Twitter ages ago and looking at who he was following (to see if there was anyone worth adding), saw it was full of page three and glamour/porn models I'd never heard of. So not famous, people he must have sought out to add.

It really did make me view him in a different light. Not that he appreciated an attractive female, just that it seemed really immature to me. Like who a 15 year old boy would be following coz he's seen them on Babestation or something.

Like if I discovered someone collected 'nuts', or 'zoo'.

It made me cringe.

And he was just a friend not a partner!

Like another poster said, if I added a female friend and her feed was full of z list men with their dicks out I would be cringing too!!

Thanks for the parenting tip July

You're more than welcome, joni, although actually my comment had to do with use of language more widely.

Whether it's a parenting tip or advise for general use, I am extremely grateful July. Can I come to you in the future about whether I should use any other words in general conversation too?

So it's 'hysterical' to suggest a woman dump a man she's been with for a mere five months, for displaying a trait she doesn't like...?

I'd say it's actually a bit needy and clingy and to encourage her to look past it, just so long as she keeps the man and the relationship.

You can ditch a man (especially a man you've only been seeing for 5 months) for absolutely any reason or whim - or no reason at all - if you want to.

This is 2015. You don't have to 'stand by your man'. Of 5 measly months.

Where did I say stand by your man? I don't mind people having a pop at me. I can stand my ground, but get you facts straight

You've got the whole of MN to help you with that, joni.

I can't guarantee that I'll always be here for you, I'm afraid, but I'm sure other MNers will be happy to help you improve your vocabulary, and perhaps even develop more sophisticated, incisive opinions.

Oh, wait, FeijoaSundae is here to help already!

So kind July...so kind...

You might not have come out and said it, but by coming out and saying that people are being 'hysterical'(!) for suggesting the OP dump her boyfriend of 5 months for displaying a characteristic she finds very off-putting ... you have most certainly implied it.

HTH :)

Well at least there's an acknowledgement of a misquote.
It's also been implied I am the most stupid person on mumsnet (that may be true I suppose), just because I won't be intimidated by two, now three other posters. All because I said something they don't agree with. Oh, and it's also been assumed that I'm a man, that I don't understand women and most bizarrely I should never ever use a particular word in general conversation. Not a rude or offensive word either! I could go on...
It's a good job I really don't give a shit

Who's asking you to be intimidated?!

People (more than 1, as it happens) are just disagreeing with your rather odd take on the situation, that's all.

I'm a female and my page is full of the same things.

I follow a lot of fitness pages which I use to influence my gym sessions. I also do pole fitness so lots of pictures of ladies with legs spread on my newsfeed.

My DP will look at them with me and admire for their physical strength as opposed to anything sexy.

Does he have a keen interest in working out?