Facebook feed of new guy. Thoughts?

[GrumpleMe]

Just wondering what others would make of this:

Been with new guy for 5 months. Went to his place to watch something with his family. During a break, he was scrolling through his FB. Pic after pic after pic was semi naked models, bikini models, 'fitness' models etc. Semi-clad boobs and asses galore. They would have made up 9 out of 10 of the posts on his feed.

Would this bother you?

You went and watched TV with his family? Who are his family? He is 45.

That definitely doesn't sound like the Facebook feed of someone I woudl want to be with..

Sounds like a sarcastic response. But, that you can end it so easily (which is a good thing!) after 5 months suggests you might have been not too involved/close anyway?

I'd be worried if someone judged me by my news feed. My friends post stuff I never would. I think you are overreacting a bit.

but doesn't sound like he is the man for you.

Ew. Yes that would definitely bother me.

Lailoo - with his parents/uncle/kids. It was a sport event on TV that we were all interested in.

SwedishEdith - you might be right there. I was taking things slowly. Mind you, he's not exactly making it hard to detach now.

July
Finding it naff and unattractive is not an overreaction, but calling the man a 'twat' and urging the OP to lbt without any further information is, in my opinion, slightly hysterical.

Oh yes calling a man a twat really is a sign that a womans emotions are "slightly" out of control.

Right up until your post with his text this morning I was erring on the side of, ah sure it's only facebook and a lot of people have a lot of shite on their feed.

BUT that text to you this morning confirms he's an arse. Bad bad OP for trying to ruin his "fun". He's trying to put you in the no fun brigade whereas he's Mr. sad wanker Fun Guy.

Ignore him OP, your bullshit radar is working well.

I think it is JohnFarleysRuskin

45 years old. Oh dear God. And the joke about the Buddhist retreat. Oh ha ha fucking ha.

Bullet dodged.

joni I think 'LTB' is now used in a kind of tongue in cheek way on MN. (Perhaps it should be followed by just to avoid confusion. )
... which is not to say that 'LTB' isn't in fact intended as advice to OP to fuck him off...

Similarly, I believe that use of the word 'twat' is now somewhat common currency for MNers, rather than an indication of genuine, heartfelt pearl-clutching.

Fair comment July but I think posters deserve something a little more nuanced in terms of advice than 'he's obviously a twat' and Ltb.

Just my opinion.

Fair comment also joni

However, the only information that we have about 'new guy' does indicate that he's a bit of a tosser, no?

It's an indication i suppose but I wouldn't judge somebody on one aspect of their personality, unless of course it's illegal or completely immortral which I don't think this is. that's the point I was trying to make

And now im wondering whats on jonis newsfeed...

Yet you judge people with different opinions to you as slightly hysterical, funny that, Joni.

I'm not on Facebook. Don't have the time or the inclination

I'm commenting on their responses, not calling them twats JohnFarkeysRuskin

Question: Would you rather be described as 'slightly hysterical' (or have your opinions described as such), or be described as 'a bit of twat'?

Worth a quick straw poll/thread?

Ok, it's 'slightly' hysterical to call a man a twat. Got it now.

It's interesting how cross some people get about a dissenting viewpoint.

Ok, it's 'slightly' hysterical to call a man a twat. Got it now.

Please don't imagine that you got that from me, John.

I wrote that post because I really don't think it's any less 'extreme' or potentially offensive to describe someone's opinions as 'slightly hysterical' than it is to call them a twat.

I didn't July!

So people were slightly hysterical, now they are also cross. Okay.