What did you manage to tell the counsellor? If at all possible try to write a sort of potted history of what has happened and the rough dates, and give a copy to the counsellor. This will stop you having to rehash everything each time.
For what its worth finding a good counsellor is the hardest bit. You dont want someone who just lets you talk - you want someone who makes you work on yourself actively, gives you plenty of reading to do. Basically someone who challenges you a bit (at the very least).
Then you might want to think about where you would like to end up emotionally and physically. So for example, where would you like to be living, working etc. The most important thing in many ways is that you need to learn (or relearn) to be ok by yourself, not validated on invalidated by other people.
Being a single parent (if that's what you decide to do) isn't a walk in the park, obviously, but it is fine. For me it was 90% bloody brilliant, and 10% torture. But doing it alone was 100x better than being a parent and dealing with my exh's abuse. And the abuse really got going for me when I found out I was pregnant.
As soon as my ex was out of the house on a permanent basis and my friends knew it, so many of them appeared again. It was fab to be honest.