Do you keep "Mrs" after a divorce

[BravingSpring]

I have no intention of changing my surname, I don't want a different name to DD, but I keep the Mrs?

This just came into my head earlier when I was asked when ordering something, I'm not divorced yet but will be eventually.

You can do what you prefer - titles have no legal status.

People may assume that you are married though.

Traditionally, yes.

Nowadays, 'Ms' would work.

'Miss' would be weird, though.

I suppose it would be weird to be called Miss at my age and after so many years of marriage, but then Mrs won't be accurate.

Maybe I'll have to see how it feels.

Anything that was already in my name before the divorce is still Mrs because i couldn't be arsed to change it but if I am ever asked for a title I say Ms now because both Mrs and Miss seem wrong

I meant 'Miss' plus married name + bit odd.

Try the options out loud and written down

Become a vicar or a doctor and change your title!!!

This is not the reason I did a PhD, oh no

I have maiden name and Ms.

I don't want his name.

It's different to dc, but best I could do

I'd hate to have exh name. Yuk.

= a bit odd

there are no laws about titles - you can call yourself Miss, Mrs or Ms no matter what your marital status. Nothing inaccurate about Mrs after divorce.

I'm odd! Have my married name plus Miss.

I'm the same as MadameJosephine. Anything that was in Mrs before the divorce, bank accounts etc has stayed in Mrs, but all new stuff is done in Ms. I'm not over the moon about keeping his name, tbh, but I think while my kids are still fairly little, I'll keep it the same as them. Have heard horror stories of problems at airports, etc. so I'll consider changing it back to my maiden name when they're older and don't go on holiday with Mum anymore

I couldn't wait to get rid of ex's name. People said, oh don't you want the same name as your children? But it's never been an issue whatsoever. The children accept it, their schools, etc.

I am Ms although occasionally if Ms is not an option eg on a form, I will call myself Miss.

I've had this name too long now to change it, and it would cause confusion at work.

Also, like I said it's important to me to have the same name as dd.

I suppose I'll have to see how I feel once I've got through the divorce (early days yet). A colleague considered changing her name back to her maiden name after her ex married again, I can see how that would make a difference.

I imagine I'll answer to Mrs out of habit for a good while.

Choose what you like!

I stayed Miss Maiden name so no change when I divorced. Don't care in the slightest that my child has a different name.

Oops! Sorry Jean

My friends are trying to find a new name for me after my divorce comes through as I don't want this one, but don't want my maiden name either as my df was abusive, it's tricky, I might start a thread asking for suggestions, but I do like the idea that I can be who I want to be.

It's very old fashioned now but a married woman is addressed as:

Mrs John Smith

A divorced woman is addressed as Mrs Jane Smith.

A divorced woman drops the use of her husband's first name in her title and used her own first name instead.

I am married therefore I am Mrs Anthony (not really) BeaufortBell; if I were divorced I'd be Mrs Claire BeaufortBelle.

Simples according to the law of Debretts.

Unspeakably archaic - all that Debretts crap.

My husband and I share a surname. My maiden name was just awful - the bane of my life; his is lovely so we chose his.

No way would I put up with anyone addressing me as Mrs hisname surname. Does that really ever happen nowadays?

Couple of invitations on my mantelpiece seem to think it does! One of my colleagues is getting married in a few months, she's 30 and is looking forward to being called Mrs hisname surname.

Not saying it's what everyone wants but it really still does happen.

Has anyone thought about changing the dc surnames? My sil did this after her divorce, and I'm thinking of doing it too - don't know if I need ex-hs permission though

Also - mega weird I end up being called Mrs maiden name - which is like I married my dad or brother!

My mum is stil Mrs Firstmarriedsurname, even though she is divorced from first husband and is married to her second husband.

I can't believe that anyone would change the DCs surnames. That seems totally wrong.

People feel the need to abide by Debrett's in this day and age? How sad.

Debrett's advice is actually a lot more complex than 'you must follow the old fashioned conventions'. Basically do what you want if you are the divorcee and don't assume anything if you are addressing a divorcee who changed their name on marriage, ask them what they want to be called.

I know a few women who've remarried or married someone who isn't the DC's father and they've hyphenated their new name to include the name that's the same as their dc (whether that's their maiden name or their first husband's name) with their new husband's name.

So

Mrs Jane Smith and daughter Miss Sally Smith become

Mrs Jane Smith-Lane and Miss Sally Smith.

Not that I anticipate marrying again.

I'm fairly old fashioned in these things and wouldn't want a different name to DD, and wouldn't want to go back to my maiden name for reasons I won't go into.

It was just of question of whether to continue to use Mrs or whether the normal form is to change to Miss and it appears there's no normal form and I can do whatever I like. I'll stick to Mrs for now as that's accurate and see how I feel post divorce.