Why does my SIL never like my things on Facebook? (petty)

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I know this is very silly, but for some reason it annoys me a lot. I am not one to put loads of showoffy pics on Facebook, but every now and then will put on a pic of the family if we have done something special or if it's a birthday etc. I always like everything SIL puts on regardless of what it is just because she is my family and it's nice to see what they are up to. So why does she never like anything DH or I put on despite sometimes saying she saw the pics on Facebook and going on Facebook a lot so she will have seen our stuff. She always likes other family members stuff! We don't see much of her as she lives a few hours away and DH's family are not very close.

Op I have a sil like that too! The family arse kiss each other, lots of favouritism.

She either plain doesn't like me or is jealous of something, or both.

My solution is to ignore back and be dismissive in rl, same as she is with me.

TendonQueen To unfriend someone is to remove their from your friends list. If you're my "friend" you can see my profile and things that I post (unless I've changed my privacy settings on something). People who aren't your friends can typically see less about you.

To unfollow someone is when they're still in your friends list but they will no longer show up in your "feed" or "home page" which is a list of all the people on your FB list that you "follow" to see what they're up to.

If you unfriend someone they will obviously know (eventually when they try and look for you). If you unfollow someone they're unlikely to know unless they ask you if you saw someone or you are shocked about a big life event (like people I eventually unfriended who didn't realise I was married and living in another country... months later!).

OP I would unfollow her and not like any of her things. OR I'd post a FB status and change the setting so only she could see it and write something like "JUST CHECKING MY PRIVACY SETTINGS. LIKE OR COMMENT ON THIS STATUS IF YOU CAN SEE IT". Though a friend and I realised that you could see who it was restricted to, so I'd create a "group" and restrict the status to that group (and only put her in the group). She wouldn't know then that it's just her that sees it.

As an aside, I have "friends" who will like things and not comment. Drives me fricken bonkers. I have no issue with the liking, it's the lack of commenting because it's so much less personal. Means you just saw my post and moved on :S

I think I'm going to put her on a restricted list and unfollow her so she sort of realises I have blocked her. I just can't be doing with stupid passive aggresiveness like this. I joined Facebook primarily to keep in touch with friends who I don't see very often, not for some bitchy mind games. Thanks for all you advice. Enjoy the sunshine

sykadelic, thanks for explaining about unfollowing, didn't realise that was an option on FB and have just unfollowed some people I don't want to unfriend but don't want them clogging up my newsfeed, win win!

I have to confess to being someone who likes but doesn't always comment because I don't want my inbox clogged up with everyone else's comments too. I think there's a way to limit the notifications of other people's comments but I can't remember how to do that so safest sometimes is not to comment particularly if someone is very popular and has lots of friends commenting. Plus when in a hurry easier to just like and sometimes you just run out of different ways of saying cute, lovely, gorgeous etc etc

Perhaps she presses like other people's posts because they've moaned in the past that she's ignored them... a kind of snowball effect. She started liking the first moaner, so a second moaner noticed and commented, so she had to keep liking them, and so on... Perhaps she's relieved you don't need her likes. Surely by putting her on some restricted list, you are being passive aggressive yourself?

Cheese and pineapple - if you get a notification that someone has commented and you just ignore it, you don't get any more. You only get further notifications if you read what the comment was.

Ah ok, didn't know that either, am learning a lot today, thanks!

Another sad example of living your life by facebook rather than in person.

If the photos were that good and worth sharing with somebody then share them in real life and have a proper relationship in reality.

It's not respectful to share photos with a bunch of randoms on Facebook and expect your nearest and dearest to like the fact that you don't think a real life interaction with them is called for and all they get is the same level of non-interaction as everyone of your other facebook 'friends'.

This is nuts!

She might not like stuff.
Or she miht not know about the 'like' button.

Some people are just not tat into FB and just use it to browse photos.

Hereandtherex, she does know how to like photos, read the thread.

Joysmum, how is this another sad example of living your life by Facebook rather than in person?

And by share the photos in real life, what do you mean, print them out and take them over to everyone individually?

Who are the bunch of randoms you're referring to?

People love to just willfully miss the entire point, right?!

Feijoa, yes indeed! I'm feeling defensive about FB, as an expat I love how it keeps me up to date with friends near and far and just before coming on here, I had been both liking and commenting on some friends' photos of their trip to NZ. But I guess what I should be saying to them is get a life and get on a plane and bring round the photo album to share with me in person.