Why does my SIL never like my things on Facebook? (petty)

[loombandqueen]

I know this is very silly, but for some reason it annoys me a lot. I am not one to put loads of showoffy pics on Facebook, but every now and then will put on a pic of the family if we have done something special or if it's a birthday etc. I always like everything SIL puts on regardless of what it is just because she is my family and it's nice to see what they are up to. So why does she never like anything DH or I put on despite sometimes saying she saw the pics on Facebook and going on Facebook a lot so she will have seen our stuff. She always likes other family members stuff! We don't see much of her as she lives a few hours away and DH's family are not very close.

Just talk to her.

glittertits that's a bit mean. I for one do care about people I love and what they got up to last weekend

I never look at who likes my status. I post things I like, usually things that people will find funny or a nice photo. If I get less than 10 likes I assume I'm being ranty/boring mum/posting too much and wind it in!

I intended to express sheer disbelief that adults even register things such as social media. How arrogant and self centred do you have to be to be miffed that somebody isn't pandering to you online?

What cheeseandpineapple said. Don't like any more of her posts. You don't need to unfriend, unfollow or whatever, just serve back to her what she does with you. If she ever asks, you can say 'Oh, I thought we'd given up doing that'

BTW what is the difference between unfriending and unfollowing?

glittertits I guess it's human nature, it's the modern way of gaining social acceptance. I have a cousin on FB that I haven't seen since I was a baby, and I can see what she's up to. We don't speak, because we wouldn't have anything to say to each other, but it's nice for me to see that she is happy and healthy and doing well in her life, and hopefully likewise for her. I have a friend in Dubai and one in Australia, and most of my family live 3 hours north of me, so as you can probably imagine, something like Facebook is handy to the likes of someone like me.

Now, I know that this thread isn't about me, but you did say that you are expressing 'sheer disbelief that adults even register things such as social media.' I can imagine it would be kind of annoying when you are singularly being shunned like the OP says. People are still displaying human nature even if it is Facebook

I can understand hiding her or unfriending her if she was rude to you in real life but not actively appreciating you on Facebook?

I guess I could care less if people comment or like my posts.

I am guilty of liking people's post more then commenting in them. I get annoyed by the notifications that other people I've never met have also commented on X's photo, so it's easier just to like.

I think glittertits is actually bittertits, as I've only ever seen vitriolic posts from him/her. I wouldn't take what s/he says too much to heart.

Are you my SIL?

If I actually talk to someone in RL, and converse with them about what they have been doing (including stuff I only know about becasue I read it on fb) i don't bother liking.

Liking is for people I don't see and talk to, and so is the only communication I have with them. I will comment, too, if I feel so moved.

You really need to get a life. A real one, not a virtual one.

A living person who has a conversation with you can not be judged by whether or not they can be arsed to play stupid social media games and get involved in silly juvenile fb unfriending drama.

Really.

Grow up.

I rarely read my news feed on FB. I just look at my messages and notifications, so perhaps she hasn't seen it?

Thing is we don't really talk in RL. It seems to be just the way that side of the family are. We barely talk to MIL either. When we do SIL talks about how advanced her dds are and how great her life is. Then we hear the complete opposite from other people in the family so not sure about her really.

when you are singularly being shunned

How does not having your photos liked equate to shunned?!

She is only not liking my photos peppermint. She honestly likes and comments on everything put on by all other people we are both friends with. Just writing that makes it clear to me that she does not like me in RL

This just goes to prove you can't win. Some people want more likes and others want less because too many likes is insincere. I'm going to have to start a spreadsheet so I can record the number of likes I give. Just enough to acknowledge that the person exists but not so many that the person thinks I'm a stalker...

Arf at thehumanjam

thehumanjam you have it nailed there.

YY to a 'meh' button! I would use it ALL the time.

Yes. Never realised people might think I like their stuff too much!

Meh. There are people whp I have hidden on FB because I either (1) dont much like them (but cba with the drama if I "unfriend" them) (2) dont much like what they post/share or (3) dont much like how much they post.

I try and remember to go onto their page once in a while and "like" the odd thing so I can keep up to date with their life without being overwhelmed by it every time I go onFB.

It took my sil three weeks to comment/like/text/contact in ANY way after my baby was born ten weeks early. Yet now she's out of hospital she's ALL OVER my baby. Yes, it's petty but it really hurts.

You see, I'm with the OP on this one. I totally get it.

People that are saying 'oh she'll just be busy/hasn't seen the update/ just wants to chat to you in person about stuff' are very naive. When things like this happen, it's nearly always because someone is trying to prove a point/ have a subtle dig.

The fact that she may have 'hidden you from her newsfeed' isn't any better is it?! It's still not very nice that she's done that, especially if you're not too a prolific poster (I.e the 4 statuses a day 2, what you had for breakfast kind!)

The fact is, women DO use FB as a tool to be bitchy, to be excluding, to be conniving and to subtly shun people. I also do not like the people that are guaranteed to 'like' everything someone puts on FB, however, if you know something you've put on is (potentially) of particular interest to some one and you know they've seen it, it would probably sting after a while if they kept ignoring it, particularly when you know they're still running around liking and commenting on everyone else's stuff.

Someone started doing the exact same thing to me recently, I hid them from my newsfeed months ago now so I don't have to see what they post. I am soon going to put my statuses and posts so that they cannot see them too, I just have something coming up soon that I know will make them sick and I'd quite like to rub their face in it a bit before I say 'bye bye' the ultimate satisfaction would be for me to remove them as a friend entirely, however I do have to see them sometimes and can't be bothered with awkwardness so will leave it for now.

It's a sad world we live in, and a lot of us ARE too wrapped up in social media and let it rule our emotions too much, but you can't help how you feel and people being blotchy and nasty for no reason is never nice, even if it is just over social media.

Put yourself out of your misery OP and detach
There will be no family rift if you don't mention it and DH don't say out
Just quietly delete her, she does your head in, life's too short :)

Tendonqueen, I think un or de friending is FB lingo for disconnecting with someone on FB and unfollow is Instagram speak for basically the same thing but someone jump in if I've got this wrong.

OP, just in case it got lost up there STOP LIKING SIL's STUFF