Men's brains work completely different to women's don't they...

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DH offered to vacuum the cat hair off the sofa. Lovely. He couldn't find the attachments in the understairs black hole cupboard. I suggest he take the ones from the old one in the cellar. Our cellar has a very heavy trap door. Instead of bringing them all up, he brought each one up one at a time to show me. Meaning he hefted open the trap doors open then closed them 3 or 4 times. Eventually he brought up the (needed) upholstery bit. Process of elimination.

I did get a bit "oh, ffs!, are you having a fucking giraffe!"

I'm not a princessy high maintenance type, but have been ill for quite a while, so it probably wound me up more than it usually would have. I apologised for the shouting and arm waving.

Love the bloke really. Silly sausage.

It'll do him no harm, a bit of cardio opening the door a few extra times that is.

Post us a picture of his abs.

He clearly needs more vacuuming practice. This is not a male / female thing, this is a lack of experience thing.

No.

And you are an enabler.

This thread is hurting my head

Funny though, cos if you take the woman out the equation they do actually manage to cook and clean - so no I disagree also with your comment, silly sausage=chauvinistic git.

I'm kinda missing the chauvinism from the original post to be honest. Was he not just being a bit of a dipshit?

I (woman) am naturally/brought up to be a bit of a slob, nothing too serious but I'm lazy at tidying and bad at finishing off jobs- I'll load the dishwasher but leave a couple of spoons out and not bother wiping the worksurfaces. DP (male) is naturally/brought up to be very tidy and he always finishes cleaning jobs by doing every last little bit. He's not obsessive, just a clean tidy person.
When we moved in together i committed to make more effort to do things to his standard because long term mess upsets him, even though I don't notice so much and it doesn't bother him.
He gives me a gentle reminder occasionally but mostly I put the effort in because I love him.
Nothing to do with gender- one person making an effort for the other because they care.
This man/woman divide is nonsense. Out of all my friends and housemates (at uni 8 yrs, there have been a lot!) the men are on average considerably tidier and cleaner than the women.
Some men try their luck being lazy and some women let them. However it is not biological, it is something within your control to set standards early on in a relationship, or don't bother and be miserable and resentful for years.

What quietlysuggests said.

My partner does most of our hoovering, despite being afflicted with a Y chromosome. And, obviously, his share of the cooking and so forth.

Maybe when he's finished hoovering the sofa you should both sit down and read this

Yes of course it's down to gender differences

When one of my best mates discuss our lives, she's the spit of my DH and my responses are exactly what she'd expect from her DH.

'Peoples' brains work differently

No, they really, really don't.

Does he behave like an incompetent twat at work? Down the pub with his mates? No? Just with you then? And just when it comes to domestic chores? Hmmmmmm

No OP, men's brains do not work differently. Maybe your dh is just not very good at problem solving?

I'm kinda missing the chauvinism from the original post to be honest

Denigrating men's ability to carry out really simple household tasks on the basis of their sex is sexist and harmful to both men and women.

I realise your post was intended to be lighthearted but no, they don't.

I don't believe any independent adult can't manage all the normal household tasks they'd need to do if they lived alone. I do believe that by pretending that's the case, they're taking advantage of whoever is daft enough to pick up after them.

My DH has taken the day off to tidy and clean the house. He also does the cooking. He manages all this this successfully even though he's hampered by his mind altering penis.

Blimey. I'm bedridden at the moment. He does bloody everything. Has been for the last 3 months. He cooks for me every evening, sorts the cats out. He vacuums the house from top to bottom. just didn't know which attachment to use. he does all the housework. He washes my hair.

He's my best friend and will do anything for me. He can be a bit of a dick, but so can I.

SoMuchForSubtlety Mon 30-Mar-15 12:47:14
He clearly needs more vacuuming practice. This is not a male / female thing, this is a lack of experience thing.^

This.

I know it was a joke and it's oh so hilarious to pretend that men can't possibly do housework, because tee hee, they are lazy and useless aren't they, women are so much better. Girl power! etc.

Just stop! It's actually bloody harmful to keep perpetuating these myths even as "observational humour". Look at the threads where women are on their knees struggling with housework, childcare, sometimes work and/or health conditions as well and yet they are struggling and limping on ALONE because their partners have no expectation or awareness at all that they ought to have an equal share of these things, or support their partner when they are struggling. It's alright for you if you can do it, but every time this kind of thing is touted as an essential difference between male and female brains it just justifies the idiots who think housework is women's work and keeps us stuck in the 1950s.

Your husband sounds a bit stupid

It is just a bit dim to keep popping up and down if you don't know what the correct attachment is. Maybe once could be forgiven - if you think it you'd got the right one first time and wanted to check. But beyond that, it's just a bit thick.

Nothing to do with gender. Everything to do with basic smarts.

I think some people need look up the word chauvinist. I'm sure it refers to someone that is biased towards their own country. Maybe I'm mistaken, will look it up.

I think some people need look up the word chauvinist. I'm sure it refers to someone that is biased towards their own country. Maybe I'm mistaken, will look it up

Eh?

Well waddya know they are right! I suppose being a male chauvinist means aggressive adherence to male as a class.

Blimey...And I thought OP was joking and she got roasted.

Lighten up....