Does this mean it's over?

[Confused44]

Hi I'll try keep it short. Been wih my partner for 6 years, beautiful 3yo daughter. But our relationship lacks passion and any excitement. We never go out together because he doesn't want to. Long story short I cheated on him. It only happened once but I've thought about doing it again (I know I'm a horrible person) does this mean Our relationship is over? I love him so much he's my first love. But I keep thinking if I cheated I can't be happy? Or I should leave him so he has the opportunity to be happy with someone else? Sorry I'm so confused right now

confused I never give flowers but have some.

It's an awful realisation that your relationship has run it's course and you're stuck in a rut. I think it's probably more difficult to split with someone when the reason is that you have simply grown apart and have fallen out of love, then it is when the other person has done something wrong (that way you have anger to bounce off).

You are still very young, when I was your age I was out socialising all the time admittedly didn't have a child tho and sitting in front of the TV was my idea of hell. Now I'm more your OH's age a bit older sitting for an evening in front of the TV is a bit of a treat and I look forward to the peace and relaxation. As you get older you change the way you live.

I'm going to deliberately ignore all of the other stuff. I think that, if you take all of the stuff you/he have done out of the equation, there is no blame, you just aren't compatible and want different things out of life now.

The problem with separating is that he is the one who would have to leave as it's my flat. And I know he has no where else to go which makes me feel bad.

I am sad have to end it, I honestly thought I would spend the rest of my life with him :(

I get that at his age he doesn't want to do much and my idea of a perfect weekend is to snuggle up on the sofa wih a movie so it's not like I want to go out all the time. I prefer to say home with my daughter. But the fact he doesn't even want to go out with me alone once a month makes me feel pretty worthless

At his age??? He is 28! He should be wanting to go out with you every weekend! My husband is 30 and we have 3 children - doesn't mean we don't look forward to every evening out we happen to get together, just as we also look forward to doing family things together. You have a lot more happiness ahead of you - keep your eyes on that and just get through the next tough bit.
It really isn't your concern what he does or where he goes next - surely he can use his 400 quid a week to rent somewhere fairly easily?

He suggested a family trip out for Mother's Day and I agreed but if I asked him to take me out for dinner just the two of us he'd say no. I don't know if he's ashamed of me or he just doesn't care anymore (or if he Ever did I'm starting to wonder)

The most I get is a trip out to KFC. No joke

It seems a bit strange that you are simultaneously considering ending this relationship and agreeing to a family trip for Mother's day. You're a young couple, should be all zingy with life itself and ideally each other. So I think you both need to have talk about what you each truly feel.

Your confusion probably won't lift until you stop hiding behind fear of the dark, of being alone, of cheating as (non)reasons to stay put in this strange twilight zone.

I agreed because I know I'm not ready to have that conversation just yet. I need to prepare and gain the confidence to have it.

Everytime I bring up how I'm feeling like if I say I don't feel like we're in love anymore he doesn't agree. He thinks our relationship is fine and can't see anything wrong. That's why I need to make sure I'm fully ready and prepared before I being it up because everytime I have before he says what I want to hear and I take him back