Dating Thread 89

[Docmartensanddungarees]

Candle light and soul forever
A dream of you and me together
Say you believe it, say you believe it

Free your mind of doubt and danger
Be for real, don't be a stranger
We can achieve it, we can achieve it

Come a little bit closer
Baby, get it on, get it on
'Cause tonight is the night when 2 become 1

chilli that's awful. What advice did police give? Are they going to do anything?

The police told me to delete his name on whatsapp and block him on POF. I have kept the text messages though as evidence.
I was told I'd done everything I could have to safeguard myself.
I know I bang on and on about safety and it's me that gets targeted by this nutter.

Ah, thanks for clarifying Rioux, I was curious, I must admit!

chilli sorry this happened, he obviously has serious issues. Sadly these things happen but in my experience pretty rare.
waltzing no I did not reply to Mr A will not either.
Had a lovely day, DS 2 made me breakfast in bed, nice walk and great pub lunch. A nice couple of messages from Mr Sailor, is all looking promising sp far

Chilli

What an absolute douche bag. Seriously ,where do these guys come from?

Hope your feeling better.....

Blossom

Hows it going with your new chap?

whats going great with Mr Sailor, is calling me in a minute

Blossom

Excellent:)

Hope it go's well.

Hi dating thread, so I went out on my date on Friday with the guy that I said was nice but I was unsure if I fancied him.

So I got really drunk and slept with him (I had slept with him before when we had a few dates)

I'm still not sure that I really fancy him but I do like him as a person. We get on well, the conversation always flows well and I find his humor funny too! But when I'm with him I don't feel like wow I really fancy you!

Pole, be careful. You should not be sleeping with him if you don't fancy him unless you both lay your cards on the table.

Oh God Chilli!

Just as a question...what do you guys think about giving numbers to people for whatsapp?

I gave it to someone who used it to find me on FB. I mean, he is a nice normal man but clearly someone could find me and track me down.

Also, I personally tend to add people on FB BEFORE dates. I like to be sure who they are, be sure they are not married, have a nosy what they are like etc. but people seem to think this is odd.

Thoughts on etiquette?

I am back on with a date Tuesday. Met two men at the wedding, both took my number and one texted this morning to ask me out so that was good. Admittedly he's younger than me and I don't really fancy him but he made me laugh so hard I had real tears, so thought it was worth a date.

As for Mr AWOL who was soooo keen on me and invested about 5000 text messages into me is now officially AWOL. I sent him a text yesterday afternoon and he did not even reply.

Next!

pole does he want relationship?

Britney I don't do FB but adding them means they can have a nosey about you too and personally I don't like to give too many details away too soon. Man from the wedding sounds good - I find someone who can make me laugh really attractive!

General moan - why do men on OLD not realise that when you are messaging someone you have to have a two way conversation! I hate it when they just answer your question and don't ask anything. Was chatting to someone last night and gave up as couldn't be bothered to make the effort. He messaged me again tonight yet still not asking questions! Giving up on him again now.

Looks like Mr Earring didn't get the message after our date - he's just viewed my profile and winked at me!!

Wow just another hour long conversation with Mr Sailor, god he sounds so lush. I so so hope it works when we meet on Tues, I will be gutted if we don't fancy each other he seems to want the same things as me.

Jesy I don't think there's anything wrong with what you said. You weren't putting your mother down just explaining the situation. I understand what your saying. when people have even slight mental health issues, their behaviour can seem odd to others when they don't realise and it can be mistaken in the same way as say someone shy coming across as arrogant. I'm rambling(I do that a lot) I hope you understand what I'm trying to say. I say this who has odd behavours myself.

Chilli I hadn't thought of alcohol, seems likely now I hope you hear no more from him. It doesn't matter how carefully you are as it takes a long time to really get to know someone so vetting someone initial wont always work, it's just a chance you have to take.

Blossom I hope it goes well on tuesday. I'm in the same situation where I really want to like the guy I've been speaking to and will be a little disappointed if we don't click in real life. Looking forward to hearing how it goes.

Britney I wouldn't add someone on fb for a long time, too personal on fb and you then have to delete them again later, akward. If someone asked to add me before a date I'd think they were really full on.

Sienna I've experienced the same even though I haven't messaged many men. I find it worse that the ones that don't ask questions also like to tell you too much about themselves. I personally try to ask a few questions and drop little snippets of info about myself.

Pole Maybe give it a few more dates but i's say without alcohol so it isn't affecting your judgement and see how you get on a sit could be a slow burner.

Britney

Yes to giving out numbers. A Big absolute No( From me too FB)

I usually talk a bit on the site then move to texts.

Take, Chili's guy as an extreme example of nuts you can talk too. Think.....
what he could have done if she'd added him on Facebook.

Sienna

I thought you'd told Disco Joe he was not for you?

Then.....he winks at you!!!

Not one for taking a hint is he?

Can I join the thread??!!

So last Thursday, I decided to go speed dating. Had a great time, met so e very nice people. Got 8 matches out of 15 (only 4 I actually said yes to) Obviously I'm not that much of a minger. Have been texting a couple of them and one has asked me out but he lives about 20 miles away so not keen. Have been chatting to lots of people on POF and Match.

However, the BIG news, is that last night I went on a date with a real live man that I met on Match We had a fab time, he was absolutely gorgeous, we talked for ages and got on really well. We even had a couple of little snogs at the end of the night and have already arranged the second date. This is going to sound mega cheesy but we were in the bar and it just felt like it was just us there. The time flew by, even though it was 2.5 hours, it could have been 2.5 minutes. Really looking forward to meeting up again. We have already been texting. Yay!

Lurking

It hard to explain, she had a breakdown and still on antidepressants 25years on,but also needs an injection every three months due to a condition that can affect her she gets weepy, and funny but it not in publication's pmt that you hide.

Scramled Hello there! I love the idea of speed dating. They have one on my town but I don't know anyone brave enough to go with me. I think that's a great way to meet someone as it's like old but no one can lie about their appearance at least. The date sounds really good, hope the second date goes just aswell or better.

Jesy How did your weekend go anyway? When you seeing post again?

Good morning to everyone else. I may actually have a date to report back on later. I'm so tired after a heavy week that today wouldn't be ideal but lot's of coffee and a load more make up and I should be passable

Update on the weekend well Sunday ,

The mums got on like a house on fire ,both into knitting and craft stuff,his mum still works I was a bit sad for my mum as she said she wished she'd not given up totally as it can get lonely at home, but she said she'd got her crafts and my dog , so that started a chat about animals lol

Food was a big hit , , his mum joked he put on weight since he met me , and the lemonchell cocktails even more lol

Was just relived they got on ,mum like Mr post , she texted me saying he seemed nice and polite and the dog seems like him lol

After family's had gone we went to town it was just going to be two of us but bumped into my ex who wasn't a happily boy ,he messed up in his new job so he came for a drink but best of it was I went to the loo and this girl asked me for his number , definitely him as she said u good friends with the tall Chubby bloke u sat with I said yep and she asked could I get his number,
I'm hoping she texts him today as its his birthday x

Only stayed for a bit of the band as I was shattered.

Seeing him tonight a birthday tea in local.

Well I have been emailing a man (Mr USA) from the weekend - he's not online but not replied yet...

then Mr Geek gets back to me after a week long silence. I did email a couple of men yesterday no reply. Getting seriously pissed off with OLD and want to delete my profiles.

Chilli sorry this has happened but like Blossom says they're quite rare.

Blossom Sailor sounds nice, hope you have a nice chat.

Britney I'd only give out numbers for Whatsapp if no other option. I personally think most don't people track people down.

Sienna yes men are very strange re it being a 2 way conversation and some of the stuff I've had lately (i.e. if you don't pay them lots of attention they throw their toys out of the pram) is pure weird.

Scrambled there is hope! I like it when that happens, not happened to me for a while (at least where I fancied the man totally).

jesy sounds good re the mums getting on and glad you helped your ex out.

Morning all.
rioux we are both trying hard not to get carried away, it is a bit mad. In the past year of OLD never experienced anything like this. Emotionally/intellectually there is such a connection, just hope we fancy each other, think I will be gutted if not

Hope everyone had a lovely weekend.

Chilli that's so awful. Glad you logged it with the police even if they haven't done anything as yet.

Blossom glad you're having good vibes, chats and texts with Mr Sailor .

pole - I'm not sure if the fancying thing can happen later. Do you feel like his personality would eventually make you feel a bit more "wow" about him. Would you feel lucky to be with him? Weird question but do you like his face?

Britney - I don't ask to add people on FB first, but I have added one man (Mr Y) who I was very sure about. I guess the trouble is they could give you a very closed profile (as in, one that doesn't have much info on them) and if yours is quite open they could find out a lot about where you live, where you work etc. I don't mind giving out my mobile number (after a few messages) as I figure I can always block them. I do think there is no way to absolutely make OLD totally risk free, all you can do is minimize the risks. Mr AWOL is an arse, why don't these men at least text! I think you might hear from him again at some point. YAy for meeting men at a wedding, that's great. I'd only go out with someone I think I could fancy though unless I made it clear I was only interested in a friendship. Do you think the laughter could turn to fancying?

Sienna Sorry about your two crap dates and good on your for saying you wanted to go home, life is too short! Yes I agree on the one sided conversations - I agree with Lurking, I just drop snippets in. But also sometimes they ask too much and I end up feeling like I either need to ignore some Q's, write a huge email or I feel like I'm keeping everything I say to absolute minimum. It can't be so hard to have a normal conversation can it?!

Scrambled speed dating and match date both sound really positive! Good luck

Jesy so glad the mum's tea went well - sounds perfect! I want a limoncello cocktail .

Super - Sorry OLD not going well. I have high hopes for MOTS (ah, yes - I thought it was something about the floor above!). I dated Mr T around Christmas time and he is still in touch as friends (but very sporadic and I don't initiate any contact) and Mr Y and I are still on, seeing him tonight but this will be the absolute last time, if I'm not sure I'll have to finish it as I feel really unfair on him.

Waltzing - Sounds good on the 2 suiters, hope some dates are arranged soon :). Thanks on Mr T, well - he ended up ringing me at 8.30pm sat night (when he was meant to be AT mine) saying he was in bed at his mums as he'd had an emergency op (for something he had mentioned in a text the day before - and I thought at the time "hmmm... setting up an excuse?"). He sounded really groggy and stuff but... I dunno, bad luck / drama seems to follow him . I totally agree he could edge back into my good books. I'm off on a weekend away this weekend so said I couldn't see him till weekend after and I think I'll just say we shouldn't be friends. Basically, I've spent 2 days this weekend factoring him into my plans (even though I didn't have to change plans but still... I made sure house was tidy, got DS into bed quickly... etc). Also, a few years ago he had an allegation against him and it went to court but he was found innocent but when I googled him for it, nothing at all came up. Surely there'd be an old newspaper article or something about it?? I'm wondering if he's a huge compulsive liar... :/.

Super oh keep your chin up. You know I have felt the same about OLD but keep telling myself the one has to be out there