Dating Thread 89

[Docmartensanddungarees]

Candle light and soul forever
A dream of you and me together
Say you believe it, say you believe it

Free your mind of doubt and danger
Be for real, don't be a stranger
We can achieve it, we can achieve it

Come a little bit closer
Baby, get it on, get it on
'Cause tonight is the night when 2 become 1

Terrified to be honest think made huge mistake

Well initial meeting went went well , mum said she recognized him from a pic taken Xmas a few years ago lol

Morning all
rioux chuckling at your tipsyness.
Well had some lovely texting with Mr Sailor, so so rare to find someone on my wave length, he said if the chemisty is the same in person as on the phone he is taking me off the market, a very sweet thing to say. Oh so hope he does not turn out to be knob. We have a date on Tuesday

Rioux Yea it is, I really does feel good, I just so hope I or he is disappointed. Tues is the first time we are free.
Mr A did not get in touch, what a knob. I would not have minded it he texted me to say he changed his mind or met someone, that would have been the right thing to do ho hum

Uugh just had a very strange message saying ditch the shady photos and you might and look for a man your own age, you might get lucky. WTAF is that all about?

Ugh, what a nasty message. I do think (and have heard of) some people joining OLD sites just to troll and send people nasty messages. Try not to take it personally Blossom Block and report if I were you

dont oh I don't, he is probaby some sad little man sitting in his bedsit. Worse thing is on Match so he has paid to be on there.
I am in a good mood after chatting with Mr Sailor

I'm liking the sound of this Mr Sailor

He sounds devine but I must keep cool, you know it all means nothing until you meet someone.

blossomflowers That's awful. I got one saying I was holding up well for my age

britany he probably thought he was paying you a compliment the idiot. God knows what my one was driving at, just some freak I suppose

I actually disabled all my profiles for a while becaue it got too much. I have 8 phone numbers in my phone that I am chatting to and am going to work through them one by one.

I mostly get 25 year olds wanting older woman sex. What's that all about? Common I've heard?!!!!

I just wanted to say that I have temporarily closed my pof account as of last night.
I am meeting with a nice sounding chap in a couple of weeks. I have spoken to him and checked out his facebook, 192 and so on and he seems genuine.
However.. last night I received a whatsapp message from a guy I had been talking to for a couple of weeks. He asked for a recent photo and I sent him one of me in work wear.He asked if I worked at so and so and I stupidly told him where I had been working ( I'm a temp so it can change on a daily basis).
The tone of his messages changed from cheeky banter to quite bizarre and disjointed. The vocabulary did not match that of someone of his age or status ( I know that sounds silly) He hasn't sent me a photo nor has he said where he works. I fully understand him not being too specific about his job, where he lives etc, but he is far too elusive.
I explained that I needed to know he was the person he says he is .
I think he could be anyone, a neighbour even.It's worrying.

Afternoon everyone. Just checking in. I've been through the thread twice in an attempt to reply but I'm just so tired, the brains not working so I shall do that after the weekend when there will be more gossip anyway I was chatting to 3 people but only one is heading towards a date I think. That's with "wetfish" as I call him. messages have been pinging back and forth with ease and I feel comfortable with the idea of meeting. I'm hoping I can arrange a sitter but wont be till the end of the week. I'm off old again just temporary to see what happens this week first as that's my preferred way of doing it.

Hello Lurking.

As exciting as it feels to be having a date don't get your hopes up too much, a brief meeting is ideal when meeting someone for the fist time.

I've only been on POF for about 3 weeks, had 6 dates already but "feeling" you have report online does not mean you necessarily will in RL.

I know I sound like a broken record but please check out he is who he says he is. I met someone recently , we "clicked" online but I didn't check him out and he was a compulsive lair, even his name didn't exist. Longest 25 minutes of my life.

That said he could turn out to be Mr Wonderful or even a good mate.

Good luck

Thanks for the advice Chilli I'm going into this with open eyes. when I say date, I mean a meet, a night out is rare for me so I couldn't/wouldn't get a babysitter to go meet a stranger for a night I might not enjoy. At this point in time I really just want to meet someone so that I know what it feels like and to get used to the idea of doing it iyswim.

Even though I understand people aren't always who they say they are, I couldn't go googling someone and wouldn't be impressed with someone doing that to me.

brittany I am nearly 50 and constantly propositioned by 20 somethings, I agree it is weird.

I don't believe it just had a text from Mr just saying how are you wtaf

Lurking, I know it is a rare treat to go out, but accessing public information, such as electoral registers is not stalking it really is worth the few minutes to find the answers.

I turned down a date with a man I found out was married. Checked out his name and a Mrs( ok this can happen if someone lived there years ago) appeared on the electoral register searched her name and there HE was and the same corresponding dates. He hadn't been divorced for 10 years like he said. Electoral registers also give approximate ages.

I totally get what you are saying Chilli maybe when I've been at this longer then i'll feel it's the only way. Also maybe I'd feel inclined to check up if I actually liked someone but for a first meet then I wouldn't. As it stands I could be wasting my time as even if they are who they say, I might not like them or vice versa. Lot's of people on here have more experience than me and it's really helpful as I already have experienced time wasters and I'd be left wondering what I'd done wrong had I not learned it's common place on old. Please don't think I'm ignoring your advice Chiili as I appreciate it

chilli I dont bother checking up on people, just treat everyone with great suspicion.

So should I reply to Mr A or just let him be?

Let him be. Sounds too much like hard work.

Mr A sounds flakey - I wouldn't bother responding at the moment

Damn - I just wrote a reply to everyone etc and bloody MAC deleted it!

I am getting the feeling that I will leave OLD soon, it is a lot of hard work and yesterday when I went off the boil on a man I'd been messaging (I was at work, hungover/tired etc) then he seemed to lose interest - did email me though and was online today.

Chilli - I would have big red flags re the Whatsapp man and not meet him only because that just sounds weird. As in just strange.

Blossom no please don't reply to Mr A! and the Sailor sounds more up your street.

Lurking good you have a date and go for it. But sometimes a date for a date's sake isn't worth it, know what I mean?