I'd be very grateful for some alternative points of view about what my DH did this weekend and whether I'm over reacting. Apologies, I think it'll be long, but I don't want to drip feed.
By way of background, we live about 25 mins walk from our village shops and my IL's live about 5 mins from our house (closer to the shops than us). On Saturday DH and I went to the village with our baby in the pram. I wanted to go by car as I thought it looked like it might rain, but DH insisted we should walk, which we did.
DH had teased me while we were out about me thinking it would rain and on the way home, he stopped with the pram, which he was pushing, and said he was going to wait there for the rain. I carried on walking slowly, thinking he was joking and would catch me up.
When the noise of the pram wheels stopped, I turned around, DH and the baby were nowhere to be seen. I presumed he had cut down a side street he had used before which was immediately behind me (I knew you could cut down but not which turnings to take afterwards as he has lived in this area all his life, but I haven't). From this turning, it was possible for him to carry on home or go to IL's house from the opposite direction from which I was walking. He had my glasses in the baby bag, I had no house keys and 1% phone battery which he knew as we had talked about my phone, he had looked to see why it wasn't working properly and concluded it was because of low battery.
I carried on walking towards our house at a normal pace on the usual route and had to walk past IL's house to get there. When I got home there was no answer. I then got a text from DH asking if I had keys. I replied he knew I didn't and it was a nasty thing to do, leaving me and taking the baby without telling me. He replied that he'd gone to his parent's house. When I got to the IL's they were playing with the baby, had put our shopping away in their house, got the baby out of the pram, taken his coat off and got toys out.
I got upset, said I was furious with DH and we took the baby and left. Usually I would have just gritted my teeth, had a cuppa and said nothing until we got home.
DH said he had hidden behind a bush and walked behind me, stopping at his parent's house. I can not think of any bushes he might have hidden behind (pavements and roads) but he did go past the cut through when I know that they weren't behind me. He said I was unreasonable for not turning around to see where he was, but could not answer why he didn't call out or follow me home if he had done as he claimed, nor why he didn't text me until I had got home. I would have been in his sight for a further 5 minutes when he arrived at ILs (and 5 mins before that) and it would have been obvious where I was going.
My question is am I totally over reacting by being angry and upset by this? I have contacted ILs and apologised. I do make sure they see DS and invited them round twice on the days before this happened. At the moment, we're hardly speaking as he doesn't think he's done anything wrong and I'm at fault for carrying on walking home. I think he owes me an apology. Wise MNers please adjudicate!