Husband Caught in Au Pair's Room

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Hi all. This is my first posting. I'm worried and not sure what to think. My husband and I have been together for 19 years. We almost broke up 5 years ago after our marriage got so bad that we both turned to other people outside our marriage, something we both regret but also something that made us communicate better and appreciate each other more. It's still tough at times but our relationship overall is so much better than ever before. (Other than a bit more arguing, but mainly over the past snd jealousy ). We have 4 children and have had 5 au pairs over the past 4 years. And I've trusted him with them every time. But yesterday, I was shattered after work. We have a fantastic sex life and feel very lucky. I have never said no to him. But yesterday, I just wanted to sleep, so turned him down. I didn't mention he drinks a lot of wine. And he fid this whilst I was sleeping. I woke when he left our bedroom and caught him rummaging in our au pair's bag snd hoing through her dirty laundry basket and having a really big sniff of her knickers. I confronted him and he denied it at first even though he knew I had seen him. Now he keeps apologising but says I don't make him happy sexually anymore. Yet says he doesn't fancy the au pair and he doesn't kjow why he did it. I thought we were happy. I feel numb. The au pair doesn't know as far as I know. I can't look her in the face. She is fantastic with the children. But I don't know if this is the start of more problems. I have told him no more wine in the house ever. But, I don't have the energy to fight for our marriage anymore.

charity shops dont sell pants

Extrapolated or otherwise

Wtf kind of thread have I just opened?

To be fair she said they would smell the clothes rather than underwear didn't she? Rather than underwear. I think?

Dixi sorry I explained it earlier on p2 of the thread allow me to recap. We got lots of big sacks in where people had kindly donated their clothes. We couldn't always sort them out there & then. People (MEN) would come into the shop, then sneak into the back and start sniffing the clothes. One time the guy who worked in the kebab shop came, left his special sauce on a pashmina - we had to toss it in the end - vile.

That's the solution!!

Tell the AP to stop wearing knickers, it's all her fault, flirty little minx!

This thread is fantastic.

Fucks sake I've lost the ability to type! I give up!

"we had to toss it in the end"

10/10

You are very funny, Friendly

Lol at 'had to toss it'! So did he apparently.

I sniggered at 'big sacks'
Childish but good

Ask anyone who works in a charity shop, people bring in everything, so until you have sorted it out & worked out what you're keeping / throwing, you do have a load of bras, pants, kniickers etc in there. I don't know who in their right mind thought a charity shop would want used pants. They should cut out the middle man and give it straight to the pervert men rather than giving them to bloody greyhound charities

greyhound charities

Run while you can Conyo

Won't someone think of the greyhounds

LOLOL at greyhound charities

but dogs LIKE pants - we have already established that

One time the guy who worked in the kebab shop came, left his special sauce on a pashmina

I don't know why people are sniggering....

As per my previous comment re dogs, they should just give them straight to the greyhounds, surely

shaska

Holy shit, maybe we've stumbled upon a peta-friendly version of the fake bunny they make greyhounds chase at the dog track

YY the greyhounds would love the pants. I'm sure they would rather have used pants than those little poncy dog coats.

better still usual, fancy a side business fashioning used pants into dog coats?

It's a win all round really. Drop your worn pants off at the dog track, no chance of employer sniffing, return well aired a day or two later or else repurposed into aromatic and fashion-forward dog coats.

'My husband won't stop sniffing the dogs clothes, should I LTB?'
'nah, perfectly normal, 50% of all men'

charity shops do receive dirty skiddies in amongst the good stuff.so they have to wade through it all and chuck the skiddies away. but the dirty sniffers manage to come up the front and have a sniff first. then they go up the bottom and sneak out. 50 percent of my builder mates told me this.

When my friends dog is in season, they make her wear pants. Do you think we could charge to have them sniffed by the pub men? Or the greyhounds?