just called dp a fucking idiot. what's the worst thing you've ever said to your dp in a moment of anger?

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I was cleaning the oven hobs. standing right in front of the oven door

he opened the oven door and the door caught my big toe..the cuticle bit (I think that's the word)

bloody sore!

so my immediate response after exclaiming in pain was to say 'you fucking idiot'

obviously I apologised immediately.

ive never swore at him like that

I have never called him a name and I've never sworn at him. Our relationship isn't perfect, but this kind of thing is just really important to me... You see people on tv calling each other all kinds of names - it's just their dynamic I guess.

Worse than that!

I've let myself down many times during rows and called Dp things I'd be mortified to admit on here.

You're just like my mum!
Regretted it when I had calmed down as she is really abusive and nasty, wicked even... don't get me started on my Dad!

vivacia I feel really strongly about namecalling too that's why I immediately apologised.

in my defence he had just caused me major (imo) pain

dp was shocked as it's not like us at all.

so we had mutual apologising for a while afterwards

im sorry
no im sorry
no really im sorry ...

spanky im just like your mum? who you describe as really abusive, nasty and wicked?

really? you get that from my post?

He was accidentally dropped a door on my finger. I think I said "ARHHH!" and tried not to cry.

OP, please don't beat yourself up about it.

Put it this way: this is clearly really unusual in your relationship for you to have posted about it. I actually think constant PA comments and niggling narkiness are way worse than the odd explosion! As long as there is a basis of love and respect in a relationship - i.e it is 99% of the time nice and respectful - there can be moments when people go 'OH FOR CHRIST'S SAKE!' and it's okay.

Op, i think Sparky meant that she told her partner that he was like her mother...

pot noodle.

now im the fucking idiot

im sorry spanky

Thanks shovetheholly

it is unusual for us. luckily we're not ones to dwell.

Something like 'Bloody hell! Your constant negativity is like cancer!'

Apologies to anyone that has suffered because of cancer.

I said if that was how he motivated people no wonder his staff did fuck all!!!
Seriously below the belt as he was stressed about staff issues

DP was going on and on about something (can't remember what now) he started as soon as I walked in the door after a 12 hour day at work and 2 hours later was still going on. I was 9 weeks pregnant, exhausted and had horrific all day and night morning sickness.

After asking him at least 6 times to please stop talking and leave me alone I snapped and said something like " stop being a fuckwit and shut the fuck up for 5 minutes" then stormed out the kitchen.

I don't know who was more surprised, I rarely swear and never call him names. I did apologise and felt awful about it afterwards.

You're not an idiot; I read it the same way as you, first read! :)

I have to admit to swearing at my dh on occasion.

I'm not perfect...............

You big fat liar.

When we met he was a bit larger and I assured him it didn't bother me. Then I said that - it just came out and I didn't mean it that way at all!

Most awful ones are:

I told DH 'If I hear can't one more time you will be writing alimony cheques. You won't be able to say can't to that!'

Another time after DH said vacuuming was woman's work my reply was 'Yes because writing the alimony cheque is mens work.'

I have sworn at DH before as he can be very clueless and doesn't think of how his actions might affect others. Not proud of what I have said but I own up to it.

When I found out about my Ex DH cheating, I told him that she must be easily pleased because for 10
Years he hadn't satisfied me once due to his small dick! Wasn't true (although it was small!) but to he honest I didn't give a shit.

No, the title said the worst thing you've called your DP. That is the worst thing I have called DP, not you. I was trying to demonstrate with my poor use of words that I am more horrible than you, as you got your toe gouged! Really sorry for upsetting you.

DH told me the other day his ex was a saint compared to me and that the only difference between us is that he didn't get her knocked up. (Im 20 weeks pregnant with our second child). Before we were married he said once that he'd only proposed because he thought it might make me feel better about myself andtherefore we'd get on better, that I'm a horrible horrible person and the only reason we were together was because of Ds1.

He has admitted that he's ' a twat who says horrible things during arguments' but I have a complex now and feel everything is tainted.

In my last serious relationship we never ever argued and I wouldn't have dreamed of nam e calling etc. But I have started to notice myself getting worse and worse for it. All relationship s are different but days after the most recent argument I still cry in bed. I feel guilty every time I look at our son.

Guilt you should leave him. He sounds very abusive.

Guilt, what horrible things to say. He should count his blessings that he has a loyal wife, a dc and another on the way. He has more to lose than you! Get counselling to improve your self esteem.