just called dp a fucking idiot. what's the worst thing you've ever said to your dp in a moment of anger?

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I was cleaning the oven hobs. standing right in front of the oven door

he opened the oven door and the door caught my big toe..the cuticle bit (I think that's the word)

bloody sore!

so my immediate response after exclaiming in pain was to say 'you fucking idiot'

obviously I apologised immediately.

ive never swore at him like that

Silver - yes I have but I have to say, it all seems worse seeing this thread and writing it down. He also calls me crazy and similar in reference to the fact that I used to suffer from anxiety quite severely.

He isn't as bad as he sounds though! The reason I fell for him was because he is so kind and genuine. He's just thoughtless and doesn't realise how unacceptable it is. He is always confused about why I am 'dwelling' on our arguments afterwards. He had a very harsh childhood himself without loving parents around which I'm sure has something to do with it.

I called him a fuckwit this morning, but he had just crashed the car with all four of us in it so I was a bit shocked.

It was an ex DP. He was a complete fuckwit and abusive.

He'd been to the pub and returned home laying down the law about how crap I was and how i needed to change, what he expected of me going forward etc. at this point I knew it was the end, was making plans and doing my best to ignore him

He'd put quite a bit of weight on and whilst ranting was striding about the bedroom getting undressed for bed. So he's stood there in the buff hands on hips beer belly overhanging and says "are you even listening to me?"

I casually glanced up and quite conversationally asked " when was the last time you saw your dick?"

Quite took the wind out of his sails

Sistedtwister,

That's absolute genius

that is hilarious! My DH doesn't say horrible things. It's me who loses my cool because I am exhausted from doing everything. I snap and say something horrible. Truth be told, if my DH helped I wouldn't be so tired. It's not like I don't ask. He just ignores what is going on around him.

Dh doesn't say nasty things either.

Unlike me. I call him a fucking twat on a daily basis. Cuz he is

I don't get the problem? Maybe it's just how our relationship works? We are mega close and very solid. I just have a potty mouth!

I've said much worse things than that!

My poor DH...

'You are a fucking tosser'

I've said some pretty horrific things to my ex. Not proud of it, but everything I said was true, and he deserved it.

Mines a wanker when he's being a wanker. I'm devoted to him despite the times he's a wanker. I have to be, I'm such a bitch nobody else could love me!.

I'm not ashamed to say it on here, no one knows us or our relationship. I have called him various things like Dickhead, twat, wanker, idiot, will be in the heat of an argument though, and that will only be once every two months ish. I have a potty mouth, but he is shouty, he gets louder, I say names, and then half an hour later it's fine. Both very much in love and happily married. I heard a great quote once, "it's not the arguments that kill a relationship, it's the silences". If it's true DH and I will be just fine.

DH called me a fucking uncaring bitch once. In a busy hospital waiting room. In front of our DC. That was a special moment.

Not sure I've ever said anything as bad as that.

Wish I could go back in time and add a few corkers to the things I didn't say to ex-h. The divorce was far too civilised and there's things I'd wish I'd flung at the git!

Geez Guilt - I am a sweary Mary, but that is low (his response that is).

I have called DP the odd name for sure. He doesn't, but to be fair after so long together we know each other's communication style.

If I rant and rave and call him a lazy fucker, he knows that's not a big deal & he has been known to suggest I'm a lazy bugger on occasion which is again not a big deal (although our thresholds for swearing are lower).

If he called me a bitch though, that would be a massive deal because it would take a lot to build up to that and there would really have to be a fucking good reason.

I think language and intent matters. In this house, we tend to avoid names, although bugger (unsurprisingly) gets a lot of use. We also know I am quicker to the swearing (I come from a town where 'alright ya' cut'' is daily parlance), so I do get more of a pass that DP because he would actually have to make effort to insult me. Whereas in my hometown, 'cunt' can be a greeting...

Swearing doesn't bother me in the slightest.

What should be hurtful would be an attack on my personality or core values.

The worst thing anyone could ever call me would be a liar, so not a swear word at all.

I have certainly called him a fucking idiot before.

We have a very happy marriage and rarely argue, but it's happened.

Name calling in the heat of the moment shouldn't happen but unless it is a habit I don't think you need to beat yourself up over it OP.

It is a very rare couple who has managed to not swear at least once in an argument unless they have been married a short while

Yes, good post joys mum

If I was called a spotty twat, a crap mother or 'your'e just like your dad' that would hurt because those are well known sore spots which would only ever be said with the intention of really hurting me.

Calling me an idiot? not so much.

Dh left a pan of eggs on boil and forgot about them. I joked with him and said he was an idiot with a smile on my face. No big deal.

I once called him a cunt when he took me abseiling and I saw the drop (I get vertigo). He laughed mad scientist stylee. We were in France I don't think anyone knew what it meant...

They might have had a good guess from your tone Twinks

"Your family are tits-out crazy". It had been a very, very difficult weekend and I did take it back and apologise. they are though

I don't have a partner, so when I stub my toes, I get to rant at thin air, guilt free! And mean every obscenity I shout, without having to apologise

(Not so much in front of the DC, admittedly!)

I called him a langball.

In fact I call him a langball frequently.

We know couples who pride themselves on 'never having an argument' - and yet the way they speak to each other on a daily basis is so contemptuous and corrosive. Yet, because they don't raise their voices or slam doors they never argue

Well said

Ive called DP things that I would be horrified to admit on here, but we have a fantastic relationship and I think it's healthy to argue sometimes.
I mean, who else would tolerate being called awful names and still love you at the end of the day