Many years ago DH spent all our savings. He just frittered them away, it wasn't a huge amount but the trust was gone and we no longer have joint finances. Two years ago we decided we wanted to buy a house and started saving hard. We both earn similar amounts and spend equally on house/kids.
I was not convinced he was saving, but he kept saying it was under control. After the first year, I discovered he had not saved a penny. I was devastated and hated that he had lied for so long. I had been very frugal and keeping to a very strict budget. He assured me he really wanted to save and get a new house, but just carried on frittering money away. We opened a new account so I could see that he was saving and things got better for a while.
Another year on and it has emerged that he has stopped saving and is just frittering money again. I can't put up with this man child any more. He puts himself first, he spends money on exercise equipment and hobbies. He says I drag all the joy out of him, I probably do 'nag' ( hate that word) but he can't seem to do anything unless asked a million times.
He is never going to change is he? I don't think I want to be with someone who just can't function, he says he wants a new job, but never even looks what is out there. He is self employed but he is owed quite a bit of money and just doesn't chase it up. He has a new hobby every five minutes and never keeps at it for long. What can I do? I think I need to leave him.