AmantesSunAmentes's whole post, while I largely agree with his/her other posts, stinks of superiority, going on about moral and social integrity, as though (s)he has it all worked out and can look down at the rest of us from on high... (I have met many people who talk like this irl, and they are, without exception, arrogant and pompous)
Fluffy, there's nothing wrong with being invested in social integrity - we all should be, shouldn't we? If we aren't, our society suffers a moral deficit and people go on treating people like utter crap.
I sound superior? Maybe, on this subject I feel it. I've been wronged twice, in quite horiffic and disasterous ways (think std's and the near blinding of my baby) yet I've never wronged anyone. I've been pissed right up, I've been lonely, I've been at rock bottom, emotionally and in terms of self esteem. Have I chosen to fuck someone else's life up, just to make myself feel all better? No. Never. I never have and I never will. This doesn't make me more entitled that anyone else to hold a view but I am equally entitled to hold a view and that is bound to be based in my experience and perspective, just as yours is.
If I'm arrogant it's in the belief that we, as a species, can and should step the fuck up and stop behaving like impulsive little animals. Stop pretending 'no-one's going to get hurt' or 'she's not my partner, so if she's hurt, it's not my fault'. BS! I'm not prepared to believe people are stupid enough to believe that, so, what's left? Malice.
I'm not a fan of malicious people. I'm not a fan of people who knowingly engage with other peoples partners. I'm not a fan of cheats. I think the way we treat all three, shapes society. That makes me appear arrogant, superior or pompous? Fine. I don't feel arrogant, pompous or superior. I feel hopeful that one day, people will stop to think before and not after lives are damaged and people are hurt. It really, really shouldn't be as difficult as some people seem to find it!