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Worried about my son

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Blossomflowers · 17/01/2015 17:10

#This not really a relationship issue but this thread gets lots of traffic and need some urgent advice..
So just found a letter adressed to my son that has been hand delivered.
" X stay out of my field. Anything else gets stolen or damaged, Ill be up your house and cripple you for life you pathetic piece of shit. Merry Xmas you fucking little cunt"
I feel sick my son is 14, my boy is good and did admit to going to this mans field ( he is in his 40's) in the summer as he was growing canabis and did admit to pinching a bit but said he had not been near there since. I don't know what do. Have not shown my son the letter

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Quitelikely · 17/01/2015 17:12

It's possible that someone else is stealing it but he still thinks it's your son?

Either way I would call crime stoppers to report the field.

CogitoErgoSometimes · 17/01/2015 18:01

I'd show the police the letter. It's a pretty nasty threat, someone's growing cannabis..... no brainer.

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Blossomflowers · 17/01/2015 18:05

Yes cog I think I should, is totally vile. Bastard even drew a holly leaf on envelope.

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ImperialBlether · 17/01/2015 18:06

I wouldn't tell your son you'd found it, but would tell the police about the cannabis on the Crimestoppers number. If the letter was sent a month or so ago (referencing Christmas) then reporting it shouldn't be linked to your son.

DuchessofNorks · 17/01/2015 18:09

I would be round there with a baseball bat breaking both his kneecaps.

Go to the police. Take the note with you. Your son may have to admit to being there in the summer but the police are likely to me more interested in the cannabis factory running, schoolboy threatening thug, to be honest.

BabyOnBoob · 17/01/2015 18:13

Sorry but I'd be worried about repercussions reporting it to the police, the wording in the letter is extremely menacing.

Can you say tell your son you 'accidently' found it, and open up the lines of communication to discuss it with him? Then decide what to do

Flowers you must be worried Sad

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Blossomflowers · 17/01/2015 18:26

We know who i is, in fact apparently this man also sent another letter to 0ne of DS friends. Yes I am worried and feel sick this manhas been on my property, I am a single mum

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BoomBoomsCousin · 17/01/2015 18:43

Reporting the field to the police anonymously is a good idea. I would report the letter too.

I think you really need to talk to your son though, and possibly be a little skeptical about his responses. If he's stealing canabis at 14 that's somewhat high risk behaviour and there's a lot of ways that can go badly. It is common for children to lie to their parents about drugs, admitting only what they have to. If the letter has been delivered this Christmas do you really think it's likely he hasn't been back since the summer?

pinkfrocks · 17/01/2015 18:45

How does he know where your son lives?

Somethingtodo · 17/01/2015 18:56

Whatever you CHILD has done or not done - this is a severe threat to a child. You need to speak to the police and tell them that you are v concerned about a backlash - and risk to your CHILD.

I feel really sorry that your CHILD has had this worry on his mind for the last month.

We had something vaguely similar - we got an anonymous call from a parent who had heard a rumour that another child was boasting that he would knife my son (14) at an upcoming fun fair. My son would not tell me what it was all about and said I was over reacting - but I rang the police and said "I know I am over reacting but what should we do if anything...?" - They were on it in a second - came round interviewed my son - made arrangements with school - and it turns out the threatening kid had form.

This taught me not to minimise stuff - yours is a much worse situation than mine. I would call the police asap.

Timeforabiscuit · 17/01/2015 19:00

Please go to the police and get some firsthand advice, I'd find it worrying that he hid this from you and he was prepared to think that this was an OK way to be treated.

flatbellyfella · 17/01/2015 19:01

Got to be a Police job, Drug growers & dealers are the scum of modern life.

Northernparent68 · 17/01/2015 20:28

The drug dealer knows where you live, think carefully before going to the police.

CogitoErgoSometimes · 17/01/2015 21:04

Think carefully? What about thinking carefully about her own son's wellbeing? It's a serious threat of actual harm. It's serious. That's what the police are there for.

RandomNPC · 17/01/2015 21:12

Take the letter to the police.

Northernparent68 · 18/01/2015 09:40

Drug dealers have a well earned reputation for being violent. All the police can do is prosecute the dealer for sending a threatening letter, for which the penalty will be minimal.

Drug dealers have no respect for the police and won't be deterred from having been arrested.

Bakeoffcakes · 18/01/2015 09:54

I'd have no hesitation in going to the police.
He won't just be charged with sending a threatening letter, he'll be charged with growing a field full of cannibus which I assume will carry a long sentence.

Cabrinha · 18/01/2015 09:55

Well, it's a good lesson for your son that this is what drugs is. The gateway to nasty, dangerous, criminal world.
Your son is a drug using thief.
Perhaps this letter will make him reconsider being that.
Definitely show it to him.

That said, obviously he shouldn't have received it. Police, both about the letter and about the field.

I'm wondering why on earth you haven't reported the field already?

ImperialBlether · 18/01/2015 11:31

"A drug using thief", Cabrinha? That's very harsh. It puts you firmly on the side of the grower.

Roussette · 18/01/2015 11:39

It's impossible to grow cannabis in a field.

ImperialBlether · 18/01/2015 11:53

Apparently not, Roussette, though maybe it is in this country as it's cooler.

There's an article here about it growing in the corn fields in the US.

BoomBoomsCousin · 18/01/2015 11:58

Drug using thief is an accurate description of the child though. It doesn't mean the drug growing thug is in the right. I think the OP and a lot of the comments have washed over the fact that whether the grower gets dealt with or not, her son's behaviours were risky and illegal, unlikely to have stopped in the summer and need addressing, or there will just be other dangerous situations in the future.

BoredChurch · 18/01/2015 11:59

I'm a bit shocked that thug guy would put this in writing Confused it's an odd thing to do.

This is a good example why using drugs is a bad idea - unless you know exactly where your cannibis is grown then it may be funding thuggy nasty shits like this guy.

OP, I agree with everyone that you should contact the police. This may well put your DS off cannibis but if not you could get some home testing kits to check he is not using. I think you would be justified doing it as his actions have bought this situation about (obviously it's not the DS's fault the guy is a shitbag)

Roussette · 18/01/2015 13:35

Yes Imperial, think it might be a tad tricky growing it over here with our rainfall Grin

RandomNPC · 18/01/2015 14:03

As far as I'm aware (not an expert), some types can grow outside here.