The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Starting the New Year in Fine Style

[venusandmars]

Hello, I'm Venus, and standing in for Mouse (who usually starts all our threads)

This is a safe and welcoming place for anyone who is facing up to a problem with alcohol. It may be something you’ve known for years, or it may be that struggling with dry January has made you re-think your relationship with drink.
Anyway, welcome old and new, lurkers and posters. It can be a weird thread at times – travelling on a bus called Gerald.... he takes us up and down and this wondrous land, searching high and low for Babes in need of some support, a warm place to sit and chat, and to have someone to listen to them.

So, grab a seat as we swing by your way. There's lots of hot drinks, food and fleeces, places to just be and places to sit around and chat if that's what you want.

We don't judge, because we've all been in your shoes, be they stilettos, wellies or crocs!...

We're just us, we're just honest and we just do what we can to help, if we can, when we can. If you find all the banter off-putting just jump in with a cry for help.

And HAPPY NEW YEAR xxx

Here is the very first, emotional thread if you would like to see where this all started

Our most recent thread, if you want to catch up

Thank you, Fox.
Ruby Its such a complete sadness. I can't pinpoint the moment but I feel like I'm drowning in my sadness. I'm crying but have not touched the wine yet.
Wry Am in bed. If I don't sleep now I'll crack.
Good night, everyone. Sleep tight.
xxx

Khalisi nothing wrong with a good cry. Tomorrow's another day.
Sleep well.

Sleep well Khalisi x

Hi Ruby lovely ma pipped me with Bosie definition!

There. Sorted!

Corking job tipping Saggy Watter doon the sink, sterling job there ma! Xx

khalisi ah toots, hope you find much happiness and peace in your dreams me dear, tomorrow is another day. See you in the morning, xx

Ruby has summat ticked you off lovely? Lemme at them... Raaaargh. Try not to stew, read a tat mag or watch some chewing gum for the eyes like celeb big brother and zone out the mean reds. I agree bed is best. Keeps you away from the cupboards. Xx

Took me half an hour to walk from the stop, the pavements are treacherous. I kept thing Little would do a Lassie and come and get me, but no. Lazy arse is welded to her warm bed. She hates the cold.

Shiiiiite. Thinking not thing. Cold has addled me. Despite my sheepskin mittens.

by the way crabby*, I'm still holding on to your big claw. Don't nip me mittens will you darling?

I hope I feel more like me soon. I thought I felt a glimmer of me earlier, it was fleeting, but there was a happiness and joy for a few moments. Almost a contentment I think. Might have been the Dairy Milk.

Doc on Wednesday, and I trust her, she has been so supportive. I don't like the numbness, but it sure is better than the despair, the silent weeping and the sadness.

Thank you sweet crabby for holding out your big claw, I'm hanging on tight. Be warned, I mightn't let go for a while yet...

xxx

spanna, I don't suppose we could take Gerald to the Golden Arches Drive Thru could we? We could park up, fill our faces with Big Tastiness and set the world to rights. How's your day been me old mucker? xx

Hey wry. Got bloody soggy washing everywhere! Grrrrr, going to bed and hopefully tomorrow will be a better day. Got a business dinner to go to tomorrow night and will have to be polite and restrained and make small talk when all the while HE will be at another table in the same room and I will have to fight the urge to just stride over there, sweep the glasses and plates to the floor , throw him onto the table and shag his brains out!
Sorry, don't know what came over me........

Is it wrong I'm giggling childishly at your last sentence ma? Mind of utter filth me.

I'm a dab hand with a dustpan and brush if you do the sweepy thing. I have access to bottle/glass bins. I can pick the glass out of his and/or your arse and tend to the cuts. I have dressings. I have a nice bedside manner.

My cousin is a sexual health advisor, so also have access to plenty of free condoms. Wait until you've eaten though ma. before you start chucking plates aboot. You'll need all your strength....

Sweet dreams ma....

Anne Kirkbride has died. 60. No age at all.

Eeh I remember being absolutely hooked on the Ken/Deirdre/Mike triangle.
Seems like yesterday...

why do people on this bus keep using the word 'triangle'?

Soc I don't know what you mean

Wry stick with us Babe, I'm sure the ADs will even out and you will be restored to yourself once more Oh yes let's park up and stuff ourselves with Big Tasties. Actually the last time I had one (approx a week ago) I wolfed it down and felt quite queeeezy after, not a good feeling I have eaten my body weight in food over the last few days, tis no good for me Have a good day lovely and watch that there ice. XXX

Ma enjoy your meeting this evening, can you not arrange to meet in the toilet for a quick shag

Khalisi Babe I hope you're feeling better today lovey, just take it one day at a time and be kind to yourself

Hi Ruby and Sweet have good days lovelies

Beaches twinkle hope you're ok darling, I am quite frozen with boredom in the evenings, can't be arsed to do anything. Nothing on TV, not got a good book on the go, but I am sleeping, although waking up at 'stupid o'clock' Have a good day honey bunch

Baby have a good day gorgeous Babe x

Hope come out, come out where ever you are. Loads of hugs and strength coming out to you xxx

Day 18 today, no real urge to drink just a bit Meh. I think that pesky moon is getting bigger Must get DDs up and out without any scenes it's hard work innit? Right now I'd like to be on a white sandy beach, with a light breeze blowing, crystal clear blue skies and a sexy man lying beside me

Morning All, Just about to wave DPs off for their two weeks of winter sun , so will be back soon.

That's them gone! DH and DS also out of the house, so it's just me, the puss, and the marking for the rest of the morning. The Bun is running around outside and keeping Puss amused at the window.

KhalisiI hope that sleep and a new day have brought you some relief. As awful as that sadness feels, I am sure that allowing out the feelings that alcohol have dulled is important.

Wry, I think we are seeing some of the 'old' you, but make sure you keep some for yourself (and Little) - glad I wasn't the only one who giggled at "don't know what came over me . . . ."!

Ma hope today brings you everything you want and wish for - just not necessarily with an audience!

Morning, Soc, Spanna, Ruby, Obrigada and every-other-babe.

It's bright and frosty here and the really good news is that the sun is now high enough to reach parts of my garden that it hasn't reached since the end of November - Spring will be along soon enough.

I can hardly believe that I am able to say that today is my 20th day AF, I don't want to let my guard down, but it does feel very different to every other time I have tried to get some sobriety. I know I need to give myself a chance to see what I can do with a long period of clear heads. Although my app says I have saved over £230 so far , I won't see the benefit of that until next month because of Christmas and the way DH and I budget. But, I am looking at gardening catalogues and thinking about all of the lovely things I can buy for my new greenhouse.

Today I will not be drinking, and I will be sending out positive vibes to all the Babes who need them.

That's me, look... holding your hand and coaxing you out of your flowerpot cave.

That is gorgeous Crabby.

Morning all. Think I officially have lazyitis, I am sleeping loads but never refreshed.

I will try and post later when my brain switches on (on standby at the moment)
is it time for a sleep yet?

hey indie
everything will be kicking in now. Try and look after yourself

X posted Isinde. Sorry you're struggling

Big Bus Hugs, isinde

Just don't struggle alone, Isinde.

Grab a duvet, Ruby - pretend you're a squirrel and semi-hibernate.

Oh I like the sound of "semi-hibernation" Sweet - permission to do the same as Ruby

Isinde big hugs for you x

Good morning, Babes!

Big, big hugs and many warm thanks for all the love. Really appreciate it.
It is hard coming to terms with the past two years.
I was in a really great spot when I met ex-WB (emotionally, financially, health-wise). So much so that it took me a year to realise he was abusive because I could not imagine that (and this is a huge shame part) a woman like me would find herself in an abusive relationship. But by then I had already bought the house and had so much to do that I didn't take the time to just end things. Worse, I needed him. And of course ending up in court having to get a Restraining Order against him cost me quite a lot of strength.
My confidence is shattered. My trust in men is gone. I am financially crippled. I think it will take a long time to recover. Which makes me even more grateful for having you all in my life.

xxx

ma, I know what came over you! Its called Lust! [grin)

[wry] Good luck, my dear friend. I'm going to see the doc if this doesn't get better because it might be depression?

[sweet] Day 20, babes! For me, too.

[isinde]

Permission granted, Obrigada.

Khalisi, the shame is his, not yours - anyone can be taken in by an abuser. The word 'feminist' is on my CV (yes, literally), and I suffered EA for 13 years DS's wank-badgering sperm donor. Don't worry about trust in men - trust people, but above all, trust yourself.