When I was first pregnant, unplanned dp was very happy and willing and talked about all the things he wanted to buy for the baby. I said I didn't mind second hand, but really wanted a new and decent pushchair. He agreed to a bugaboo which was easily affordable at the time. I then found something I preferred more all in for £400. Do said to send him the link, which I did. But nothing happened. This was my 3rd and last baby and I'd always wanted to be able to get a decent pushchair having had a few secondhand ones with the first 2 and living in a top floor flat which meant a basic stroller was my best option.
His mum then bought one out of a charity shop and out of politeness I accepted. It was shitty and very stiff trying to fold and unfold and the handles were too low. By now the nice pushchair was too affordable and I was given an £80 budget to get one on eBay and ended up with a scruffy but nice parent facing. But the wheel broke a week in and it's usable but noticeable.
It's partly about this representing his change in attitude since being early pregnant and eventually ended up sitting in the car during my midwife appointments even though I'd had a lot of complications and I ended up buying everything for the baby on my own out of the child benefit. He wouldn't even look at things. In the end the only thing he bought for the baby was a pair of shorts and a t shirt.
I feel completely let down and discussed this with him. He didn't say a lot just looked sorry for himself and said sorry.
Then I got a gift card for mothercare and the stroller I wanted was on offer so it would only cost £40. We drove 25 miles to the nearest mothercare where he then reserved it for the following week, I tried my best not to feel disappointed. But he was supposed to ring on Saturday to extend the reservation and hasn't. So I'm pretty sure if I drive there tomorrow I'm going to find it's gone, it's a very small store.
Now I just feel all the disappointment all over again. I just can't seem to let it go. Oh, and the reason we could have afforded a nice one and now cant is because Dp got a big pay out of compensation which has now ran out.
After I got the pushchair from mil, I said ok but I'd at least like a nice changing bag and I'm using one I got from ebay for a tenner and doesn't for over the handle bar.
I know I'm being ungrateful but I just feel let down and want to get over this