OK, hi. It's now exactly a month since I discovered my partner's emotional affair with an old school friend. The shock is still with me: wake up with a knot in my stomach every morning, still have the shakes intermittently and it almost ruined Christmas, but we've reached a point where we want to work together to heal things but I have the obvious trust issues. I searched for a men's forum but this seems to be the best. I love her deeply but will not live a lie or settle for second best. We have two teenage children. Anyone else going through this?