**Reconnecting 2015**

[knightofswords]

Hello this is the thread inspired by the recent NY making friends thread, for anyone who feels a lack of RL friendships for whatever reason, and wants to do something about it.

My personal aim for joining this thread would be to end the year with a few more genuine friendships, even if they just stay online. So if any of us needs support or encouragement or a shoulder to cry on or just a virtual , we know where to come.

Here's to a great year.

Chillie I know what you mean, I have met some really nice mums since having ds, but other than occasional mummy meet ups, the friendships haven't progressed. May I ask how you found your book group? I love reading so that might be a good activity to try.

knight I can't find the FB group, sorry, I'm a tech-dunce! I'll PM you.

I should say that most of the time I don't actually mind being on my own, although I realise I am in danger of developing reclusive tendencies if I'm not careful. Last night, though, I went out for drinks for a friend's birthday and realised that I never have anyone other than one friend and family to do anything with for my birthday or special occasions. The last two years I have taken myself away for a weekend for my birthday, which was lovely, but it would be nice to have a handful of people I could occasionally do things with. In the (highly unlikely) event that I ever get married, the only people I could invite would be a few family members! I don't want a huge crowd of people and to be going out every night, but just a few to do things with would be nice.

Playthegameout I searched on Google for book clubs in my town and one of the results was a Facebook group that I contacted and have been going to ever since.

Thanks Chillie, I'll try and have a look today. Hope everyone's ok this morning. Good start to the day here as ds slept until 7 - woo hoo!

Morning all, am currently mainlining coffee in the hopes of being able to de-clutter my bedroom today. I'm not sure it'll work but I figure it's worth a shot

Good luck awitch , when you've done yours, will you please consider coming here to do mine?!

A book group is a good idea, Chillie. Will look into them.

DP has just got up (his turn for a lie in) so coffee on the go! He's back to work tomorrow and neither of us are looking forward to it.

Humph, tree coming down today. Cue major sulking from DS1 probably (and me).

DS2 currently tired and grizzly and refusing to have a nap.

Have joined the Facebook group.

How did you manage to join the Facebook group, Aristotle? I'd love to join. I searched and couldn't find it - only other ones named MN Social for people living in Minnesota!

It came up in the search box at the top, though I had just added knights as a friend, so maybe that bumped it up?

For anyone having problems finding the group, I just did a search and it is there. It's the one with the coffee mug icon and a very small number of members (at the moment)

If you still can't find it, just pm me and I will add you. I am travelling today so may not check in now until late this evening

Also, for those 4 who are already members, you can also add or approve people to join.

Can't find the group

Great idea. :)

Oooh could I come and join you?

I moved to a new area last year and whilst I've made a couple of friends here, I don't have anyone to regularly talk to.

It's made worse that I had loads of friends in my previous area and didn't realise just how much I would miss them.

I also don't think people perceive me as someone who feels lonely as I give off a confident and outgoing air that doesn't quite match up with what is going on internally.

I'm happy to add people to the group if you want to pm me your FB name.

Anyone not joined who wants to, please pm me or Aristotle or the others whose usernames I cannot remember. For some reason you have to be friends with a member before you can join a closed group. There must be a way round this, does anyone know?

Marking place. Spent nye doing bugger all and after a very busy Chrisymas in our hometown catching up with so many friends and family coming back 'home' here made me feel very lonely.

missmusicale i could have written your post. I'm sure i give off a 'im very busy and outgoing' vibe but inside it is a whole different ball game. I think im probably quite a complex person. I know i come across confident but inside i am quite shy.

Hi can I join please

I had a bad 2014 and I'm determined 2015 will be better. I have lost touch with a lot of old friends and am finding it difficult to make new ones. I'm not very good at large groups or meeting people for the first time but would like to have a couple of local friends to meet for a coffee and a chat.

Hello inmyshoes and feelingdetermined

Hello arist

Hi Arist