**Reconnecting 2015**

[knightofswords]

Hello this is the thread inspired by the recent NY making friends thread, for anyone who feels a lack of RL friendships for whatever reason, and wants to do something about it.

My personal aim for joining this thread would be to end the year with a few more genuine friendships, even if they just stay online. So if any of us needs support or encouragement or a shoulder to cry on or just a virtual , we know where to come.

Here's to a great year.

Don't worry Baking, we are about to create our own little "like farm".

Any more suggestions for names before I start the group? Are we allowed to use Mumsnet in the title?

Like farm

Love it

Hmm not sure about using mumsnet although I know there is a fb group called mumsnetters not sure how official that is either?

What about just "MN Social"?

Ok will call it mn social, thanks mlb.
Before I can set it up I need to add members, it won't let me do it without, so I need at least 1 person to add me on FB first, can someone PM me pls?

By the way I will make it a secret group so that only members can find or see it.

I'm sure others have already, but just messaged you. X

Have PM'd you my fb name

I'd love to join this, too, as I moved to a new area recently and haven't managed to make friends here yet. Please let me know if there's anything I can do to help!

Great to meet some new faces, hello to you all!

Knights, I have emailed you with my facebook name too (no idea how setting up fb groups work so don't know if you needed me to).

I would also like to join..the Christmas period also brought home the lack of RL friends and family..

If its a secret group does that mean I cannot search to find it?

We could make it closed rather than secret? So that you have to request to join, giving MN name?

What do you think knight?

Secret or closed is fine. I was just on my FB looking for it and could not find the group so guessed that it probably is because its a SECRET group!

Just need to work out a way people can join.

If secret will need to pm our real names on here ? Or people can facebook request to join a closed group stating MN name.. The latter might be better in terms of making sure we are inviting the right people ? As in if people have common RL names

Well, I just joined a group in my area on meetup.co.uk but I just don't know...most of their meet ups are evenings which I just can't do at the moment (EBF five month old and a very clingy poorly-sleeping toddler). It just all seems like so much energy that I don't have...

Can I join please?

Like the idea of th FB group! Sorry I wasn't around very much, had one of those days today. Trying to maximise lovely time with dh and ds before it's back to work. Hope everyone is ok, fab to see the thread growing. How do I join the FB group please? If it's ok?

I've moved to a new city with young children and soon to be divorced. I'm taking my mum's advice she gave me as a child "go join a club or something!". I always ignored her advice (and made friends eaily naturally) but I need some intervention to help expedite things on he friend front so I am 1. Joining a tennis club and 2. Joining a canoe club.

Sounds silly but I'm looking forward to meeting new friends in a healthy hobby. Get lost 2014...bring on 2015!!

Just send me a pm with your name Playthegame, I am waiting for the others to accept my fb friend requests so I can start the group.

OK I will make it closed then if that's ok with everyone.

Ok group is formed, it's called MN Social just look it up on fb and apply to join

Am.about to send a join.request

Ok maybe not- there are a few..and the most recent says 9 members but set up about 2 months ago?

I can't find it so I sent a PM

I'd like to join in please

I feel like I've been ditched by my friends since having my DS as I'm no longer available for post work drinks and weekend chaos. They are all still clubbing etc and we're drifting apart. My DH works away during the week so I'm on my own a lot with our 6 month old. This means that our weekends are family time, so friends don't include me in weekend events and I'm feeling increasingly lonely.

I'd be happy with a lunch/dinner once a month and maybe a cinema trip, but it's tricky!

I've always been rubbish at making friends, my introverted nature probably has a lot to do with that. We also moved around a fair amount when I was little (including several country moves) so I think I have developed a reluctance to let people get close because my experience always was of moving away and never seeing people again, plus I have self esteem issues which mean I tend to chicken out of asking people to do things with me. There's this little voice in the back of my mind which keeps telling me that there's no point in asking because people will have better things to do than hang out with me. It's hard to break, even 20 years down the line.

I have been going to a monthly book club for well over a year now but I only see those people there, I haven't developed relationships with any of them outside the group. So for 2015 I will try and work out how I can do that. I will also try and find another social group to join, possibly through Meet Ups which has been mentioned on here several times. My first task for the year, though, is to find a new job! A project I was working on ended in December so I'm currently out of work. Who knows, if I find a new job maybe I will find some people to socialise with there.