What should I do about this?

[Ohbollocksandballs]

After last disastrous relationship I posted here asking for advice, and advice I got! So now I'm back again.

Partner works away, he was back home Christmas Eve-the afternoon of the 27th. His family are scattered around and he does not speak to the majority of them, apart from his sisters.

Anyway we had planned that he would spend quite a bit of time here with me, as it was my first Christmas as a SP, and DS was at his dad's. However Christmas Day night, he went out in the afternoon and got bladdered, didn't hear from him till midday boxing day, when he was full of apologies etc. I gave him the benefit of the doubt, then he did the same thing Boxing Day too, to an even worse extent, causing trouble with his ex, various people in the pub (this is what he's admitted to). Naturally I was pretty pissed off, especially when the morning after he was adamant he'd done nothing wrong. Told him that I wasn't prepared to put up with his shit.

He went back working away yesterday, I didn't see him before he went, aside from Christmas Eve day, and Boxing Day during the day. However he called last night saying how sorry he is, how stupid he's been to upset me, how I am good for him, how guilty and down he feels about it, and that isn't how he usually is etc.

Part of me wants to believe it, but twice in a row? Really? Good people of MN, what do I do?

[pictish]

I wouldn't want one of my friends to come and stay with me supposedly for Christmas to fuck off out to the pub to get bladdered, leaving me sitting in on my puff for two days either. I'd think "you're a shit friend".

[Ohbollocksandballs]

He called last night again with the apologies and got told to fuck off.

On top of this, both me and DS seem to have some sort of sicky/poo bug.

[Somethingtodo]

Well done Oh....what is stopping you BLOCKING his number?

Each time he makes contact and you respond - he has won - he has got a reaction and you are injured. Are you waiting until HE stops calling to be sure it is over? Why give him that power - it is your decision.

Why do you need to expend any more negative emotions on this twunt? Choose to disengage, choose to only expend positive emotions in life with those who make you feel good. Turn around and cuddle your baby.

[EnriqueTheRingBearingLizard]

He wasn't defeated, he was rumbled. They hate that

I tend to agree with Annie.

Sorry to hear about the bug OP turn it around and look at it as an end of year/end of relationship cleansing, ready to start afresh
creative way of looking at things

[BuzzardBirdRoast]

He is not the sort of person you would pick for a friend though is he? Imagine if he had done this to a friend, you would be telling her to run a mile.

[Ohbollocksandballs]

I have blocked his number (praise be to iPhones).

Thankyou to all of you for your advice once again,

[Somethingtodo]

Oh -- that is a really, really strong and positive thing to do. Congratulations!

Hope the poo & sick subside...

[Somethingtodo]

Are there any other areas you need to block? FB, LL etc - could he turn up on your doorstep? workplace? social place? If he writes - return to sender - unopened and unread.

[Ohbollocksandballs]

He will not turn up, at least for the next few weeks as he is Away.