If your H sent this message, what conclusion would you draw?

[ForTheLoveOfSocks]

Hello, sorry I had to leave you today. My only chance and ice blown it lol. Hope I get another one, one day.

Could it be about project team work that he's stuffed up and off the team?

Its not necessarily romantic though? What were the other messages like?

What were the other messages like?

I'd guess OW. Agree with the person who said it sounds like he regrets getting cold feet. However, I also agree with the person who says it's all about context.

Is there a chance they play a sport together? Go to the same pub? Share a hobby? It could be that they'd been planning to do something perfectly innocent, but were unable? I hope it's innocent.

Make sure you save the number. Give him one chance to tell you the truth.

I am ashamed but I did snoop, which I admitted to when I asked him.

His claim to it is that he was sending that message as a wind up. He has joked in the past that she likes him, and only judging by what he has said I would agree. Apparently some of his other colleagues where giving him some stick about it, that's why he sent it. When you read the other messages, they seem only v slightly flirty, pretty harmless really. She didn't reply to his message either

He has also said she has a thing for married men and that he thinks she's is seeing a former manager (who is also married).

I'm being played for a bloody fool, aren't I?

If I don't come back straight away, I'm going to try and get some sleep. One of the DD's are bound to be up in the wee small hours

It could well be innocent,it could not.I wouldn't take it as a definite.

What do you think op? I'm guessing you've already had a gut wrenching fear by now

Sorry,cross post!

I think BalloonSlayer has got it.

If it was worked related that he had messed up, I would expect that to be mentioned more specifically. Vague enough to be "explainable". He's keeping his options open. Sorry.

And please, don't hold back. I think I need some straight talking to help me, IYSWIM

Why does he want 'another one' then? He's protesting a lot, isn't he? Making sure that you know there's a predatory woman about who targets married men... Yes, I'm sure that's absolutely true! Stupid man.

Sorry OP. :(

when was it sent
what were the other messages
what is the work relationship

I can see a thousand innocent reasons for the message
and about 50 dodgy ones

if my DH had a fit each time one of my clients called me lover / sweetie / darling / dearest / gorgeous girl
we'd have divorced long ago
but actually they are just thanking me in their inarticulate way for reducing their tax

His explanation is more worrying than the message itself! Why would he wind up a work colleague in that way?? He sounds like an utter tit

Even given his excuses, the chances of this being completely innocent seem remote. Sorry.

even if he isn't shagging this woman he is one cruel fuck to send a wind up text like this purely to take the piss with his equally brain dead mates, isn't he

both those scenarios make him look like a piece of ahit

shit

Very much sounds like cold feet over a liaison. His excuse is vague and ridiculous.

If he hadn't come up with that shitty excuse is have said it was probably something work related, an important meeting he had to leave early?

He's dug himself a hole trying to cover whatever it is up though. Question him again. Not very professional to wind your colleagues up like that, is it?

And she might have replied but he's delete it. Can you talk to her?

I'd think he was after her and she'd turned him down.

I'm with mwalimu the excuse just made it worse than the message, though the message is pretty suspect.
Tbh, the second they say "for a joke" you know they're lying cheating arseholes IMO. Sorry.
Really? He would text a known predatory woman who fancies him, with no context to hope he gets another chance?
Lame lame lame.
You see the predatory thing? He is shifting the blame. But why shift it, when he hasn't done anything wrong?

Don't apologise for checking his phone. I suspect you only did it because you have reason to doubt him. And - you were right.

If you are checking his phone I imagine that this isn't the first thing that has rattled you?

His explanation makes him sound a bigger prick btw.

Sometimes the lies one tells reveals much truth about a person

reveal

I'd guess he's been flirting with this woman and leading her on but he's now turned her down. So the good news is he's probably not sleeping with her but the bad news is that he's leading her on to the point that she thinks he's going to.