Can't believe he could do this

[loganberry12]

You may have read my past posts me & ex split up after a second try which didn't work basically because he's a knob. But he hasn't even attempemted to see our 5 year old dc over christmas not even phoned to talk to her no card or presents nothing. Tbh its a relief for me but I can't understand how he can totally cut our little girl out of his life. She has mentioned him a couple of times over Christmas I've told her he's poorly bless her

That's ok loganberry ... I just knee-jerked a bit in case he was bullying again ... the man just gets my hackles up! You're absolutely right about being detached, very astute to recognise that you'll have emotions pushing your buttons too. Time will sort out much of the residual echo of love. That's all it is. An echo from the past.

You're a very cool person, loganberry!

Dropped my DD off this morning as arrange it went smoothly we didn't really talk only to tell him what time is be collecting her Sunday after I finish work. He looked a mess tbh unshaven & scruffy so that helped with the emotional side lol he wouldn't look at me when I spoke. So that's that hurdle over with.

Well done, loganberry!! That truly is a huge hurdle overcome. And he couldn't look at you, eh? Says a lot, doesn't it? He's being the submissive one now ... good!

how did collecting your dd go today ?

Fine she wasn't ready so I had to go in while he packed up her stuff. He was quite chatty wanted to talk but I had been at work all day & knackered so I got my Dd in her boots & coat & helped packed up her stuff . I left as quick as I could said hello to his parents quickly & told him I'd see him in a couple of weeks when he has DD again. She's been a little moo since we got home & still not asleep so hope this doesn't happen every time she stays at her dads

Well done to you for cutting it short logan, that was obviously a tactic (DD not being ready) and it failed.
She will be unsettled for a while, it's been too long since he could be bothered (thought it would get to you) to see her. Prepare yourself for him loosing interest if he is not getting the results he is after.

I hope for DD's sake he doesn't she didn't want to leave & asked me if he could collect her from school tomorrow! I told her we'd have to see because he's busy hopefully she'll be ok when I collect her tomorrow & he doesn't

Yes, you did brilliant to be so business like. Do you remember when you'd have been so not like this? A world away now, hey? You're fantastic and whatever the twat does you will let your DD become a gorgeous young woman, with full self respect and a sharp instinct for the bad 'uns. It's cost you to be able to give her this but you're awesome!

Aww thank you tipsy