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Original poster

He's being awkward

65 replies

jl1983 · 25/12/2014 10:49

Well the guy I spent all my time with alone on the Xmas works do kissing and cuddling till 5 in morn now acting awkward and off with me ?? and doesn't rember much as he had too much to drink... How am I supposed to take that

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bluebell345 · 25/12/2014 10:51

I think its best if he doesn't remember then you forget all of it, too.

oswellkettleblack · 25/12/2014 10:54

Move on.

GaryBaldy · 25/12/2014 10:56

Yep put it behind you.

FolkGirl · 25/12/2014 10:56

You're supposed to take it at face value.

You were both pissed at the works xmas do; you snogged; it wouldn't have happened otherwise; you thought it meant something; he didn't realise you'd think it meant something... the drunken snogging of colleagues at the Christmas do is to be left at the Christmas do.

Original poster
jl1983 · 25/12/2014 10:58

Well he's acting an ass only remembers bits... Why act so shirty thou

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oswellkettleblack · 25/12/2014 11:03

Because he feels it was a mistake and he's a knobber. Just blank him and forget it happened.

FolkGirl · 25/12/2014 11:03

Because he does remember but isn't interested in pursuing anything/regrets it/feels embarrassed so is pretending he doesn't remember as much as he thinks he can get away with.

He probably feels a bit awkward because he realises you're viewing it differently.

Or he's married/has a gf and feels guilty

EhricJinglingHisBallsOnHigh · 25/12/2014 11:10

He's not interested in a repeat, sorry.

Original poster
jl1983 · 25/12/2014 11:29

I've been ok with him it's him being weird with me and we do work side by side...he was alone with me for so long thou

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Hissy · 25/12/2014 16:50

sorry love, but exaclty how needy do you need to be?

he's a twat, he fancied a bit of nonsense and got it, now he doesn't want to know anymore.

grab your dignity with both hands, chin up, tits out, teeth shown and carry on.

think like water off a ducks back. moping around after a fumble is going to make you look an idiot, don't let that happen. got it?

come on! you're better than that!

FunkyBoldRibena · 25/12/2014 16:55

sorry love, but exactly how needy do you need to be?

^

You had a christmas do snog. Haven't we all. Get over it!

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jl1983 · 25/12/2014 17:49

I'm not desperate... Just he was with me all night and if it was for a bit of nonsense he would've done his best to get into bed

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JeanSeberg · 25/12/2014 17:53

Delete his number and take the hint!

FolkGirl · 25/12/2014 20:41

Look we've all done it. I've snogged plenty of people when I've been drunk. Some men think it means you 'like' them, some take it at face value. Annoyingly, some think I'll think it's more than it is because I'm a womam and that's what we do... Hmm

But I've never assumed a drunken snog is any more than that. And if I really liked a man, I wouldn't snog him at a works do when drunk. It's a bit too tacky for anything serious ;-)

FolkGirl · 25/12/2014 20:42

Well, not plenty...

magpieginglebells · 25/12/2014 20:46

Sounds like he was pissed, had a snog and a bit of a snog and now he's embarrassed and wants to forget it!

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 25/12/2014 21:44

I can't believe you're still pining for this guy. You had great advice on your other thread and nothing has changed... NOTHING.

He's not interested. You can carry on moping and building the snog up in your head - or you can move on and maybe find a nice guy to be with. The choices is yours but this guy is not available to you, he just isn't. I don't know what he has to do to drive the message home but you work alongside each other... don't make yourself a pathetic laughing stock, please don't.

LadyLuck10 · 25/12/2014 22:01

You're acting desperate now. It was just a bit of fun, yet you've taken this to another level. Just move on.

Original poster
jl1983 · 25/12/2014 22:45

Why isn't he available? Even if he was drunk you're npt all over someone all night without nada there

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CinnabarRed · 25/12/2014 22:49

Because he doesn't want you. I'm truly sorry, but he doesn't. Surely you've drunkenly snogged people you don't really fancy? That's what's happened here. That's why he's unavailable.

dirtybadger · 25/12/2014 22:51

jl1983 you aren't. Some people are. Plenty of people actually.

Original poster
jl1983 · 25/12/2014 22:59

But as u don't know him how world u know... He was with me for hrs alone all over me we didn't have sex not the action in my book of someone who doesn't fancy the other person

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dirtybadger · 25/12/2014 23:00

Okay, so ask him? Problem solved.

Notfootball · 25/12/2014 23:04

It was just a snog jl1983 and it means nothing. I've done it loads of times, got drunk, snogged someone like I loved them then not wanted to see them again. It seems he doesn't fancy you so please don't make an arse of yourself. Just enjoy it for what it was.

oswellkettleblack · 25/12/2014 23:07

All you did was have a snog and diddle. I've shagged men in such settings and never considered it more than a drunken one nighter.