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He's being awkward

65 replies

jl1983 · 25/12/2014 10:49

Well the guy I spent all my time with alone on the Xmas works do kissing and cuddling till 5 in morn now acting awkward and off with me ?? and doesn't rember much as he had too much to drink... How am I supposed to take that

OP posts:
hashtagwhatever · 26/12/2014 14:25

Ok op, everyone here is wrong

Why do YOU think he is being awkward with you??.

Finola1step · 26/12/2014 14:30

This is what I think has happened.

  1. Work place banter for a few months mixed with a bit of flirting. He saw more banter, you saw more flirting.
  1. Work Xmas drinks. After a couple of hours, he's had a few and is feeling a bit randy. Gives you a go.
  1. He's quite happy to pass a few hours snogging etc.
  1. Next day, he sees it as just a few snogs. Others are taking the Micky. You think it might be the beginning of something.
  1. He realised that the situation has got way out of hand. Backs right off. Pretends he can't remember. Doesn't want anything to happen.
  1. You're clinging on, trying to work it out.

Leave it be.

dirtybadger · 26/12/2014 14:48

OP you are utterly deluded, sorry.

Cantbelievethisishappening · 26/12/2014 15:24

Why post for advice if you have no intention of taking it on board. Call him out on it you sound idiotic enough to do that then come back and tell us what happened. Smile

feelingunsupported · 26/12/2014 23:48

We don't know 100% but honestly, without trying to be horrible (most of us know what it's like to fancy someone and for them not to be interested. It's horrible) he'd be ringing you and asking you out if he were interested.

bluebell345 · 27/12/2014 09:26

op, the things that have been said here may sound harsh to you, but they are from experience, many people went through same things, they got hurt and they know the score. they give you their experience so you don't get hurt. they are trying to help you. one day you will meet someone nice, who wouldn't leave you with question marks in your mind and will make you very happy. this one doesn't look like the one. best wishes. xx

FunkyBoldRibena · 27/12/2014 09:53

Lol. It's a drunken snog. He probably had about a dozen over the last three days. He may have even woken up with one of them.

What a load of angst over a snog with someone!

Please OP - don't go out on NYE - everyone snogs at midnight and we can't cope with the anguish from your prospective decisions over which one to marry.

ChristmasTimeName · 27/12/2014 10:07

Long, long ago I would have acted and felt just like you. Most of us have done it. Now I'm much, much older and much, much wiser.

At parties etc you can progress relationships with people you're attracted to by being friendly etc, but you don't devote your evening/night to them unless you fancy a shag and can cope with the probable rejection afterwards Rarely does anythong positive come of that.

Now move on and stop being silly. Learn from the experience.

GaryBaldy · 27/12/2014 10:53

How old are you OP?

As someone else has said, we've all been there before and know enough to suggest you take it for what it was and move on.

Fluffyears · 27/12/2014 14:19

Have you never had a drunken snog before? Yes he likes you that was heightened by alcohol so he gave you a snog. Now he is back to just liking you but you're pushing him away by acting crazy. How do we know? Well we've been there and been round the block a few times and know how it works. Guys can kiss and have sex with absolutely no emotion attached. If he does like you and you act normally and stop forcing things he might decide to change his mind!

FolkGirl · 27/12/2014 14:53

Guys can kiss and have sex with absolutely no emotion attached.

Some guys can. As can some women. I've had sex with someone because I liked them and wanted to but wouldn't want to be in a relationship with them. In fact, I currently have a fwb who falls exactly into that category. If I thought he was thinking like this OP, I'd be horrified.

Although I suspect she's no longer reading this thread...

Fluffyears · 27/12/2014 16:43

I think OP is confusing liking someone with something more.

AlphaBravoHenryFoxtons · 27/12/2014 17:02

Invite him for lunch tomorrow so he can meet your parents. But be sure to tell him it would be a bit forward to ask for your hand at this early stage. He should wait til next Sunday to do that. Grin

expatinscotland · 27/12/2014 21:15

It was only a grope and a snog. I've shagged men under similar circumstances and it was never more than it was: a drunken one-nighter.

Please get some help or read 'He's Just Not That Into You'.

vitabrits · 27/12/2014 23:37

I've been there. He's not interested.

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