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DH has a demanding job with a lot of pressure.
When he's not at work, on holidays for example, he's the man I married 20+ years ago but the rest of the time he's short tempered & grumpy.
He's a great one for giving orders & expects me to jump straight to it. Basically treating me like one of his staff, who are paid to run round after him.
I work part time in a job that I love but that doesn't pay well. I'm happy to take on the bulk of the at home work because i have much more free time but I resent the constant criticisms. He wants things done, his way, on his time scale.
We have a very comfortable life due to his job, of which he often reminds me. He's not mean with money but keeps a careful eye and I do have to account for every penny. The fact that, if I wasn't in the background, raising our two teen DSs and doing all the domestic stuff, he wouldn't be able to do.
I think he is aware of his unreasonable behaviours but think it's part & parcel of the role and that I should just suck it up. His father is the same and my MIL just accepts but I'm not willing to be bossed around which causes rows.
Has anyone experience of this and how do you deal with it?