The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Driving Through A Sober Winter Wonderland.

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Hello, I'm Mouse

Welcome to the Bus, he's called Gerald.... he takes us up and down and this wondrous land, searching high and low for Babes in need of some support, a warm place to sit and chat, and to have someone to listen to them.

So, grab a seat as we swing by your way. There's lots of hot drinks, food and fleeces, places to just be and places to sit around and chat if that's what you want.

We don't judge, because we've all be in your shoes, be they stilettos, wellies or crocs!...

We're just us, we're just honest and we just do what we can to help, if we can, when we can. Let's try and have a Merry Christmas without getting off our faces this year.

Here is the very first, emotional thread if you would like to see where this all started

And the last thread if you want to keep up!

Is the original JSM still here lovely babes?

Read original thread so wondering how she is?

Would it be weird though to say that I felt I was on a walk with many friends because I knew you'd all be supportive of the effort?

Just watched old crime stories and there was one of a beautiful young lady murdered by her ex. And it got me thinking if the Restraining Order will be enough to keep my ex away.
And now I really, really, need a drink.

Am going to stay strong. Making a cup of tea and heading off to bed.

Good night, babes.

Well done khalisi
Day 2 in the bag.
munning she may be lurking...

Oh hope massive hugs x

Right that is day 1 done and it was fine. I intended to begin yesterday but there was 1 glass of champagne left from nye and I couldn't resist.

A few years ago I would have had the lots plus a shitload more,all to myself for nye so I'm making progress.

Love to all

Well done guggs. Am safe in bed with yet another cup of tea and sick of it already....
Dreaded day 3 tomorrow. We need our sober wise women to help us....

hope, please stay with the bus, if you can't vent in RL then this is the place surely? All these lovely folk here can listen and give useful feedback, not just 'it'll be fine'.

This is coming from the biggest hypocrite going, I'm in hiding really, nothing to say, lots to drink, finding life easier if my head is in the sand and pretending to be the other persona I present to the world, not the honest one I am on the bus. Sorry I'm just following and not commenting at the mo, life is all a bit odd. I am still here, just tucked very firmly into a corner of the sidecar.

Hey popcorn keep posting.
And if you could just hoover round the sidecar while a few of us are riding with the big kids on the bus, that would be grand.

popcorn life is indeed odd, very nicely put. You may not be posting but you've "came out" to support our lovely hope which proves your well and truly one of us so stay close and let us be there for you too.

khalisi its a lovely comment that you feel we are with you on your walk, I often feel, especially when things are bad that the babes are always here, after a day, month or a year, there is always just a few taps on a keyboard people who "get me". That's been a huge comfort to me. Ps If we're on your walk with you, do we burn the calories too??? If only.... Xxx

guggs so lovely to see you, you've be an angel to me through some very dark days, I always feel better knowing your close by.

One of my big triggers for drinking was my self imposed loneliness, my depression made me cut out friends and family in favour of wine and despair, well this bus means we're never alone, and that really helps.

Hugs to every single babe reading this tonight, YOU ARE NOT ALONE xxxxx

Morning oh luscious babes

Hope stay on the bus. You can just pour it all out here.

And talking about pouring, pour all that poison down the drain too.

It's Saturday morning here, I am off to yoga. Such a vast improvement to my life. Normally on a Saturday morning I'd have been so hungover and so guilt ridden and so anxious. Now I feel fantastic.

Those of you who seriously want to stop, you really need to do it. It is the best thing I have ever done.

There will ALWAYS be an excuse to drink. Get rid of the excuses. They are not valid. Wine is only good for a glass or two and if you can stop at that, then there isn't a problem. But anymore more than 2 glasses (regularly) brings anxiety, depressions, guilt, self loathing and a heap of other shit.

You're not doing yourselves any favours by making the drinking about 'other' stuff. Without the drink you'll cope so much better with all the shit that life throws at us. Drinking destroys you. And makes you a teeny tiny pathetic version of yourself. It's such a temporary reprieve (30 minutes) and then it's a real awful fucking monster hell bent on making everything as difficult and awful as possible.

Without wine, life is manageable. So, so much more. And so much nicer.

The first few days are hell, but stop making excuses because they don't go away and they are just excuses. We all have electricity and the internet. Life seriously can't be that bad.

Just don't put that first sip of wine in your mouth and you'll be ok.

And from today, No more excuses.
xxxx

Just finished the last of the Christmas booze, not counting sherry and gin which will keep. So day 1 for me tomorrow.

khalisi just started watching season two of GoT need to print out a character sheet of who's who...

I didn't get the memo about bra-less Friday. Ah well, there's always next week.

Thanks for the virtual walk today, that's my exercise done

IsIn I couldn't read and run even though I know nothing of what's gone before. I can though hazard a guess as spent some horrendous last weeks with my DM last Feb before she passed.

Sending you un-MNy {{{hugs}}} and hope you have a peaceful night. It sounds very beautiful that your DF can spend a last night with her

I didn't want nobody to reply to you and am guessing the babes may be in bed but please know you are (or one is) never really alone on MN; I do though hope a babe or 2 is along shortly for you.

Take great care,
Munning X

Oh isinde I am so sorry she had to go. .

Big hugs isinde.

xx

Such a busy day yesterday - in RL and on the bus.

Isinde, words fail me. You post was full of such calm love and resignation. Remember to keep some of that strength for yourself, but to allow others to provide it when you can't.

Hope, don't hide. Don't be afraid to let t all out. The bus is one of the safest places I know of. I feel so much is familiar in your experience, I had a WB of my own who made me responsible for his life's woes, and his financial security, amongst other elements of EA. It took years to pluck up the courage to make him leave, and yes he escalated all of his needy abusive behaviours, but he survived (despite threatening not to), and I thrived - well it wasn't easy and I have a drink problem that started at that time - but I promise you staying never gets better, and the control that being responsible only for yourself (and the DC) gives you outweighs the difficulties. He accused me of leaving him for someone with more money, because money was all I cared about - ironic since what leaving did was give me back my own money.

Hi to everyone else - won't name check in case I leave someone out and then feel bad.

I had a bit of a day of it yesterday - and it was only being sober that got me through it - starting at 5am with having to remove DS's computer from his room (not supposed to be in there); that turning into forensic examination of his browsing history, that lead to, well, we think we have headed off some very dangerous stuff, but it is really scary. The little bugger thinks he is too clever, and too savvy - and I thought we were careful vigilant parents - we were all very very wrong. Just thinking about it now gives me palpitations. DH remark with something like awe that I dealt with the day without resorting to drink.

Anyway, day three - the good thing about Dry Jan is not needing to do the counting. Will start taking the decos down today, which will keep me busy - if Puss-the-Cat lets me without stashing all the baubles in her litter tray - yes, it's been that sort of Christmas!

Morning

isinde I'm so sorry to hear your news and I hope that her passing was peaceful. I'm glad that you were there for her at the end,that really matters. Be kind to yourself,I'll be thinking of you today. I'll light a candle for her if that is ok with you.

baby I'm drawing strength from you right now. I'm just beginning to think beyond the worst of my depression and I've isolated from most of my friends. I know that sitting indoors drinking isn't an answer so I need to stop drowning my feelings and to begin to feel them again. soc puts all of this really well as always. Please keep posting both of you babes I need to borrow some strength today.

ma Day 3,yay! Day 3 is when the booze is really out of your system. How are you feeling?

Big wave and smile to all other babes. You have all kept me going through some very dark times recently. i'm crap at nc so please forgive for now.

joey I'm always lurking here and wanted to say hi : )

Day 2 and today i will not be drinking

isinde I'm sorry to hear this but you have the comfort of knowing you did all you could at the end.
ma well done on day 3
sweet you can never be too vigilant around children and computers especially as they are often convinced they know everything and you are just a spoilsport!

Day 2 for me and I have just weighed myself as a result of my cutting down I have lost 1lb!!

gugg you've done this before and you can do it again. And you know it's better.....You've just got to get through this bad part and out the other side. Life is soooooo much better. Just head down, bum up and don't drink. Look after yourself. You're worth so much more than this stupid drinking lark.

Morning Gugs

Soupey, don't I just know it, he is seriously pushing it as well - I think he must have an old ipod stashed somewhere, because this morning I have found some posts from him on various social media AFTER I removed the computer and phone - how stupid does he think I am? BUT, well done on the weight loss - would like to check out the Christmas damage but my only scales are the Wii Fit board and we lost bits that make it work in the move last year!

Sober, thrying to imagine if it is possible to drink in the head down, bum up position!!

Well no it's not.......so stick to that position then.

But so many other possibilities

Morning all.
indie my thoughts are with you. Take strength from the babes on here who love you very much.