This is a question for my a friend who was recently engaged and her fiance has come out with a confession that he wasn't faithful to his first wife.
I am good friends with her fiance and have known him for 3 years since they met and he seems like a lovely man, gentle natured and seems to dote on my friend.
He loved his first wife as much as he says he loves my friend and they divorced after 13 years of marriage because they "grew apart" and as far as I know the ex wife instigated the divorce an they are still good friends.
I'm really taken aback that he has just made this confession to my friend and I am worried for her. He said he told her because he didn't want any secrets between them.
The cheating was always one night stands. Some opportunistic, some planned and some with prostitutes and there was 17 incidents over 15 years together which went on from the first year to the last year. He has never told his ex wife and she is still in the dark but I was particularly horrified that his best friend and brother were also "in on it" and that several friends know about it and even helped cover up for him.
I like this man and feel like he loves my friend, but he freely admits he loved his ex wife just as much and I am concerned about the capability of a person to lie like that to someone they claim to love.
His reasoning behind it was that they had a lacklustre sex life.
What do you all think of this? My friend had a terrible situation with her ex partner and she deserves to marry someone she can trust and who will treat her right.
What does this say about this man's character deep down? Am I over-reacting and what should I advise her? She seems to believe he won;t do it to her because they have a brilliant sex life.