Being ignored by boyfriend

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For the 2nd time in 6 weeks my boyfriend of 4 months is ignoring me. I've done nothing wrong. He's just stressed from work, from his ex playing games with contact with kids, and a bad cold. Why do men think this us acceptable ?

I'm really supportive to him and that's how he treats me. I won't get in touch with him I'm determined not too

Don't leave it until he decides to contact you.

Send a final message that you not not deserve or accept this situation and you want no further contact or relationship with him and please not to contact you again.

Then block him from phone/FB etc.

Otherwise you are going to be waiting for him to contact you.

Last time I asked for my key back and he suddenly remembered how to text and phone me.

Please don't give in to him, otherwise he will keep on doing this to you whenever it suits him!

Deliberately not speaking to someone (the person you are supposed to want to share your life with) is a really nasty and manipulative way to behave.

It is designed to keep you on tenterhooks, wondering what you have done wrong and what you can do to get him to talk to you. The simple truth is that he is being a nasty piece of work!

You deserve better!

If you phone, does he pick up? I would be phoning to call it a day and to get my key back. It's no way to live.

I'm sorry you are experiencing this. It is so hurtful.

No he doesn't pick up phone he ignores it.
And I do feel like I'm wondering what I've done wrong

Only you can stop this behaviour, and I don't mean by threatening to end the relationship, I mean by actually ending it. If this is happening in the first flush of romance, imagine yourself ten years married to a man who stonewalls you and your children, and has them wondering what they've done to Daddy to make him ignore them for a week - for God's sake, get out now, before you get in any deeper, and don't fall into the trap of thinkings someone like this will change what seems like entrenched behaviour. This is a blessing in disguise.

Text him asking for your key back and tell him that you're done. Only 4 months into a relationship and he's behaving like this? Dump his arse, you've done nothing wrong, he's just a twat.

You give me such strength thank you everyone, I'm going to
do it

End it. If he's like this four months in, it will only get worse. He's making excuses for his poor behaviour and knows you'll put up with it because he's done it once and you didn't end it.

It's abusive. Grown men don't go and sulk and withhold communication for days on end. It's horrible behaviour and it won't get any better.

You deserve someone who wants to talk to you and be around you, not a dick who is happy to ignore you when things get tough.

1 In future, don't give keys to people you hardly know. Get yours back or get the lock changed.

2 He isn't your boyfriend, partner, other half. He's a stranger you've known a few weeks.

3 He ignores you because he can. He comes back, not because he loves you, but because you are convenient. What does he get out of it? Sex? Accommodation? He might want those more than he wants a relationship with you. Why does he have a key?

4 Dump him.

What everyone else said honestly who needs this shit after just 4 months? Don't give him the opportunity to find you just text and say your done.

Well last time I spend every night down his and no sexual contact just cuddling up. I warned him if he did it again we would be over.and here we are again!

You have to follow through now.
If you told him that last time and he's doing it again then it's complete lack of respect for you and your feelings.
4 MONTHS IN!!!
End it now!

I agree with everyone who's said dump him. You've been together 16 weeks? And twice in the last six of those he's ignored you like this. It doesn't look good, does it?

You deserve way better than this OP. End your misery and go out and enjoy yourself.

Just off load this loser

It seems he will treat you exactly as badly as you will allow

So stop allowing it

I've asked for my key back, and I god damn mean it, I've had enough of hearing him winge about his ex and her game playing and here he is playing a power game with me. You are all right I do deserve better. Thanks

His Ex is probably as pissed off as you are, btw.

Dear god, get rid. What an arsehole. After 4 months? Just dump on FB. PM, this doesn't work for me. We're through. Bye.

And that's it. You owe this person nothing.

I think you'll find that if you spoke to his ex she has or had the same problems as him.
If it's not too much hassle then change the locks - a yale barrel costs around £20 and you can diy, very easy.
He wants to piss you off and the key thing is simply power games

Decent people don't do this

Text him telling him you are ending relationship then get locks changed. Safer than asking for key back.

Then delete and block everything. Job done.

Most men like this at least manage to keep up the nice front until you are married/ have a child. This one can't even keep
It up for 4 months!

Just think how much worse he would be in just a couple of years if you continued to put up with this nasty behaviour.

There are lots of men out there who would not dream of treating their girlfriend like this. Get out there and find one of them

Get the key back and bin him.

Have you heard back from him, OP?

I would change the locks even if you do get the key back. You have no idea whether he's made copies.

OP - ignore the knobjockey here.
It's been reported by many of us I'm sure.
Let us know how you get on.