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[jesy]

Can I start us ???'

gotta Think you have to give him a chance, he might be trying to make life easier for you.

I am struggling to find places to go on dates near me, ( think very rural) the locals must think I am a right one.

gotta I was always slightly suspicious about Kent Lad - he lives by the sea but works in London, he kept saying he'd invite me down but never did, then made an excuse about how his house was so untidy.

I'll never know if there was more to it than that - I'm sure he wasn't cheating but not 100%.

He was the charmer that after we broke up (again) in summer rang me at work to say he'd got an STD from me (it was thrush, he didn't know about that not being an STD) and texted me accusing me of whoring my way round France - I'd been to stay at my mum's holiday home there!

jesy you sound quite practiced at catching them out!

what sods if they lose interest once they find out you're unemployed - I cannot believe that!

Super

Think it coz I do my home work , might seem stalkerish but like to get certain info ,

Last name
Rough idea where they live
192 enquires checked
Discreet nose on fB

Not trying to be negative but protecting myself.

Plus if they pick me up and only after a few dates I get dropped off out by front entrance to houses so they don't know full a adress.
Funnily enough it was only this year my ex actually came to mine ( we'd dated a year) he wouldn't let me walk from bus stop alone .
But like he said if he wants he has all my personal details on his work file lol

I th I k it suss if they won't let u have a hone adress tho

Super

About the std things I had text at weekend saying a similar thing I panicked saying omg we were careful and he said need to know how many u been with
I said we were careful and I'm not the one sleeping around x
Said didn't believe me that I'd only had sex with three men !!!

I'll be honest I said no it was for after our ons but only three were good sex a nd that don't include you.
Funny he didn't text back x

I wouldn't give out my home address until i had a better idea about the guy! Neither would i expect him to give me his address straightaway. I also google and facebook check people.

super kentlad sounds like a right idiot. you are well rid of him.

Dippin

With Mr IT it was on our third date I asked as I was being picked up after the date

jesy - wow I can't believe how many men pull this one... re the STD.

with Kent Lad I know he was trying to get at me cos I dumped him.

I remember asking him why did you ring me at work (on my mobile) rather than after work? He said the nurse had told him to ring me ASAP. I'd got upset naturally at work...

dippin yes I am well rid of him!

Jesy to be honest I think most of us do the snoop stuff, well I do anyway, linkedin, FB etc...

I remember recently I'd left my phone at home and was in work (wasn't supposed to be, had a holiday booked off but had to come into work).

I got home and my brother had been trying to ring me (parents were away in holiday home but they live 10 minute walk away) and he'd got hold of a mate of mine who popped round out of the blue, they thought I'd been on an internet date and not come back etc...

I do generally say when I'm on a date, who with etc but now, I'll be even more spot on re the details. My brother was livid bless him....

dippin I am the same, I give the location where I live but i never let anyone drop me home...

I don't think I mentioned the nutter I met off GSM - he found out where I lived (area) said he'd "come round there with some mates and find me in a bar" (he was strange), I immediately rang my brother's friend who's a Met detective.... just to get advice etc.

Think it's best to be safe.

I'd chatted to someone local a d he said you looked very pretty today walking the dog might be an ok comment but I'd walked her the sa.e time every day and I'd never mentioned it to him so he'd obviously taken a chance meeting and kept doing it.

My date today with Major Tom went well, Glass of wine and a walk about then a coffee. He's very sweet, nice looking and good body. He had a legit reason for not wanting to meet in his town.
I am not use to compliments or touchy feely people because of my upbringing and my EXH of 12 yrs never telling me that I was pretty, no praise at all in fact.
Major Tom is very ott for me but I'm going to give him a chance because I'm a bit of a ice queen and need to let a man be nice to me.
He's tall dark and handsome, a gentleman, interesting job, is in my age group and conversation was good. I was a little uncomfortable with the attention but that my own hang up.

jesy Do you also find it hard to accept a compliment. You must be pretty jesy, did you like him?

Oh god gotta I find compliments hard.... but trying (and am actually) enjoying them

Goodness! I have a lot of catching upto do!
Got fed up with the same old facrs on pof. I've just joined okcupid, talking to a naked guitarist & a viking at the moment. I seem to attract the normal ones :)

facrs meant faces although there were a few facrs on there.

Gotta

I don't think I am pretty at all, average at best .
Think I get asked out as men see blond with 32f boobs lol

gotta I'm pleased Major Tom had a legit reason and you had a good date!

jesy - yeah some men do go for the blonde and big boobs stuff - I'm blonde and 28FF (so similar). But I've been told I'm pretty. So I tend to use that to my advantage. I'd be daft if I didn't believe it.

I think you're probably prettier than you think you are jesy

IMNOT - naked guitarist and Viking? how do you know the guitarist is naked?!

I have a naughty confession

Do you remember Mr builder ,

I chatted to him on and off after the picture incident anyway it turns out he actually been chatting to a friend of a friend's daughter ( she only 20 and to be honest one of the sweetest ppl In ages)
She texted a pic of him to me last night and it was like a kick in the teeth, same name same pic he used on me .

It's prob morally wrong but between us set up a fake profile to basically rat him out.
Yes I k ow the words we get are all bull shot till it happens but what if it's some one who is vulnerable,

I'll admit I fell for words a d so did the mate.

Plus on a rubbish note think my weekend date off :-((
He texted last night saying sorry not been in touch but problem at home , his teenager daughter pregnant .

Super
Maybe I should play on it more

I don't get many compliments
My first bf , his heart was in right place , I picked him up from work one day and I'd dressed up a,bit as we were going out for tea

But I guess him saying yep guys and she comes home with me ! Guess it was compliment

super - the helmet in profile pics was a clue in both cases

Morning all. jesy your life is full of drama, sorry to hear about Weekend date.

I am messaging a chap, will have to call him Mr Builder, have spoken on the phone too and sounds nice. He is now bugging me for a Selfie ( nothing dodgy) but wonder why this is important. Have a lovely profile pics that I am told look exactly like me, Selfies are horrid.

Blossom

He not said anything but his daughter must come first

Profile pics are all well and good Blossom, but he wants to see you doing a kissy face selfie; indulge him a little.

made I have never taken a selfie and I take a horrible photo.