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[jesy]

Can I start us ???'

Thanks guys... We are meeting this eve... 4th date in just over a week . We are messaging just as much since we dtd..
I was on pof and match, pof has its good and bad moments, match was also hit and miss.

Super What worries me, the guy I have a date with tomorrow, ill call him Major Tom, he's very full on. I don't want to get carried away with the attention, fall for him and then end up dumped. He said he'd looked at my pictures again and thinks I'm beautiful and hopes I like him when we meet.
Pressure, he's only seen me from the bar and my profile picture. He's very flirty but no sex texts yet.
If it does go well and its mutual attraction, I know I will find waiting to dtd hard.
Is Mr Kent totally out of your life, did he always make you happy?

jesy Thanks, I hope your date goes well.
Disappearing men on pof is not unusual. I did have a possible date for weekend but the bloke takes a day or two to reply, not very reliable. I told him that we both appear to be too busy and probably not a good match.
Have my date tomorrow with Major Tom, he's very keen on my looks but he doesn't know me.
Still texting a young guy i had a date with last week, he's funny but sea working for weeks.

Yes I remember HelloBoys :) I am only on POF, tried GSM and there was about 3 people within a 10 mile radius of me! Is there any other free sites people could recommend? I deleted Tinder due to stupid distance issues

crow Try Freedating.co.uk, had tons of messages no one I fancy yet but a numbers game I think. Mind you probably best not take my advice, OLD is rubbish for me right now, I am so rural and think I have seen anyone that is out there. Keep hoping to see a fresh face.

Gotta I hate to say it but yes exact same story with Kent Lad... very full on, very complimentary, DTD sooner than expected (but he was cool with that).

I can't say anything but - keep your eyes wide open and remember spidey senses... You could, not that this puts men off just say you want to take things slowly.

Gotta - I hate to say it but any man fixated with looks (yours or otherwise) I would say maybe they're easily lured (maybe MadeMan etc can help us out here...).

but then again I tend to go for looks too...

I tend to be lured by singing rather than looks. I've shipwrecked many a boat by being lured onto the rocks by some fair maiden's sweet siren song.

Super Messages out the blue like "You really are beautiful" Makes suspicious. Its ok to state it once after first date to let someone know there's attraction.
I don't just go for looks and find men that try and get by on a fit body and handsome features a turn off but wouldn't say no in my head :)

The thing is I got turned of Major Tom in the summer and blocked him, so when I spotted him in the pub I was feeling a bit sheepish. Yes he looks good, nice body and much taller than me. He was giving me the eye until he left, found me on POF and messaged first.
But things he's texting is too familiar for a woman you don't know, either he couldn't care less if I have a screw loose and just see's sleeping with me the goal. Its the only reason I can think off for his ott ways, might get him results.
I prefer a more subtle approach, like to think a man likes my personality more than my looks.
Have to let you know after lunch date.

gotta oh he's the man in the pub...

To be honest I'd go in with eyes wide open and trust your spidey senses.

hope you had a good lunch date.

I meant might get him results in the past, not that he's gonna charm my pants off :)

Gotta - tread very carefully here!!! Sounds like you are justifiably wary, and if you've a tendency to say 'sod it' and DTD then you could end up feeling rubbish. Trust me, I keep making the same mistake over and over .

(Well, used to - I'm trying to take things more slowly now...tryingtrying

Hi all you wise and knowledgeable daters! I came out of a 6 year relationship in August... I'm on POF. Been asked out by a guy, seems nice enough and I like the idea of dating/meeting new people/having some fun... yet at the same time I am totally terrified!

Is this a normal feeling? Do I just need to bite the bullet to see that it isn't all that bad?

Chatted to a bloke tonight and soon as I said no job wooosh and he gone lol

blahdeblah I was so nervous before my first OLD but it does get easier. I've done 5 now and before last not I felt relatively calm.

juju It sucks being the woman regarding dtd, its like attraction, both parties are up for it but us women feel crap afterwards.
Have to not dtd to gain a mans respect and then wait to dtd if I want a chance of a relationship.
Its so confusing and frustrating.

Gotta - I know, it's completely effing unfair isn't it. Plus of course there's the whole 'DTD thinking you're just up for a bit of no strings fun and then feel really rejected afterwards because of hormones' thing. Ffs!!

Blah - yes, dating is terrifying! I went on my first ever date at the ripe old age of 36, after being with my ex-h since I was 19 (we met at university through friends - 'dating' was an alien concept I'd only read about in teenage Sweet Valley High books!) It does get easier. Just read the rules at the beginning of the thread and post here if you need moral support! Good luck

Have you come across men who lie about their age? Was due to meet up with a guy from Soulmates when he got back from business today. He said he was 36 but he's just come through on Eharmony as 42. I'm not adverse to dating a 42 year old but I won't date a liar. I don't even know why he did it?

Dolly - yes Mexican Boxing Banker did that, knocked 2 years off his age, I called him on it and he bashfully admitted it...

I then found on through his FB page he really is into drugs, clubbing and hookers... so classic banker stereotype... thank god I didn't DTD there.

JuJu and Gotta I was given advice ages ago that as you age (eg mid-late 30s onward) it's important to DTD sooner rather than later so as not to waste time finding you're not sexually compatible.

I held off with money publishing man (Can't think of nickname but he looked like a young, good looking Tony Blair (better looking) for ages... didn't stop that hitting the rails.

kent lad it was about 2 weeks... but I doubt it'd have many any difference if I'd held out.

blah it just gets easier the more dates you go on. I came out of a 20 year relationship and remember being very nervous the first few dates, made some mistakes but now take it in my stride, probably have little expectations these days, sorry that sounds very negative.

Spent all last night messaging 2 guys last night, both seemed nice, but started to dig a bit and found a few things that maybe put the brakes on. Maybe I am being too judgy though.

I'm glad I dtd early with last guy I briefly dated, he was into hair pulling, hand over mouth and stuff. Wasn't for me and if I had waited 90 days, like one dating book suggests, may of found it awkward.
Live and learn.
Got date today with Major Tom, he's wanting to change location closer to where i live. I don't know about this one so approaching with caution. He says all the right things but I'm not easily won over with constantly being told how beautiful i am.
Any signs that he might already have a women? Suddenly he doesn't want to meet on his patch. I said i could be he was adamant he could come my way to meet. I live in easy access of his town and mine.

gotta - like I said yday I'd keep my eyes wide open...

he could have an ex he doesn't want you to meet (in his home town), he could be a player and dating more than one woman... I'd be really suspicious but that's me.

Super He's not picked the best day for a date, started my period today so more shirty than usual. He will probably try and escape through the Gents window when I start questioning him. I am not normally so suspicious or cynical.
He knows that meeting him in his town is no problem for me, its going to bug me and I will have to bring it up.
At least I can get my food shop after date.

Basically think like them lol
If you didn't want to see some one you knew do t go out in home town lol

Or in my case this week a simple remark catches them out .

A guy I'd been messaging me ages ago ,popped back up we were chatting awAy and I realised wasn't sure who I was chatting to lol
He then mentioned he'd been dumped, I texted back saying oh so sorry it thought you to were ok ( thinking I was chatting to a former date from few weeks back ) , his answer was how did you know I'd got a gf lmao at this point he'd actually admitted he'd been chatting me up while with a gf !!!

It's made me very cautious

I've got the perfect way of a weeding them out , say I'm unemployed and wait to see who runs x