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Was I wrong to say this?

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slithytove · 15/11/2014 10:45

"I wish we could afford to send DS to more classes like swimming and dance".

Having just finished football class. No one else was around, we were in am empty carpark. I'm on maternity leave so it's me who is bringing in less money. DH has a hang up about providing for his family.

In the car on the way home, DH asked me not to mention affording things in public because it embarasses him. He also said he feels that I implied that DS is suffering for the lack of these classes.

This has annoyed and upset me as I feel like I can't say anything as I don't know what's going to embarass him. I feel like he has a very low threshold for embarrassment. I also feel like he has interpreted an innocent comment and put his own insecurities on it to mean something it doesn't, which IMO is his issue not mine.

So, is what I said wrong?

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SelfLoathing · 15/11/2014 19:21

Pp seem to be split about whether it was a bad comment or not.

Just to be clear I DON'T think this was a bad comment at all.

But once you know it is something he's hypersensitive about, you shouldn't take umbrage at his reaction but just treat it as a zone in which a bit of caution/sensitivity on your part would be kind in future.