so what do you and your dp/dh.'DO'

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are you still all kissy cuddly?
have you been together long?
are you always having grown up cuddles?
do you both always say 'i love you'??

just wondering if im different from everyone else?

Still hopelessly in love . He's the best dad in the whole world, and the best dh also.

This thread has made me feel a little sad.

are you still all kissy cuddly? - No, not really.
have you been together long? - 20 years
are you always having grown up cuddles? - No. Not through lack of trying on his part, but I have issues, and don't really enjoy it, though I am desperate for more children........ quite a minefield...
do you both always say 'i love you'?? - Yes..not always, but frequently, unless he's feeling aggrieved through lack of sex, and I'm feeling aggrieved through lack of emotional closeness.

this thread has made me sad too... made me realise that our relationship isnt good any more and we've only been together nearly 5 yrs.
Tried to kiss dh and he turns my face away jokingly, try to hug him and again he just pushes me away. As for sex: no.

We tell each other we love each other every day. Have been together 8 years. We still cuddle. Fella holds my hand when we cross the road sometimes! He's my best mate really...we have similar interests and the same friends. Rampant lust is long gone, but i guess you can't have it all!

He makes appalling records, Im beautiful and have managed to make lots of money being such.

It's our 2nd anniversary this weekend. I've booked a table at our favourite restaurant (we had 'honeymoon' meal there), MIL is having DS overnight - and I'm going to start sending him flirty texts from tomorrow (like..."I've seen you around and I think you're really hot" kind of thing)

have sex.

expat - is that what YOU do, or is it an instruction for me

yep, we do have sex.

this is mumsnet. so no instructions necessary, i would have thought .

No...just with me planning a romantic weekend, I thought you might be giving me some tips
Sex is definitely on the agenda....unless we're both so drunk we can't get round to it!

Oh yeah, we have sex, just not with each other

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7 years.

Not desperately kissy now, hugs and shoulder/feet being rubbed (not massage style, just a body contact thingy iyswim).

Lots of I Love Yous, and also "Grrr" (I can't actually remember how that turned into a term of endearment... It started after Angel started!!)

Oh, and squeezing hand/leg etc 3 times means "I love you"

If I had read this thread a few years ago I would have found it incomprehensible. With my first husband (won't say DH, there was nothing D about him) there was, for the last 10 years of the marriage, no sex, no I love you's, minimal physical contact. Any demonstrations of affection had been quashed by him years earlier, he found them embarrassing, silly, accused me of being "sarcastic" or "ironic" if I was ever even slightly affectionate.

I have been married to second H (true DH) for 18 months. We kiss, cuddle, say I love you a million times a day, stay in contact constantly and have sex every day, more than once a day on weekends. I never knew such a wonderful thing was possible! At my advanced age too (in my 40's). I certainly know how lucky I am now!

I found this forum via search engine. ANd while I wasn't looking for advice on raising my two (grown) children, this thread on relationships really touched me. So much so I posted a message to my wife. It's long so I won't x-post it here, but it is related to this thread so if you want to read it... lordmeister.livejournal.com/18877.html

Thanks for helping me to hope again!