so what do you and your dp/dh.'DO'

[StrawberryFULLMoonOWOWOWWWWWWW]

are you still all kissy cuddly?
have you been together long?
are you always having grown up cuddles?
do you both always say 'i love you'??

just wondering if im different from everyone else?

Yes, very much so
Been together 7 years
Yes, when DS is in bed
Several times a day

We kiss and we hug, but I wouldn't describe as kissy cuddlying people, that makes us sound a bit sopy and we're not.

Been together 10 years as a proper couple

We quite often have a hug while cooking dinner but I wouldn't describe them as 'grown up cuddles', sounds too fluffy for my liking

We tell each other we love the other yes but not always saying it, again that just sounds all needy and ick

Last week we lay on the sofa and had a long snogging session and it didn't end in sex which was nice. Long snogs are usually confined to the bedroom and lead on but not all the time.

• still kissy cuddly (- although not always completely genuine due to rough patch earlier in the year!)
• been together eight years, married seven.
• don't understand what grown up cuddles are but do a lot of groping while cuddling if that's relevant.
• say "I love you" quite a lot. DH says it more than me - I didn't say it at all for about three months on principle (wasn't sure I meant it)but do try to say it every day now!

Have to tell quick funny story - DH and I cuddling on sofa the other day. DD (aged 22 mths) starts saying in a "lovey dovey" tone of voice "Mummeee, I lurrrve you, you're beee-uuu-tiful". Then she came over and started stroking my hair and kissing my forehead. We absolutely peed ourselves laughing - where on earth did she learn that from?!!

StrawberryFullMoon - what are you answers to your questions??

Together 21 years married for 14.

Just like paranoidandroid

OK, what do we do???

Grunt as he walks through the door, exchange 2 words over dinner whilst feeding kids, washing up, helping with HW etc etc. Do crossword together over dinner..silently usually. Make cup of tea sometimes. Have heated discussions about politics, religion etc over bottle of wine in evenings sometimes. Laugh a lot. Sleep in same bed. Say 'morning' at relevant time of day, ditto 'goodbye have a good day'. Occassionally when finding each other awake during night we might have sex. Kiss on the odd occasion there is time to do so. Say I love you quite a lot but usually over the phone 'cos otherwise there are too many other things to say.

You lot are soooo soppy

yes to all!

Yes
Yes (started going out when we were 19/20), and have been married 12 years (since age 24).
Yes - and 'family cuddles' for the whole family
Yes - always sau i ove you in the morning, when we part for any reason, at bedtime, any other time we can.

We're disgustingly soppy actually!

Moyasmum - it's a lonely position to be in, isn't it?

yes i meant sex as grown up cuddles

Cashncarry, my amswers are
no
11 years
no
and
no

im just wondering on what im doing here, wanted to see what happes in other poeples lives to put mine in perspective..and it clearly has

im not sallystrawberry if thats what you mean, strawberrymoon

yes, too long.
im only 29 , were having a bad patch thats lasting about 2 years and i feel like i need more

we have always been 'conflicting' but since dd came along(sorry sounds bad but its true) we just lost 'us' we have both changed drastically, and i really try but feel like im fighting a losing battle.
if were talking its normally snapping other than than, we're not talking
i keep suggesting nights out but they never arrive

I'm sorry, Strawberry, if our "soppyfest" upset you. What I and I suspect othr posters didn't say is that it isn't always perfect and rosetinted and we'll all have been through some tough times. Although my dh and I are happier than ever now, we've been through our first son being devastatingly brain damaged and then dying aged 7, being told our other son would also be brain damaged (at 30 wks - teeny bit stressful), in the end luckily he wasn't, me getting cancer, him having anger issues, etc etc and I suspect most people can give a list of the stresses and strains we've been through. Don't think everyone else's marriage is blissfully happy, and easy, no-one's is. Stick with it and seek help.

TBH FioFio, were uually the same when were drunk but last time we went out with friends on his birthday, when he went to kiss me i felt ..i didnt want to kiss him and he looked at me strange cos were normally kissy cuddly when out, but i couldnt and even waited down stairs for him to go to sleep then went and slept in spare room.
but that didnt trigger it, he was never as intersted in sex as me, and now he doesnt sem intersted at all?..with me anyway

mumblechum no it hasnt, not at all
its nice to know people are still walking round in love years on..i didnt want it tobe a maudling thread, just a sort of survey

should have prob change my name for this

i cant get him to go out which is where we talk with neutral ground/free flowing drinks..a good night out could sort out lots!..just cant get him there.

i am doing something for me sort of, am joining a slimming club cos my weight is also getting me down, but thatll be just a quick 1/2 hour class not what youd call social life!

16 years (8 married)
a bit kissy cuddly, but not out in public nowadays; more so in private
Say "I love you" daily