Lock on bedroom door?

[timefortea79]

So my DH has just come home with a lock to put on our bedroom door. It doesn't sit easy with me but I can't really explain why. He says it's 'just in case'. I don't think it's necessary and is just going to prompt questions. We have a 3 yr old and 9 week old.

What does anyone else think about this?

You need a house like mine... extra high door handles that the 4yo can't reach

I'd never have a lock on my bedroom. But then we don't have one on the bathroom door either.

That's the thing bitoutofpractice, I'm not sure why I'm uneasy with it, but that was my initial reaction when he came in with his toolbox and lock. Perhaps it was the lack of discussion about it.

Having heard from you all perhaps it's not as odd as I first thought...

I put a small bolt type lock on our bedroom door after our dd walked in on us late at night when she was around 6 yrs old. Hubby was mortified at the time! Since then if we want a quickie in the mornings etc its not a problem, in fact the amount has increased so works for us ;))

Really New?

I don't think Pipbin was being sarky new. I think she was being amusing

Ah, sorry, sounded rude to me. But if it was meant to be amusing then

Your DH is putting a lock on the bedroom door because he thinks you will be caught shagging when you have a 9 week old

Hahahahahah!- he is clearly an optimist

Thank you alpacasosoft!

Another mentally scarred one here so another vote for the lock. I have very few memories of when I was little for some reason but one that stands out is walking in on my parents and being told to get out. I had no clue what was happening or why I was being yelled at! Only years later did it dawn on me what had happened.

I started this thread thinking there was no need for one, but now I'm wondering of they're actually a necessity!

4YO DD walked in on us recently, it was a weekend morning and they were both awake, and we thought watching TV. We were trying to get a quickie in, under the covers. She just asked if we were having a cuddle, but it could've been worse.

Maybe this is the solution. Then there's no need to be shrouded in duvet, with half an ear on the hallway, and be braced to spring apart at a moment's notice. Not exactly conducive, is it?!

DH positions a large heavy suitcase behind the bedroom door.
Makes a change from moving the earth for me: "Darling, would you like to move my suitcase".

I think it's probably a good idea when your DCs are a bit older, but a bit insensitive given that your little one is only 9weeks and you're craving sleep rather than sex!

TMI alert, my cat started scratching at our bedroom door just as dp was about to finish the other night. It frightened the life out of him, he leapt under the covers thinking it was my dd at the door and had a less than happy ending If it had been one of the DCs rather than the cat I think we'd all be scarred for life! Lock is definitely a good plan. We've taken to putting a basket of washing or something heavy in front of the door for now.

Ds2 has also wandered in asking if I'm ok, having heard me making some 'strange noises' one night. Poor little fella.

If you decide to go for the lock I suggest you fix it high up so your lo's can't lock themselves in easily.

No locks on bathroom doors, and only one toilet with a lock - that's what singing is for or you take company on the loo - which we do on the loo without a lock (its a big room).

But lock on the bedroom door - we have 4 kids between 6 & 10 and it is an absolute necessity for morning sex, particularly on a school day!

I think it's a great idea, you can use it to lock your dh out. Top thinking from him. Thoughtful.

Locks on the bathroom and loo doors here .
I grew up scarred for life when we had no loo lock as a child " in case we got locked in"

Jesus wept people actually have sex before school- I would kill my DH if he so much as looked at me before Ive had 2 coffees !

Ah Peppermint a woman (?) after my own heart !

I have been reading too many bad news articles and bad relationship posts. I thought of something completely different.

OP, if you don't want the lock then don't have it.

alpaca

Can't see any other sensible use for it...

I think it's odd. And a bit creepy, tbh. Say no.

Oh, and yes, a woman. When I last looked.

Always a lock. I wouldn't dream of not having one.

Where do you lock your valuables when you are out?

Completely normal in my eyes!

Always had locks on bedroom door. I wouldn't be able to relax otherwise. The door is normally wide open at night. All our doors are a bit sticky, so if the LO can't open it, it's not surprising.
The teens know what's going on anyway

And yes, the thought of sex 9 weeks after giving birth is very optimistic. Haha. Tell him he can take his time to fit it.