Head of the household? really?

[youcannotbeseriouslady]

Ladies, I have a question for you. Do any of you follow the biblical way of marriage in that the husband is always the head of the family and therefore makes all the decisions. I think the interpretation is that it doesn't mean he doesn't consult the wife but certainly he is the Head and the Wife his number two. This does in effect curtail the role of the wife in decision making since if there is ever a disagreement then the husband has more sway. Does anyone follow this line of thinking and apply it to their marriage on a daily basis? Does it result in a happier marriage or lead to resentment, since what if the 'leader' makes an awful decision?

I just cant imagine 'deferring' to anyone. I run the house, it is my domain.
I may mention what im going to be doing, decorating/purchasing wise but have never asked if its ok.
I am a bit of a fishwife though and it would be a brave man to try and make me defer !!

We have got it sussed in this house.

I make all the small decisions and he makes the big decisions.......and I tell him which ones are the big decisions

I'll agree men can be the head of a household on the day science discovers brain cells in a penis. Which will be never.

Meanwhile, DP and I consult and share decisions.

Hold on to your hats for a bit of theology. The english word 'head' appears in the bible and is a translation of the greek word 'kephale'. Kephale literally means head, however when it was used metaphorically by the greeks, it did not mean ruler or boss (as it does today) but most commonly meant source (as in life giving source). So when the bible says that the God is the kephale of Christ or that husband/man is the kephale of wife/woman it has nothing what so ever to do with authority, leadership or decision making. Secondly we moderns associate our heads with decision making because that's where our brains are located, however the greeks/ hebrews believed that we made decisions with our hearts not our heads. Sadly men have read authority into the word kephale, because they assumed that they should have authority over their wives (for their own misogynistic reasons). There is no place in scripture where men are commanded to rule over their wives and no place where wives are commanded to obey their husbands. Although there is a place where a husband is commanded to obey his wife, and a place where a wife if praised for taking decisive action in rebelling against her husbands foolish decision!

DH and I are a partnership, neither of us is ever in charge.

That said, we each have our own areas of expertise, so whoever has the knowledge and the understanding in the area we are working in has the greater voice. DH does DYI, house project management, ditto garden. I do cars, day to day running of the house, holidays, supporting DDs with school and anything IT.

Everything else we research and then decide on together.

The heck with this one person needing to be in charge, it just leads to 50% calamitous decisions.

My husband is the head if our household. Everybody knows it.

However I am the neck and the head goes wherever I let it!!!!

I'd love to claim the credit for that ditty, but it's from the wife in my big fat Greek wedding.

It probably results in a happier marriage for very ordinary type of man.

Of course my husband wears the trousers in our relationship .

I however , tell him which pair .

Seriously , we're equals . He would never dream of being the Big Cheese .