Help me figure out this argument

[puthyjip43]

Ok- bit of background..dh and I have an 11 month old. I've just returned this week to work, yesterday was my second day.
Left work at 4pm, picked up baby, came home did washing, prepped dinner, fed and bathed baby.
Dh came home in time for a 10 min play and then i took baby for breastfeed and settle to sleep. Meanwhile dh is on sofa messing about on his phone.
Come back half hour later, dh still on phone and i say I'm going to get our dinner , can he get baby monitor and make sure camera is turned on etc and baby is ok.
I heat up dinner and he's still on sofa not got baby monitor.
I say to him 'ok i guess I'll get the monitor. I wish i had 5 minutes to sit down and rest'
He EXPLODED! Started shouting at me that i always put him down, he's been at work all day too etc etc
He then grabs keys and storms out drives off and returns an hour later, won't speak to me and goes to bed.

I slept on the sofa.
This morning he completely ignores me and goes to work without saying anything.
Wtf? What have i done here? Please help me understand??? I know he's stressed at work but geeez

I started to write an enraged comment about how it's possible he doesn't know what needs to be done, doesn't he have eyes?? But then thought that if I suddenly had to deal with our bills, paperwork and administration, I wouldn't know where to start either. And I'm not lazy or useless, DH has simply done it all himself.
Dishwasher comment was stupid, but passive-aggressive replies are obviously not helpful either. As you have done it all so far, he might actually need clear directions. You have your own routine, so simply explain what it is and discuss how it could be shared. He needs to understand the fact that you are no longer solely responsible for everything domestic.

Is your H this passive and helpless at work?

Oh dear what can be said that hasn't already been said.

Glaring observations:

Let him do the chores how he sees fit, do not ever stop him from doing it because you think he doesn't do it well enough.

He is not helping you! It is his housework and his child.

What a pain in the arse to have to tell a grown human to get off their idle arse and do the correct thing.

No wonder lots of people feel so much better living alone than with a tit like your dh.

Oh and if things don't improve straight away, they never will.

Jaysus.

How on earth do you maintain a sex life with a man like this?

Has he considered the startlingly simple concept of opening the cupboards and having a look? Talk of threadbare excuses...

wow. just wow. hello 21st century, some folk still not arrived yet sorry