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Is my husband right?? Do you still go to nightclubs??

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HAPPYFACE · 30/09/2006 22:54

I've arranged to go out with 2 friends next Sat evening, (this will be the 1st time in 18months!!) we are going to start at the pub and go onto a nightclub. We are aged 32, 32, and 40.
I would perfer to go to a place for over 25 in age but am struggling to find one close enough!
Dh then said to me we will have a combined age of over 100 and we will look silly!! He went on to say we should stick to having a meal at the indian restaurant!!
He doesn't go out with his friends even to the pub but he is happy not to and is more "homely" than me I suppose.
Do you think he's right, I mean I used to see women in their 50's (rarely I suppose) when I was younger and thought it was great and would have liked my mum to have been out with me someimes!!

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cece · 30/09/2006 22:55

If you want to go to a club then go.

moondog · 30/09/2006 22:56

I went to a nightclub two weeks ago (rare occurence admittedly) and at 39 didn't feel out of place (and my arse is smaller than that of most of heifers I saw)
He's being a miserable old fart.

prettymum · 30/09/2006 22:57

just because he doesnt like going out,doesnt mean you have to be stuck at home with him!! go out with your girls and have fun!!

Peggotty · 30/09/2006 22:58

He's just jealous!!! Go for it, just don't wear spangly boob tubes or anything . But be aware, you WILL feel ancient (in comparison) and probably won't be able to have a proper conversation or a nice sit down. Then again, you might not care about that. Enjoy!

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HAPPYFACE · 30/09/2006 23:01

I'm 32 and my friend of the same age is still single so we don't want to feel too old!!
Where do all the single men of 30 plus go then in the south east??
Anyone got any ideas/suggestions?
I used to be very confident when I was younger but tbh I'm feeling quite nervous!

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lou33 · 30/09/2006 23:02

i go out to clubs and pubs and i am nearly 40

i dont feel out of place, i usually have a great time

Peggotty · 30/09/2006 23:03

Errr, i take it you don't want to meet single men, just your mate? Not anywhere near SOuth East so can't help on that one.

alexsmum · 30/09/2006 23:12

i go to clubs sometimes with my friends and i'm 34

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HAPPYFACE · 30/09/2006 23:14

I don't want to meet anyone peggotty!! My other friend and I are happily married. Obviously I'd make conversation but thats definately it!
But my other friend is really nice and just hasn't met anyone.
I was with her when I met my dh, that was 9 years ago now! I don't see that much of her really, probably a lot to do with the fact I'm married with 2 children now. She does telephone and e-mail me though. When we do get together it doesn't feel like we haven't seen each other for ages!

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Peggotty · 30/09/2006 23:19

Sorry Happyface, didn't mean to sound all suspicious, was just the way you worded your post ! I bet you'll have a great time. I've noticed that when I DO go out since having my DD I really make the most of it and have brilliant time. It sounds like a cliche but it's true that it's the company you're in and not where you are that makes a good night out.

shhhh · 30/09/2006 23:19

Im 27 and although I used to love nightclubs when I was 17 and young free and single now I would avoid them like the plague. In our town they are full of chav's and 16 year olds. Sorry for the generalisation...
IMO I would feel old.
BUT we go for a group meal and then onto pubs/ late night opening bars..There our feet don't stick to the floor, we aren't upstaged by underaged drinkers (hey I was one once..!) and we can at least hear some of our conversation.
Gosh I sound old . BUT you should do what you want.

confusedmum2one · 30/09/2006 23:20

HF - you're definately not too old to go to a nightclub! My DH went to one last night and wasn't home until gone 4.30am! Whilst I'm not quite the party animal he is, I would definately be up for going to a nightclub on a night out and I'm just a year younger than you.

I see clubs as somewhere to carry on drinking when the pubs turn out and somewhere you can choose to go to get some good music!

Go and have a great time!

sallystrawberry · 30/09/2006 23:47

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HAPPYFACE · 30/09/2006 23:48

Dh has just said when you're older you shold go somewhere respectable!!
We are all FREAKS that go out clubbing after the age of 30!
Then before going upstairs to bed has also added it is "grab a granny night"
TBH he is kind saying it in a joking way but on the other hand trying to get digs in to sort of undermine my confidence I think!
Actually I was sooo much more confident when I was younger, when I think back to some of the risks I took... I was really lucky. Still thats another story, I'm off to bed now.
I'll check in the morning for any other input... thanks in advance ladies.

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shhhh · 01/10/2006 00:01

In that case happyface go to the club..! Do exactly what dh doesn't want you to..!!

DH does got to clubs now and then and moans about it. I just remind him how he felt at 16 being in a club stood next to an older person..!! I remind him that in 14 years time that will be our dd and how would he feel if he bumped into her. ..!!!!

In our town clubs are not essential. Lots of pubs/bars are open way beyond the clubs kicking out time that you have other options.

Blondilocks · 01/10/2006 00:29

I don't think it matters. Have seen lots of older people out clubbing.

I tend to prefer funky late night bars now, but still would go clubbing.

carol3 · 01/10/2006 00:38

i went clubbing last weekend with two friends 33,40 and had a fab night danced until 3am.
It was an 80's club though .
Forgot how preditory men are by 2.55am had a circle of men round us ! not at all flatering though as they were mostly fat, balding and 40 plus

Tortington · 01/10/2006 00:42

i went out in......stalybridge 2 weeks ago. and there was a place that only admitted over OVER 28 yr olds. one of my friends wasn't old enough and so none of us went in.

theres a club for people aged 30 upwards in every town.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 01/10/2006 07:25

There are no clubs at all in this commuterville in the SE (the residents here would be up in arms!) so you have to travel further afield. There's no public transport to this place (there's a cinema and bowling alley there as well as well as nightclubs) and taxis do not like picking up people from there very late (due to the drink fuelled violence mainly).

Happyface - if you want to go along to the nightclub anyway then do. I would suggest to your friend she joins a dating agency (Dateline are good) or tries speed dating. If your friend is happy being single though then leave her alone!.

Take great care of your drinks and if anyone offers to buy you a drink go to the bar with them. Do not leave any drink unattended, completely finish a drink before dancing.

Make sure as well you've organised the cab home as well, or at least have the phone numbers of cab companies on you. God I sound like my Mum but it is sensible advice.

aDAdOnMumsnet · 01/10/2006 08:42

Definitely go. You want to, and you're not old.

trinityrhino · 01/10/2006 08:44

old is an attitude not a number
go and have fun

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HAPPYFACE · 01/10/2006 08:59

Thanks to your replies, I'm def going, my single friend is actually staying in our spare bedroom and I always organise the cab to meet us afterwards usually earlier than the place shuts!
I asked my dh if he would come too, he has a single workmate he could ask or my brother, so he wouldn't exactly have to "stay with us" in the club.
He says he wouldn't want to wake up the next day with a hangover, but I don't get really drunk, I alternate having a glass of wine then a pepsi and just stick to pepsi when I'm merryish.
I don't usually feel too bad just tired.

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fattiemumma · 01/10/2006 09:02

glad your going.

there is no upper age limit for enjoying yourself. If your Dh gets his kicks from sitting watching the Tv then great for him...you wouldnt stop him im sure, so tel him not to stop you having yours.....its been long enough.

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