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Is my husband right?? Do you still go to nightclubs??

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HAPPYFACE · 30/09/2006 22:54

I've arranged to go out with 2 friends next Sat evening, (this will be the 1st time in 18months!!) we are going to start at the pub and go onto a nightclub. We are aged 32, 32, and 40.
I would perfer to go to a place for over 25 in age but am struggling to find one close enough!
Dh then said to me we will have a combined age of over 100 and we will look silly!! He went on to say we should stick to having a meal at the indian restaurant!!
He doesn't go out with his friends even to the pub but he is happy not to and is more "homely" than me I suppose.
Do you think he's right, I mean I used to see women in their 50's (rarely I suppose) when I was younger and thought it was great and would have liked my mum to have been out with me someimes!!

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Ulysees · 01/10/2006 16:41

I still go to clubs sometimes and love the music. I've always loved them though and spent every night I could in them when I was younger. I'm 38 but don't look my age. There was a woman in her 50s wearing club gear a couple of weeks ago and she was an amazing dancer! She didn't give a toss

Go for it Happyface but make sure you go with the right attitude. Don't let anyone tell you what to do especially boring b'stards! Not saying dh is, he's just worried you'll see some hot young stud

AttilaTheMeerkat · 01/10/2006 17:00

Thomcat

Re your comments:-
"I'm so not taling about cheesy clubs with velvet cushioning and bad pop / 80's music, the sort of Hollywoods in Essex style club. Or what was the one I went to when I was - Charlie Chan's- that's it. Yeah go somewhere like that when you're in your 40's and it's worrying".

Charlie Chan's - went there when I was 14 and hated every second of it!!.

OMG Hollywoods - you do realise of course that place still exists. Was hoping the bus garage that is still there (and has expanded) would impede on it!!. Yes there are clubs and there are clubs. Too many of them around here are in the pseudo in club complete with bouncers or just plain awful/dodgy categories. One club that I was thinking of which catered to the ahem "older" (please note quote marks!!) crowd was closed down. Clubs do come and go with increasing regularity.

"But if you like dance music then the only place to really hear it is by going to a decent club and hear it played by a decent DJ who can mix and take you on a musical journey. If you're not into that sort of music you wouldn't understand. It's like going to a concert if you're into ...I dunno... the Rolling Stones or Take That, or Rod Stewart or something. I love dance music, as do all my close mates and my DP and we go clubbing to hear the music we like get played and get played well. I'm so not too old for that at 35 years young and I'm so not growing out of it in the forseeable future".

Well I don't really like that sort of music - closest I get to dance music is New Order (god bless 'em!) but I would not knock anyone for liking or dancing to that or any tyoe of music for that matter. I think its just the perhaps widely held believe/perception that dancing and nightclubs are for "younger" (note quote marks again!!) people i.e no-one over the age of say 21. Also many if not practically all people of that age or less regard anyone over the age of 30 as positively ancient. So to be in such a place would perhaps make you stand out more - not that you should care about that of course but some may feel slightly uncomfortable.

As I have often said to others life is too short (my uncle would certainly agree with that sentiment) and you're a long time dead.

soaringflyingCOD · 01/10/2006 17:06

ahem
it was an ironic post
ahem

Thomcat · 01/10/2006 17:51

Attillathemeercat - I went to both those places when I was about 18/19 and loathed them too. Proper cattlemarkets. Nasty, nasty, can't believe they still exist!

Not entirely sure why you have taken a chunk of my post and used it in your tbh, not quite what it is you are gettign at so no idea what to say back!

tiredemma · 01/10/2006 17:55

oh TC I sooo know what you mean about dance music/clubbing, Dp and I and our group of friends just love going to a GOOD club with a GOOD Dj, You have so hit the nail on the head about comparing it to going to see your fave ever artist in concert.

My other pals love 'Ritzy' types place and cannot understand why we dont like these hovels.

Thomcat · 01/10/2006 17:58

So nice when people get what you're talking about

DarrellRivers · 01/10/2006 18:18

I'm quite jealous of your nights-out TC, DH and i used to go regularly up to our early 30s when we lived in London, but since moving to the provinces, have found it increasingly difficult to find the kind of club you mean, plus it all seemed easier without children

Still, get a buzz listening to the essential selection on a friday night and listening to the old tunes in the car loudly.LOL

Thomcat · 01/10/2006 18:22

DR - let me know when you're next in London

Unfortunatley the provinces aren't quite cutting it on the club scene are they.

Loving the essential selection.

Did you happen to catch Kerry Chandler on Radio 1 recently?
I need to see if DP can burn a CD of i for you.
3 words - Oh MY GOD!

UlySCREAMS · 01/10/2006 18:30

I'm trying to find a good club in Newcastle as fancy a change. I'll keep bumping next week to see if anyone can recommend?

MaryP0p1 · 01/10/2006 18:44

I love going dancing with my friends and my mum still goes dancing and she 55. Do want you feel happy with and don't worry about looking silly. A bit of silliness and dancing keeps you young at heart. Mind you I have had to stop drinking since having my last child it doesn't agree with me at all.

UlySCREAMS · 01/10/2006 18:45

I rarely drink now too Marypop and I still have a ball

Glassofslime · 01/10/2006 19:00

Thomcat - you've inspired me. DH and I haven't been to a club for years mostly due to having a house full of babies, but now on the odd occassion they spend the weekend at my Mums. We've both thought that we'd feel too old at 38 & 42 and it's been getting us down. DH was very much part of the Manchester clubbing scene and hates feeling old. So next time the kids are at mums were going out - so the question is where would you recommend in London?

Blondilocks · 01/10/2006 19:01

I also much prefer to listen to dance music than other kinds of music - it seems to have picked up a bit, but not as good as when I first started liking it & it's not totally the same listening to it in a car or in the house as it is listening to it in a club.

MarsLady · 01/10/2006 19:06

He's completely wrong! Have a great time.

DarrellRivers · 01/10/2006 19:09

Thanks TC, missed Kerry Chandler, but where do you go for your nights out?

Thomcat · 01/10/2006 20:57

Glassofslime & DarrelRivers - tbh it's not so much where as who's playing? If Frankie Knuckles is in London then I'm out at whereever that is. I hate Turnmills as a club, too big, but have had a few great nights there as the music was so amazing, but also had some shit nights when the music was a bit off the mark and we didn't really find our vibe. I've gone right off Misery, as in Ministry (of Sound) but DP had the best night there last week becasue Tenaglia was here and it does have the most amazing sound system, no-one else can touch the sound in that main room.
I've had some great nights at The Cross, but I like the small bar bit at the end, i like The Lodge, Notting hill Arts Club. The last few top nights out have been boat partys, all dayers up & down the Thames, more party type things, like the Faith lot when they put a night on in a room above some pub somewhere. One of the best nigths out was at Mass but that was all about Frankie and playing "Thank you" in front of that stained glass window. I fucking creid man, it was absolutley amazing.

So, bottom line, it depends on who's playing.

Glassofslime · 01/10/2006 21:02

Thanks Thomcat - it sounds like not much has changed, dh and I had many a long night at The Cross, we lived a 10 min walk away - so we'd go home with a whole load of mates and wake up sometime the next afternoon - those were the days.

Thomcat · 01/10/2006 21:11

I think at a push I might have to say that my favourite club is The Cross.

mumfor1standfinaltime · 01/10/2006 21:15

Happyface - Go out and have fun. Nightclubs are for dancing and drinking too, not just pulling! I have been going clubbing since I was 17, I am now 29. Obviously I can't go out as much now due to ds.
I have been with dh since I was 17 and I go to clubs for fun with friends, have a boogie and get drunk!
Maybe your dh is feeling a bit jealous. Why not get someone to babysit at a later date and take him clubbing?!

zoeuk1 · 01/10/2006 21:28

i still go clubbing! im nearly 35. a couple of weeks ago a group of us went out and even ended up in the kebab shop at the end of the night carrying our shoes. we had such a laugh! who cares what anyone else thinks.

DarrellRivers · 02/10/2006 13:27

TC and GoSl, The Cross was one of our faves, small, intimate venue, but also used to love Malibu Stacy @Hanover Grand, and had a few hard and sweaty nights at Turnmills (it was always a bit too hard for DH)
Good to hear the Cross is still going strong LOL

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