How far is too far (vagina from clitoris)?

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So I am reading this article at the daily mail:www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2783791/The-vaginal-orgasm-doesn-t-exist-s-clitoris-holds-key-female-pleasure-study-claims.html
and on one hand I am relieved to hear that many women if not most cannot have orgasm just through the penetrative sex. I have never orgasmed with my DH and he does not want to touch me there. I find it more exciting on the top (because it is close to my clitoris and he does not do on the top of me) but it is even more exciting for him. Catch 22.
From the article, the study found that in women who have orgasm problems, the clitoris is smaller and located farther from the vagina. How do I know my clitoris is too small or a normal size? It is not like measuring a penis, yeah? Also how far from vagina is too far?
If I show this article to my DH he might say you cannot orgasm because your clitoris is too far from your vagina (right, as he really knows the distance) or the clitoris is too small (again as he really knows the size; he has not seen it and has not touched for years; bloody lazy). He is not too bothered about me not having orgasms as he thinks having a nice time is as good but I want an orgasm! Luckily I can please myself but that is different.
I am continuing reading the article.

I think the problem is with your DH, not your clitoris.

My eyes!

It's only Tuesday.

The problem isn't your clitoris OP; It is your unbelievably selfish Husband!

The majority of women do not orgasm from vaginal penetration. You cannot orgasm because your husband just wants to pump away and have his pleasure. The clitoris can't be "too small" that little nub that you can see is just part of a far larger organ underneath!

If your husband isn't bothered about your orgasms; then I wouldn't be too bothered about his, and I would be letting him see to himself from now on! What a pig he is.

I'm slightly baffled that you're spending time trying to work out your exact anatomical measurements when your main problem is a DH who doesn't care about your needs!

I am quite baffled by that article as well. The clitoris is the key to female pleasure? Well hold the front page there Daily Fail; we really had no idea.

Jesus wept.

OP can I suggest that next time you're having sex, you stop before he comes, and say "thank you, I've had a nice time, now let's go to sleep. Night night, hope you enjoyed it". Then maybe he'll start to understand!

Well if he doesn't want to "touch you there" he shouldn't be shoving his clock in"there" either should he! He sounds like a complete twat.

As for the article, I do wish male "experts" would stop telling women what they do and don't feel! Vaginal and clitoral orgasms are very different, and some women DO orgasm through sex!

Click not fucking clock stupid arse autocorrect.

Hah! COCK!

These sorts of articles make me so mad. I get sick of women being told (by men) how they should and shouldn't experience pleasure. When was the last time you read an article telling men how their orgasm should be? Never, that's when!

From the biological pov' you might like to read Bonk: the curious coupling of science and sex by Mary Roach (published 2008) which describes the extensive work by early sexologists on relationship between size/location of clitoris and 'ease' of orgasm.

(Nice to see the Mail being about a century late with the 'news')

But, anatomical detail aside, your issue isn't your body, it's an unsympathetic and inconsiderate DH. Has he always been like this?

Can I suggest a good pair of marigolds?

There's nothing wrong with your clitoris.
Your problem is that your husband is a twunt.

Buy an intimidatingly large vibrator... One of those "real" looking ones. Tell him if he doesn't buck his ideas up then its the only thing going in you from now on.

Although seriously, buy a vibrator and use it during sex.

How weird and selfish is your husband? ! Why did you marry him?? I'd get a decent lover and stop having sex with him.

OP your h is a selfish git. I like Jollyphonics idea.

Thank you ladies. I have just read your comments and know what you mean. I know there is nothing wrong with it for sure. It makes me not only angry but also sad because I am not getting younger. Those articles or scientific studies are never fully on our side. He used to touch me before we got married (9 years ago) and after having children I have been fed with excuses. No real effort to understand my body. I like the idea of ending it earlier so he would feel how it is. I told him that sometimes I don't understand whether he is stupid or selfish or both of it. He is a very educated person but not in this area and I wish he would at least read something to improve but he probably thinks he knows everything. Night-night :) Those explanations in the article re size and distance are rather pathetic and will do even more harm to women than good.

"I have never orgasmed with my DH and he does not want to touch me there."

That is one of the saddest things I have ever read on this site.

What does he think is so wrong with your body that he won't touch it where you need to be touched? Why does he not care that you enjoy sex with him properly? If his orgasms are important to him why are yours not?

Quite honestly, this kind of selfish behaviour should have gone out with the bloody arc.

The Daily Fail's article has absolutely nothing to do with your sex life because you don't effing-well have one. Well, not with him, that is.

What do you think would happen if you demanded the same pleasure from intercourse that he does?

OOOH! I'm really quite cross on your behalf.

everydayfeminism.com/2012/11/top-5-questions-about-the-female-orgasm-answered/

May be helpful. You're normal. Your husband is selfish.

Can you bring yourself to orgasm? If you can then there is no earthly reason he can't learn to as well. I'd make it very clear that the days of his selfish lazy arse ways are over.

However, you need to have a word with yourself lady, for putting up with this bullshit for so bloody long. Why has it been acceptable for him to behave this way? Why have you not prioritised your pleasure? It's unlikely that this level of selfishness is confined to the bedroom.

OP I don't think he needs to read about it. I think he just needs to ask you what you like, and do it. It's not rocket science. Millions of people the world over manage just fine!

What on earth is his problem with touching your clitoris?

Technically, he is touching you there but just isn't inclined when it isn't all about him. Time to get angry!