So tonight I went to see my DP because he had texted me to tell me he couldn't take my children to school on Monday, I had then posted a Facebook message asking if anyone could help me (not mentioning he had let me down) and then when I texted him later to ask if he had a nice evening I was met with a stony silence.
I dropped in on him because he has done this before and I hate it (not let me down on childcare but he has, I suppose, disapproved of something I have done and then I get the silent treatment). I have sensed something has been wrong for a while and that he isn't happy and just wanted to talk to him.
When I popped over he was obviously not happy I had turned up but we talked and I asked him if he was happy and he said not really. He said he doesn't know what is wrong but he has had partners who he has stopped caring about and then been horrible to them and he doesn't want to be horrible to me. This says it all to me. He has stopped caring and I have forced the issue and he has admitted 'he is not that into me' (he has not actually said that but that is what it means).
He has been through a really big life changing event in the last year which I can't go in to and I have been his rock (his words), he loves me but he doesn't know what is wrong just that there is something missing.
I fully accept that I cannot change that. I can't be something I am not or change something about myself to make up for that missing piece. There is nothing i can do to make him feel differently and I have to accept that. I am. however, devastated. I thought he was 'the one', he proposed to me in the summer and we are meant to be getting married next year.
I am writing this shell shocked in many ways although, in a way, I sensed that there was something wrong. I am going to give him some space but I am now faced with the task of contacting the Register Office etc and cancelling the wedding and I just feel so sad about this being the end. I start a new job on Monday and am all over the place and just wish that, for once, life could be kind to me and my kids instead of dealing me one shitty hand after another.