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Husband's new haircut

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Toastandstrawberryjam · 25/09/2014 12:01

What's the polite thing to say when your husband seems to be sporting a new hair style that makes him look ridiculous.

Background here is our marriage is almost over, teetering on the edge of an abyss. Has been bad for years. So frankly I don't notice him much these days, but I can't stop noticing his hair.

It's not just me. The DC have commented, so have family and friends. To him and also to me...... In a WTF kind of way.

I get that it's not really my place to say anything but frankly my DC are embarrassed (and yeah I know parents do embarrass children all the time). And yes I would be shocked if he said something to me about my style, but also I would hate to think people were finding me amusing in that way.

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NorwaySpruce · 25/09/2014 12:05

We'll, I'd say nothing. It doesn't sound as though you have the kind of relationship where it would be appropriate.

Having said that, I'd love to see the kind of haircut that warrants a post in Relationships Grin.

Any clues?

minkymuskyslyoldstoaty · 25/09/2014 12:07

does it resemble the previous poster's user name?

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Toastandstrawberryjam · 25/09/2014 12:08

I wasn't sure where would be best to put it! Maybe I should get it moved? But it is a relationships problem in a way.

It's hard to explain (and I'm worried I might out myself in RL) but basically it's v curly but he's letting it grow long on top so it's fluffy and bush like. Short at sides. It's growing up, looks bizarre. Makes his head look long and him look about 10 years older.

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flipchart · 25/09/2014 12:08

Can the children say something to him?

chockbic · 25/09/2014 12:09

Is he going to the gym and wearing new aftershave too?

CogitoErgoSometimes · 25/09/2014 12:09

Curiosity is killing this cat as well I'm afraid. Just how bad can it be...? (Mullet? Comb-over? Lush ringlets?...)

VenusRising · 25/09/2014 12:10

Is it a Peter Stringfellow midlife crisis style? I wouldn't mention it tbh.

Sorry to hear your marriage is rocky toastandstrawbwperryjam.

Hope you're ok?

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Toastandstrawberryjam · 25/09/2014 12:10

Like a fuzzy short mullet I guess.

No gym, although he's on a perpetual diet and has bought a lot of new clothes due to weight loss.

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 25/09/2014 12:11

Like this?

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Toastandstrawberryjam · 25/09/2014 12:11

I'm okay Venus. It's been rocky for a long time, I just lack the courage to jump over the edge.

There's a good chance this hairstyle may give me the incentive I need.

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Toastandstrawberryjam · 25/09/2014 12:12

Corgito - not as long as that. And shaved short at the sides. But it's kind of in that vein....

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VenusRising · 25/09/2014 12:12

Oh, a kind of a narrow cylinder shape with an effusion of hair at the top: like Marge Simpson?

chockbic · 25/09/2014 12:12

My aunty had a dog with the same hair/fur, Cog Grin

Do you think he's seeing someone else?

VenusRising · 25/09/2014 12:13

Glad you're ok, it's a sad time I think.
Take care of yourself.

CogitoErgoSometimes · 25/09/2014 12:13

Or this?

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Branleuse · 25/09/2014 12:14

just leave him already

You hate him, you hate his hair, and youre all embarrassed by him.

move on. Its his hair, his choice.

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Toastandstrawberryjam · 25/09/2014 12:14

Well it's not quite Marge Simpson yet but who knows if that's how it will end up.

I really can't imagine it is for anybody else.

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 25/09/2014 12:14

My old boss had a great response to this kind of thing... .

'My, my. That's a .... brave... haircut'

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Toastandstrawberryjam · 25/09/2014 12:16

That's exactly what my brother said to him!! Those same words. Water of a ducks back though...

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murphys · 25/09/2014 12:18

Oh is it one of those new fandangled hairstyles the big kids are all wearing now.....

Although I haven't seen any curly tops with it, but its huge amount of hair on top and none on the sides and back....

The first time I saw one, I did a double take at the bloke...

Yes it makes their face look longer.

Are his new clothes all high fashion OP?

ouryve · 25/09/2014 12:18

I think your inability to find a way to discuss his hairstyle with him is indicative that your relationship is probably more than rocky. In a healthier relationship, you'd probably be comfortable just telling him straight what you think and he'd be able to hear it from you without feeling picked on.

I ordered some leggings the other week. They were lovely over the legs and a really nice fabric. Then DH pointed out that they gave me a cameltoe. They went straight back, no feelings hurt, because our relationship is strong enough that we can say those things and take them as intended.

ouryve · 25/09/2014 12:21

He probably asked for this.

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Toastandstrawberryjam · 25/09/2014 12:23

That's exactly what it's like. Only fuzzy. And he doesn't look like that.

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TeamScotland · 25/09/2014 12:23

Not so much a hair do as a hair don't, then?

murphys · 25/09/2014 12:28

I bet that hairdo takes more upkeep than mine... Is there lots of gel and wax too OP?