Husband may be cheating?

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Am I paranoid? DH has started keeping his phone on him at all times. He used to come home from work and put everything from his pockets on top his chest of drawers, but now it's just keys & wallet with mobile in his pocket. He's started only charging it at night as well. He's going out with work colleagues and traveling more than normal.

If he gets home late he sleeps in the spare room to not disturb me (normal) as we have a young child, but always used to leave his phone on charge downstairs - now phone and charger are with him in spare bedroom.

After a very odd weekend of never seeing the phone and him acting aggressive when I asked to borrow it because mine was in the boot, this morning I got up to check it while he was showing and realised he'd taken it into the bathroom with him?!

I just have a horrible feeling something is going on.

I'm sorry OP. Actions definitely speak louder than words.

I believe if he has an iPhone there's a way to restore or access the deleted messages. I know you don't need "proof" at this point but if he tries to offer the phone to you again you can take it and check anyway.

I'm sorry you've been proved right, but now you have your answer you can start to deal with it. And however painful that is, it's better than being in limbo.
Right, in all probability he will soon be back with his tail between his legs, begging you to forgive him. Do you have a plan for dealing with this?

Best of luck OP, you've handled it in a textbook way! He doesn't deserve you.

Oh I'm sorry OP.
But you've handled everything so well.
Please look after yourself now.
Keep hydrated and your sugar levels up.
for you.

It's not popular to say this on MN, but if there's a lack of sex, then you are making your partner 'vulnerable' to an affair, if nothing else.

What a load of utter shit! Dh & I have both been through times where we didn't want sex & guess what...neither of us felt pushed to find it elsewhere.

Men cheat because they are selfish & want sex! Not other reason.

But if it makes you feel better to blame the person who is being cheated on, carry on. You still won't be right.

I'm only stating facts (as told to me by a marriage counsellor) Your marriage counsellor was crap.

I'm sorry OP but not surprised.

That 10 min window was to clean his phone before giving it to you - but you already know that.

Unless he is prepared to come clean and be honest there's no real hope here.

At this point I think you can say"it's over" or you can say "you have one last chance to tell me the truth and there is a possibility if you do that we can work through this. But any lies and it's over"

Personally the fact he is still hiding from you doesn't look good - but it's up to you now to think if you want to give it one last chance

Onelastfling-it's not a popular opinion anywhere because it's horse shit. Don't sprout that crap here and reinforce the idea that women are mens playthings and the poor darlings aren't in control of themselves.

It's insulting to both men and women and is of no value at all to anyone here but especially the OP.

OP, don't doubt yourself now. Unfortunately he's shown you how much he values you. He is pathetic to think you will fall for this. Please have the strength to put yourself first. The future is different than you imagined but sometimes different is much better.