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Hair Down There

227 replies

Oowhachamacallit · 21/09/2014 21:42

OK girls, I have a new relationship and will be dtd hopefully! What is the protocol for Hair Down There?? I'm late 40's but trim and fit but haven't got a clue about what to do? Trim, shave, hairy? Whats a girl to do??

Answers on a postcard please!

OP posts:

pigsDOfly · 22/09/2014 00:53

I thought that was Mary Quant with the pink heart shaped pubes Mooth.

Surely nobody trimmed or shaped their pubes in Jayne Mansfields time, even film stars.

jogonby · 22/09/2014 01:01

My DP expects no hair,hes in his 40s and is also shaved. The same as OP, we met in our 40s and didnt know what to expect but what a relief when we realised we agreed (i look back to not that long ago when i just trimmed, and am appalled at the thought of anything). Hes talked to his younger colleagues, all of whom have never seen a pube on a girl!

handfulofcottonbuds · 22/09/2014 01:35

I was feeling low but some of the comments on here have made me smile so much! Sorry OP.

I don't think there's a 'fashion' apart from the 70s style.

Do what makes you feel comfortable.

Shall I throw something else in? It might also depend on the style of your female bits as to whether a complete wax would suit.

Milllie · 22/09/2014 01:47

Just have it neat and tidy. Can't go wrong.

ScrambledeggLDCcakeBOAK · 22/09/2014 02:03

Not read any of the replies yet but my advice would be.

Do whatever you would normally do but if you normally sport a luscious garden Maybe give it a trim so it not too too wild.

I personally see nothing wrong with getting rid of as much as you want if you fancy it though!

But as I see it there is no point in getting rid if you are going to feel uncomfortable/embarrassed cos then you won't have fun having fun!

Prob tmi but I get rid of everything have done since I was 18ish (I'm 30 now) not for fashion just because that's how I like it.

ScrambledeggLDCcakeBOAK · 22/09/2014 02:20

oow

I don't know why people have given you a hard time

I think your just worried about being "out of touch" with the dating scene and didn't want to be embarrassed if you'd got laughed at

Am I right?

Just so you know though if that is the issue and someone did laugh at you then they aren't the right one for you!

Good luck with your possible new man op

TsukuruTazaki · 22/09/2014 02:39

Am I the only one who finds it a bit weird that your work colleagues are discussing this in the office If a male colleague randomly commented that women under 25 are all bare I would really think ew, he is a letchy porn lover if he genuinely believes that's true and I would just think wtf are you stating this in the office!

itsbetterthanabox · 22/09/2014 03:09

Jogonby when you say your dp 'expects' no hair and then say you used to have some do you mean he told you to remove your hair? Don't base all men on one man. His work colleagues aren't representative. Of my friends and many people who I've talked to on this very, very few have no hair at all.

ScrambledeggLDCcakeBOAK · 22/09/2014 03:34

tsukuru

Yep it is a bit but then I suppose it depends on if it was random or if it was a topic of discussion

myusernameis · 22/09/2014 03:47

Your work colleague is a liar or a very inexperienced young man who watches far too much porn.

I can't say me and my friends have ever sat and had a chat about pubic fashion. I'm 27 if that is relevant.

Do whatever you feel most comfortable with.

AuntieStella · 22/09/2014 05:57

Is a man who really likes yo going to be out off by pubic hair?

And as OP says she's late 40s, she might not want to look menopausal by having the bare pubis (a normal of the signs of ageing).

FolkGirl · 22/09/2014 06:59

What's this 'modern woman' nonsense?

Are people so shallow and insecure that their personal preferences and tastes are dictated by strangers and changeable with the seasons? Really?

MrsDavidBowie · 22/09/2014 07:01

I am lasered at sides and have a Brazilian.

SnookyPooky · 22/09/2014 07:18

I'm 45 and I shave, all of it off. I live in a hot country and find I like it better this way. My husband couldn't care less about it.

yougotafriend · 22/09/2014 07:38

I dye the grey hair on my head as I don't want to look at.

I shave the hair down there as it is, also mail grey and I don't want to look at that either!!

I'm 48, head hair started going grey at 22 so I realise grey pubes aren't usually an issue for women my age

Lordnoobson · 22/09/2014 07:39

Yup. Welcome to mumsnet. I'm reporting

heinrichvonkleist · 22/09/2014 07:47

I always think shaved completely looks pubescent and it doesn't attract me at all. I did once shave and it was so uncomfortable within two days I wished I hadn't. It's a big commitment to get rid of it all continually ... does laser actually work?

TerribleMother · 22/09/2014 07:57

I agree with scrambledegg. You've been given a hard time, when I think you just didn't want to appear 'out of touch', if there was maybe a current trend, which, tbf you aren't going to find out about unless you ask, as it's not something which you can see a wide range of just by walking down the street (like for example hairstyles). And as it's possibly not something you'd ask your work colleagues or even friends if you are of the easily embarrassed type, then an anonymous forum can come in handy for getting opinions.

But to answer your question (I think), doing what feels best for you, is the way to go. I have a full Brazilian wax every six weeks, and my husband does like it, as do I. But he'd not give a tiny jot if I decided to stop having it done, if I decided I didn't want to, however that is how I prefer it, so that's what he gets! As an aside, the only positive thing to come from chemo was that my pubic hair just stopped growing and I saved myself some money for a few months.

pinkfrocks · 22/09/2014 08:17

AuntStella- not all women lose their pubes after menopause! Maybe in their 80s but hey- give us a chance!

AuntieStella · 22/09/2014 08:40

Not all, but it's both normal and frequent.

JuniorMumber · 22/09/2014 09:04

Now you've settled the 'what to do with your pubes question' - have you decided whether or not you are going to bleach your a**shole?

noddyholder · 22/09/2014 09:10

I think the OP is genuine I have had a similar convo with a mate who has recently been dating again after a 21 yr marriage ended She was just worried about the whole thing and was focussing on stuff like this We laughed and went through various options and I thanked The Lord I didn't have to brave that world again

PurpleWithRed · 22/09/2014 09:11

Whatever else you do, make sure it's squeaky clean but well rinsed so it doesn't taste of soap.

(Or shall we move on to a discussion about flavours?)

Redrosesplease · 22/09/2014 09:16

Just do whatever you feel comfortable with.

Can't imagine why any woman would want to change their own personal habits to please a man (and vice versa). It is the 21st century you know.

LoisPuddingLane · 22/09/2014 09:21

I've had conversations on dating websites that have ground to a screeching halt when a man announces he likes to "eat from a clean plate" or similar. I'm not deforesting for anyone. Also, "clean" is often used as a synonym for "hairless" and my foresty bower is very, very clean.

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