After a long and unhappy marriage to an abusive man I'd finally had enough and filled in all the papers and was completely certain I would go ahead with it. I showed H the paperwork with the UBs listed as I want him to sign and not contest and he said he would.
He has been complaining of a continuous sore throat make worse by shouting at me, which of course is my fault 
for weeks and he came out of the bathroom that afternoon white and told me he had coughed up some blood. He was completely freaked and saw the GP Monday who has booked him in for emergency tests. I believe him but I am gutted as leaving someone who may have cancer is awful. If I did go my DD who has a disabled child would be obliged to help him out or arrange things for him if i didn't do this. There is no one else near capable of helping him in any way but he is still telling me to leave.
I had already booked an estate agent yesterday who gave me good news about the value of our house and H informed me that his 'investor' would pay me half the maximum value which is a great deal for me. The penny finally dropped with this woman who would buy me out as he mentioned she had to drive up from *. The only person I know lives there is his ex fiancé from years ago who he found on friends reunited! The bastard has always held her up as perfect and unfavourably compared me to her. I don't particularly care but angry that i will feel guilty if I leave and hate him even more if I stay.
Does it sound reasonable to stay until he has a diagnosis and take it from there? It shouldn't take long. He says he doesn't want my help but I think this is bloody mindedness. We are not even speaking as he says it will hurt his throat but it doesn't stop him swigging whiskey!